Do you believe in spanking a child

by Sister Jean Posted 2008/04/23 20:22:12

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	Undecided	13 votes	7%
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DrTim 2008/04/23 20:42:04

no

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When my son was very small,he got into somthing.
I told him not to do it,and he did it again.
I got up, he saw me comming, and took off down the hall,further irritating me!
I chased him into his room, grabbed his arm, and "Wack"right on the diaper!
Well,it turned out his "Diaper" was FULL!
I splattered baby poop all over him,me,the wall,the,carpet,ect!
This gave me pause,and I looked up and said "OK God, I got your point"!!
I have never smacked another child since!!
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myfoxmy... to Vitalani 2012/06/17 03:53:08

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Sometimes the kid is testing you to see what he or she can get away with. When a child brazenly disobeys a parent, thinking he or she will get away with it, that's where corporal punishment fits. If a child did something out of ignorance or by accident, other methods are better choices. Spanking is a last resort.

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Vitalani to myfoxmy... 2012/06/17 03:55:13

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I do not believe spanking is ANY type of resort. I've raised children without it perfectly well.

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myfoxmy... to Vitalani 2012/06/17 04:12:46

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Vitalani, you've raised children, and you're only 21? Come on! I was just about to congratulate you, until I looked up your profile and saw your age. I hate to call your bluff, but seriously? You raised kids from the time they were born to the time they became adults, and you're only 21?

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Vitalani to myfoxmy... 2012/06/17 04:27:11 (edited)

I have worked as a live in nanny for years -_- yes, raising other people's children and have been perfectly successful. Don't play the age card, I mean really.

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myfoxmy... to Vitalani 2012/06/17 04:39:57

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Well, in that case, that's different. They're not your own kids, which is another story. I won't lay a hand if the child is not my own, unless I'm either a stepdad, a foster or adoptive dad, or an uncle...and it would have to be a last resort for something serious. A nanny may be someone in charge, but not a parent. There is a huge difference between a nanny and a parent...my best to you.

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Vitalani to myfoxmy... 2012/06/17 04:46:13

When I say I raised them I mean it. 24/7. Being a live in nanny is not the same as a babysitter. like I said, I raised them. Unless you have done it there is no way to understand.

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Arianne to Vitalani 2012/06/17 05:01:11

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I had a live in nanny but punishments came from my parents, not from her. You dont punish other people's kids

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Vitalani to Arianne 2012/06/17 19:37:51

I was expected to punish them.

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Cat 1017 to Vitalani 2012/06/17 14:09:37

+1
Hahahahahahahahahahh....

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Cat 1017 to Vitalani 2012/06/17 14:08:53

Hahahhahahahahaha....thats so special its amusing....LOL...

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wolfshadow 2012/06/17 03:33:52

yes

+2
The OMG don't spank your children morons are responsible for the state of our youth today.

I see you caught a moron.... yes no undecided... and someone HAD to choose none of the above.... guess you forgot the ketchup and mustard buttons...

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Jackie 2012/06/17 03:29:41

yes

+3
When time out or thaking away privileges, doesn't work then yes spank them NOY beat them

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myfoxmystere 2012/06/17 03:27:34

yes

+1
I believe in spanking a child under some serious circumstances. It's not a solution for everything, but a necessity in some situations.

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Jerry 2012/06/17 03:25:54

None of the above

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............. Even in my one and only marriage, We never had children, my ex wife did from a previous marriage, and both of Her sons were grown adults, ..........so this question would never apply to me..........and, I am now single, and intend to keep it this way...........

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Marcus Clark 2012/06/17 03:09:04

yes

+3
Only if you love your child. If you don't care about them and their future, go ahead and skip it.

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Jareth Majere 2012/06/17 02:46:58

yes

+3
to discipline, not beat or harm

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Magical Mushroom 2012/06/17 02:33:11

no

+3
As a child that was traumatized by the event I say no way in hell.

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myfoxmy... to Magical... 2012/06/17 03:56:27

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That's too bad that you got traumatized. I feel for those who got abused by someone.

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Vennie 2012/06/17 02:06:53

yes

+3
I do NOT believe in beating a child or smacking them around. However, a swat on the seat of the pants can and has done wonders for centuries. My daughter rarely acted up but if she did she knew she would get a swat--never in public, never on her bare skin, and never with anything but the flat of my hand. I can't help but wonder if ordinary spanking had not gone "out of vogue" if some peopel who have grown up selfish and spoiled might have turned out otherwise.

