Do You Believe the Saying 'Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater'?

by The Big Question Posted 2012/11/15 21:56:43

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	Yes	201 votes	61%
	No	130 votes	39%

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Trini 2012/11/21 07:50:17

No

Only if you're caught.

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mizzSHADYgirl 2012/11/16 22:32:23

Yes

Most of the time yes, but there are some exceptions to the rule. I wouldn't forgive easily if i got cheated on.

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MsDianna 2012/11/16 21:22:50

No

have to go on living and not do it again. we've all made mistakes

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A. J. Kenner 2012/11/16 21:17:52

Yes

Those who do it again and again and don't get caught, get drunk on the idea that they ill NEVER be caught, but everybody....EVERYBODY....makes that ONE critical mistake, that ends it all.

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Liset 2012/11/16 19:19:12

No

No, definitely not. I don't like cheating because you will get HIV and you can definitely be sorry for an affair.

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gbruneaulanglois 2012/11/16 18:56:04
Jesse to gbrunea... 2013/01/04 18:44:36

So true, I suppose I am getting payback! When I was younger I was the back door man for several married woman that needed a little extra. Now I'm the married guy with the wife that has a back door man. When I was the B.D.M. I new that I stood a chance of getting my ass kicked if the husband came home early, so now I feel that when I catch this dude and cripple him, I will not be in the wrong!

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✞Knight of Honor 2012/11/16 16:20:27

Yes

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If your partner cheats on you, you need to drop them in a heartbeat.

As for dating someone who has cheated on others depends on the context. While some people make reforms, most people will continue to be disloyal.

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brooking heart 2012/11/16 15:12:42

Yes

always and always

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Swartzy 2012/11/16 13:20:26

Yes

+1
'JakeIsHere' couldn't have said it better.

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Butch 2012/11/16 09:58:24

No

No, that's about as silly as the saying Baptists have, "once saved always saved." Both are ridiculous concepts.

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Scarlett 2012/11/16 08:59:55

No

people change

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Milady 2012/11/16 08:53:15

Yes

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I have trust issues. If someone cheated on me, I'd never be able to trust them again, so they wouldn't be given another chance to repeat their performance.

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JakeisHere 2012/11/16 08:23:23 (edited)

Yes

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If I murdered someone I would always be a murderer, if I won a Super Bowl, I would always be a Super Bowl Champion, why the double-standard with Cheaters? You might not cheat on every partner, but once you have done it once you're a cheater in my mind.

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marika 2012/11/16 08:04:36

No

no it canhappen to you ,,falling for a ''taken'' person
but i would go for the known cheaters ,, once is ''specialy for you''
more is go see a gynoologist

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JenSemPa 2012/11/16 05:33:48

No

It depends on the person; it also depends on age and other factors.

Someone who cheats on their boyfriend/girlfriend when they're 18 or 19 may very well not fall under the "always a cheater" rule when they're 35 or 40.

An uncle of mine had an affair once many years ago. (I was a little kid at the time and didn't hear about it until years later.) He and my aunt (his wife) reconciled and he never cheated again.

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Luv♥Luv 2012/11/16 05:28:33
Eddie 2012/11/16 05:28:14

No

No. A person can change their behavior. Now 2 or 3 times a cheater, then yeah that person probably isn't very committed to changing.

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Red Branch 2012/11/16 05:23:52

No

Odds favor it, but it is not a given.

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Jaiheena Star 2012/11/16 05:16:55

No

A person can change his/her ways. Some people will never be faithful to just one person, faithfulness is not in their personality.

Some people have not meant the right person, or really have given anyone a chance at love.
Love is tricky and means different thigns to people. Believe it or not many relationships cannot surviive without others outside affairs.

What is called "cheating" might be normal to some.

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Papillon 2012/11/16 05:00:59

Yes

Why is this even a question? Of course they are. Just like gays can't become straight; blacks can't become white, con men can't become honest...there are just some things that are fact and can't be argued with.

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Al B Thayer 2012/11/16 04:23:56

Yes

Oh he'll yes.

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Carol lian 2012/11/16 04:18:30

Yes

it's their lifestyles and habit. It's hard to changes even when they get married.. I hit on that

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addie 2012/11/16 03:50:39

Yes

People can change, but it is pretty rare, especially with liars and cheaters.

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Papillon to addie 2012/11/16 05:03:17

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Sure. They can change their clothes; change a tire; change their hair color and the food they eat but they will never quit cheating; it isn't in their toolbox to change that.

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addie to Papillon 2012/11/16 13:25:12

And they cannot change that they cheated. I'm with you.

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Papillon to addie 2012/11/16 16:27:21

+1
Exactly. Can't unring a bell.

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Christopher Kirchen 2012/11/16 03:46:38

No

People can sometimes mature.

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Papillon to Christo... 2012/11/16 05:05:42

Ohhhhh, I don't think so.

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Jerry (Iron Priest)☮ R ☮ P ... 2012/11/16 03:25:18

No

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Because I've proven it to be false. Have those who answered yes proven their point? No, they haven't. No wins.

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Papillon to Jerry (... 2012/11/16 05:06:46

+1
WTF?!?!?!?!?!

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Jerry (... to Papillon 2012/11/16 06:22:48 (edited)

I cheated many years ago on a previous lover, just once when she was showing little interest.

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addie to Jerry (... 2012/11/16 13:27:18

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Sounds like you are blaming your then lover. If you do not take responsibility how can you change? You can't.

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Jerry (... to addie 2012/11/16 14:45:27

Um, I did. She wasn't putting out and seemed like she was losing interest. I had needs. Of course it was my own fault but she shares the blame.

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juicebox07 to Jerry (... 2012/11/16 22:39:49

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Are you seriously putting blame on the person you cheated on? You sound like a manipulator. A person never deserves being cheated on. If you are unhappy in a relationship and your needs aren't being met, you LEAVE, not cheat. Simple as that. Take responsibility for your actions instead of putting blame on someone else.

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Jerry (... to juicebox07 2012/11/16 23:27:34

Look you jackasses. It was 30 freakin years ago. You people are nuts.

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addie to Jerry (... 2012/11/17 02:41:22

I was making a simple point, you are being very defensive.

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Jerry (... to addie 2012/11/17 04:00:44

+1
It's very upsetting to be accused of being some kind of scum. I was practically a kid; I learned and became a good and loving man.

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addie to Jerry (... 2012/11/17 05:31:58

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Fair enough. I was not accusing you of being, "scum," really. And I believe you are different now, I was only saying you did not take responsibility in the way you describe the situation. You mean you used bad judgement because you were young, but you grew up?
That much anyone can relate too, I hope. B)

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Jerry (... to addie 2012/11/17 05:39:24 (edited)

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At the same time though, it would have never happened if the girl I loved was there. You have got to understand, she was wrong too. I take full responsibility for my actions but we men need security too. Often both parties are wrong.

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