Do you feel that parents are too permissive with their children nowadays?

ANGEL 2012/10/24 02:40:09
There are so many different philosophies when it comes to raising children. Sometimes, religion dictates the way in which you raise your children. Many families I know who are Christian, can be quite strict when it comes to child rearing. (This is not a negative comment - just a personal observation). In Scientology, there are courses on how to raise children, and this includes putting boundaries there, being very definite as a parent and not waffling. Children need boundaries and guidelines - but it is also important, as they get older, to listen to them and also take their wishes into account.

Years ago, some parents had the philosophy that children should be seen and not heard. While I don't think that most parents still follow those rules -- it just seems that today parents give children too much leeway - and the children, in general, are out of control. What is the happy medium between being too strict and being too permissive?

Do you feel that parents are too permissive with their children nowadays?

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  • Beat Magnum True Hero 2012/10/24 17:30:28
    Beat Magnum True Hero
    In general? Not really. Most parents I know are as structured as mine were. The ones we see are the ones who are permissive, because the behavior stands out in our memory. I do think that the current brand of "permissive" parenting (it's always existed, but in different flavors) is particularly annoying.
  • D D 2012/10/24 16:37:55
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  • darlene 2012/10/24 12:38:25
    Yes, my husband and I are guilty and suffering the consequences from being too permissive. bad parents
  • memebev1 darlene 2012/10/28 13:36:21
    You are sure not the only parents to be permissive with your children!!
  • KoAm 2012/10/24 12:37:15
    >>>Many families I know who are Christian, can be quite strict when it comes to child rearing. <<<

    Guess you haven't spent much time in Korea or Japan, then -- where lots of parents are strict, and few of them are Christian.
  • ANGEL KoAm 2012/10/24 13:24:04
    I wasn't saying that only Christians are strict - I was saying that most of the families I know can be strict. It is true that how strict a parent may be can also be influenced by one's nationality, as well as their religion. No - I've never been in Korea or Japan, although my neighbors are Korean and I would consider that they are quite strict.
  • 3052457 2012/10/24 04:48:02
  • ANGEL 3052457 2012/10/24 13:25:44
    While I wouldn't compare children to dogs, I do agree with you that consistency is key.
  • 3052457 ANGEL 2012/10/24 13:53:36
  • ANGEL 3052457 2012/10/24 14:22:50
    I checked your profile and I'm not surprised you aren't a parent. Next to "children" you noted "undecided". Perhaps you might consider raising dogs instead of children. But still I must concede that you are correct on this point -- there is a correlation in that consistency is key in both child rearing and when training a dog.
  • 3052457 ANGEL 2012/10/24 14:42:20
  • ANGEL 3052457 2012/10/24 14:49:43
    All right then. Can we agree you should forego raising children then? While some children certainly behave like animals, they still fall into the "human" category.
  • 3052457 ANGEL 2012/10/24 15:37:34
  • ANGEL 3052457 2012/10/25 02:50:00
    You could be right.
  • Jerry (Iron Priest)☮ R ☮ P ☮ 201
    Most parents are. It makes it very hard to raise a responsible child. Nobody is teaching responsibility anymore and we've become zombies to the system. We're idiots and our children are lost. Just keep nodding your heads "yes" at those television sets. This isn't even America anymore; were just a bunch of programmed idiots that follow instructions from the T.V.
  • CoyoteDirt 2012/10/24 03:59:47
    Yes and my husband is one of them X-).
  • jubil8 BN-0 PON 2012/10/24 03:59:39
    jubil8 BN-0 PON
    Some, yes, some, no -- but the general drift is more and more toward yes. Unfortunately.

    Everyone wants their children to have more than they did. Striking a balance between giving and not over-giving is tough. "I'm the only kid in the neighborhood who doesn't have a..." can be hard for parents to handle.
  • sockpuppet 2012/10/24 03:59:34
    I just think they're mostly absent from the home... I'm not even sure that kids today are any worse than they were when I was young. Most of the ones in my suburb are pleasant and respectful, or at least within normal limits.
  • Rust 2012/10/24 03:15:11
  • tommyg - POTL- PWCM-JLA 2012/10/24 02:54:01
    tommyg - POTL- PWCM-JLA
    Yes. I still have one in school and she's pretty active in sports and other school activities, so we're there as a family a couple times a week.

    I see it everywhere. It is a battle to make sure my daughter is well grounded and respectful.
  • MarinerFH 2012/10/24 02:41:55

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