Do You Believe Men Really Want To Get Married As Much As Women Do.?

You say were very happy. Is your husband deceased.? There is a difference between morals, devotion, being in love, being sexually content, still finding your spouse physically attractive. I'm very happy for your long lasting marriage. Women seek different reasons for getting married, or staying married. Some women are happy to be provided for, take care of their children, love being home makers, close their eyes to their spouse's business affairs, or sexual affairs as long as they keep the wife financially and sexually satisfied. My husband made a lot of money, but he spent too much money foolishly often behind my back. He was very generous with expensive gifts to me. He had a very wild restless streak. When we first married he was a merchant ship's officer gone for months at a time. He definitely was not a home body type. We had beautiful homes, but we often moved and traveled, some pluses some minuses. I often enjoyed his being gone because I was involved in the Arts, creating oil paintings, having private shows, winning many awards. I also played piano, also very active with my children. I could have been contented if he was not sometimes physically abusive to me. This would happen when we argued. He did whatever he wanted to do. I did not grow up in a family of divorce, but he grew up with an abusive father, married three times, a mother who left when he was 8 years old. She was also very wild, took off for years, never contacting her own relatives. I gained much travel experience, lived overseas, had many happy times, often lived a rich life, but my husband's wild restlessness, ruined, destroyed not just our marriage but hurt my children terribly. I had to take over the whole burden. When learning about Bipolar illness, I now believe he had lack of impulse control. His father told me how after high school he would disappear around the country never contacting his own father. This same behavior continued into our marriage.

The word is crazy.! broken, abusive former home life, even genetics. That did happen to me. My husband was a very educated man, ambitious, too ambitious, never enough material goods for him. I was 22, he was 23 when we married. He had a real wild streak, sports cars, expensive taste, often drank too much, gambled too much. We traveled around the world, lived in foreign countries, always on the move. At first it was great adventure, good living. We had three children. We owned three beautiful homes in late 1960's, 1970's and 1980's. My relatives never knew of the physical, verbal, abuse I took, plus his many long absences from home. Sometimew business, other times who knows.? He came from a broken home, his father married three times, his mother was wild , left when he was 8 years old. She just disappeared from all her relatives, restless just as her son. I came from a very old fashioned European background where divorce was taboo. He had no care losing money, a real personable manipulator. He had very low impulse control, never consulted with me about much, did what he wanted to do. Years later I realized about Bipolar Illness, which now I believe ran in his family. He never thought about who he hurt, yet i don't believe it was intentional. He did finally take off, not for another woman, he just burnt himself out. He did not just leave me he broke ties with his own chidren. He saw them a few times when they were married, but never a relationship developed. I had to carry the whole burden, keep a normal life as possible for my kids, though he left us no house in the end. Sadly it cost me far too much emotionally. I was a great mother, but kids don't understand how much i had to do. My daughter often resents me though she is married with five children. She was 13 when all this went on.