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wildcat 2012/06/17 01:46:36

yes

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However I believe that the time out chair is a better form of discipline, but parents do have the right to spank, not beat but spank.

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Lycaste skinneri 2012/06/17 01:34:53

yes

+3
My mom spanked me and I grew up as a good daughter and citizen, now when I see my brother being spoiled with her, I wonder why she didn't spank him too.

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myfoxmy... to Lycaste... 2012/06/17 04:30:11

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My dad didn't spank my older sister, but he spanked me and my older brother. My mother thought he was too soft on my sister. My mother didn't let anyone get away with a thing. She even mentioned to us that she even spanked our cousins when she was single, and baby sitting our uncles' and aunt's children in Japan. Some of my cousins from my mother's younger brother remember seeing her spank one of our cousins from my mother's older brother's family, after one of them acted like a brat. All of my cousins grew up just fine. None of them ever escaped my mother's wrath when they got out of line.

As for your mother, perhaps she is like my dad...hesitant to spank him because he is a child of the opposite sex?

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Lycaste... to myfoxmy... 2012/06/17 18:27:04

No, its just that she felt she was too hard with me, so she tried to be soft with her 2nd child (like a 2nd chance). I had bad times being spanked and I feel a little sad when I remember those days. I know she didn't want my brother to have those bad times as I did, because she already told me she didn't want to make the same mistakes, but I think that if she had been a little more strict with my brother he would at least obey her.

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JohnnyR... to Lycaste... 2012/06/17 21:27:42

Many times some of us tend to get more liberal as we age.
It is easier to not do the hard tasks as we get older and spanking the "right" way is not easy.

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Lycaste... to JohnnyR... 2012/06/18 05:19:38

+1
That's true also.

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den 2012/06/17 01:32:57

yes

+2
the Bible commands it-"spare the rod and spoil the child"- God knows more than Dr Spock like psychologists

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Jensenmk 2012/06/17 01:24:02

yes

+2
Spare the rod and spoil the child.

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Vennie to Jensenmk 2012/06/17 02:08:56

+1
A "rod" should never have anything to do with disciplining a child. A spanking on the seat of the pants is sufficient and I know of no person who has ever suffered physical injury from an ordinary spanking.

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Jensenmk to Vennie 2012/06/17 08:33:39

Let me aquaint you with an age old saying then.

I have both received and applied bare handed spankings; they serve to get one's attention and to reinforce the magnitude of the lesson to be learned.

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rknothead 2012/06/17 01:21:19

yes

+2
It's not the force of the spanking that's powerful, it's the action that speaks volumes to your kids about what's OK and what is not OK to do.

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Vennie to rknothead 2012/06/17 02:10:00

+1
Yes! My daughter considered a spanking more of an insult to her 4 year old dignity than something that hurt physically.

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Diana 2012/06/17 01:21:04

no

+2
I believe in punishment.Take away the phone or computer.Some parents go over board spanking.

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myfoxmy... to Diana 2012/06/17 03:45:11

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You're right that some go over board with spanking. It's meant to be a last resort, but some end up abusing their kids, which is sad.

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Miko Mikomiko 2012/06/17 00:56:55

no

+3
no

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RoseyRhod 2012/06/17 00:54:37

yes

+2
I can count on one hand the number of times that I spanked my son. I never did it hard enough to actually hurt him. One example is when he was three years old and I thought I had him right next to me while renting videos for us to watch. He slipped away and ran into the grocery store parking lot. What I did was not intended to inflict physical harm, it was to make him aware that he must never do such a thing because of the danger it presented. I also explained to him why he shouldn't do this. When a child is putting themselves in danger, mild corporal punishment can drive the point home. The only other time I did this was when he had been warned to stop doing something, given a second warning, and still didn't stop it.
No child should ever be hit hard enough to cause extreme physical pain or leave marks.

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Vennie to RoseyRhod 2012/06/17 02:13:08

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I agree with you 100%. You cannot "reason" with a toddler. An open handed one or two swat spanking through a child's clothes is not physically harmful, but it will get his or her attention when it's an emergency.

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Denny 2012/06/17 00:46:23

Undecided

+1
Lets just say I'm not a believer in being against it.

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Silent Bob 2012/06/17 00:38:25

no

+2
Violence isn't the answer.

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Sister ... to Silent Bob 2012/06/17 14:06:04

+1
agree

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Dagon 2012/06/17 00:30:25