Do You Believe In Lifelong Love?

love isnt a feeling its something you want to give to someone

yes but it isnt easy

She won't have anyone for five years when she's 85 and looks like a hag.

Funny! But, true.

If your asking of I believe in soulmates then no. I do believe that there is somone out there who is better suited for you. I believe you have a choice when it comes down to it, what you do with it is up to you.

My disbelief is not due to the Fool Cameron Diaz, but due to years of failure despite intense effort to find a Comapnion.
As for Diaz, there is NOTHING wrong with her that a Good Kick in the rear for thirty minutes can't correct!!!!!

@Able... LOL!!!!

I believe in Old Fashioned Methods!!!!!! ;D

These idiots in Hollywood have no clue and they are leading the way to destroy our morality. Love grows as you age with your mate, it's not always the same and changes as you mature. These idiots need to understand that love is not in your crotch, it is the whole being of your relationship that judges your love.

My wife and I have been married for 45 years and are looking forward to many more.

:D

Yep...I do.

my parents have been married for 22 years. their marriage is what i want mine to be like.

yes my aunt and uncle have been maried for 51 years now.!!!requires lot of trust though

Yes absolutely ...but I do have to “change” the person I give it to every few years , but from me its a continuous line...LOL

Then that is a "No," Franklin.

...I was kidding ! I am a one woman man , true I have had problems finding that one but I can never even think about focusing on more than “One” at a time. LOL

All I can say is when her looks go, she will be one lonely person.

hey it's what is inside that counts or should be.

You are right

If you find the right person it could last for life

It may not be for everyone, but for me and my wife of 35 years it's been great. We've had our ups and downs but our love remains strong. Maybe I was just lucky.

Congratulations. That is something to be proud of! :)

My parents were together for I think 30 years. My mom was constantly in the hospital and died a few days after their anniversary...if not the day after, I don't remember that well...twas a couple years ago. If that wasn't true love, I don't know what is. :) May your marriage remain strong!

I do believe there are couples that love each other from the day they marry until the day they die.

However these couples are few and far between. Many people get married too soon, or marry the wrong person. I'd say most of them, actually.

That's why I think marriage should automatically expire after five years. Couples should be required to renew their vows to keep their marriages going. But, if they aren't in love anymore, they can simply do nothing and let it expire.

I heard a comedian say this a few months ago. I feel you, and like i sort of like the idea. But if you feel that way... doesn't it make sense not to get married in the first place?

Yes. But, of course, people who get married never feel that way. Love makes people irrational and willing to do things they later regret, like life-long marriage (running into a burning building). Like all institutions, marriage needs emergency exits.

People change and grow apart it seems.Problem with many is they dont change.They want to be selfish and stay to themselves in their own little world.They want to get away with doing very little for their mate the longer they are together in some cases and not work at meeting each others needs.I been in a 9 yr relationship and seems we arent even trying anymore.Like we both given up on our relationship and we arent even married.Though it is harder really actually going thru ending it,since we live together and share half the bills,it would be pretty complicated to end it

While I believe we can have more than one love, it is healthier and life sustaining if we can cultivate the love we have and make it last a lifetime.

You can't cultivate love like crops. You either have it or you don't. If you don't then pretending you do is a total waste of time.

Yes, but it seems a lot of people rush to find that love. If people would slow down and not feel the urgency to find love, get married and have children, etc., I think they would be more likely to experience a few relationships and indeed most likely find love while doing so, but become more confident in what they feel is 'true love' or 'life long love'. If you rush into marriage with your high school sweetheart you may very well be missing out on the certain someone that you were meant to be with. Not that life long love cannot be had with your high school sweetheart, but that is such a limited selection at that young of age. Lots of life to live yet and people to meet.

I was married to a guy I went to school with and it lasted a very short time and we had 3 kids which neither of us have now.I think many people dont realize they really arent ready but think they are and I believed in being swept off my feet and living happily ever after but truth be told ,the fairy tale isnt true.In my case there is no happily ever after.What we felt may have been infatuation because honestly I thought I loved him and still do but true love doesnt brag,lie,steal,cheat,abuse. that was my ex.It surely dont expect one to do things they dont want to do.Being forced into things.To this day I dont understand true love because I seen so many marriages fall apart.I am not remarried but in a 9 yr live-in relationship and it truly sucks because after being not married and not getting a lot i expect i dont think i could marry this guy,honestly and he may see this on here but it seems my shot at love was doomed to fail with my ex and since i rushed into a marriage i knew was going to fail to rebel against my family,i am going to fail at ever being anyones wife again.seems pretty hopeless from my viewpoint.

I can empathize with you because I too married my first boyfriend. Had children and the whole bit. He was abusive, mostly mentally, and after many years of being told I was worthless and that I was lucky to have him, I started to believe it. I too felt that I was doomed to a life of misery without real love. I finally got the courage to leave him. I felt being alone for the rest of my life would be better than what I had. Then almost a year later I met the most wonderful man. I am with him still and he treats me with respect and loves me unconditionally. We were meant to be with one another. We laugh and wonder why we couldn't have met 20 years ago, but everything happens for a reason.

Please don't give up on finding your true love. More importantly, do not give up on yourself. Reach deep within yourself and find the confidence and self love that years of an abusive relationship can bury so deeply. You have it inside of you, don't be afraid!! I don't believe that you will fail at being a wife. It wasn't you that failed in the marriage, it was the relationship. After all, you have technically been someone's wife for 9 years now...you must be doing something right. =)

I don't get why some guys can abuse their girlfriend or cheat, if you're not happy why not just leave?

For most, it is a matter of control.

If only more people had it.

Ha. Ya, no kidding!! Self-control!!

(But just to be clear...I meant that the guy likes to control his girlfriend or wife.)

Well that too. I guese it's something I'll never understand. :/

Me either. I just stay clear of people like that now. =)

Good :) No one deserves to be abused.