Nope... Disobedience causes parents to spank... Yet again people are trying to find excuses...
I used to get a clip around the ear and a whack on my butt and I think I turned out fine... Maybe half the reason for kids being as terrible as they are nowadays is because spanking ISN'T allowed...
Do Parents Suffering From Depression Spank Their Kids More?
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2011/03/15 12:00:00
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While it's a lot less common than it used to be, a good number of dads still spank their little ones. And depression may have something to do with it.
In a recent survey, about 40 percent of depressed fathers said they spanked their 1-year-olds, versus just 13 percent of fathers who weren't depressed, The Associated Press reports. Overall, 15 percent of fathers had recently spanked their children.
Depression among fathers is strongly tied to unemployment rates, researchers say. Unemployed or not, today's fathers are increasingly spending time on child care, and some may be suffering from postpartum depression.
Chris Illuminati, a 33-year-old writer and stay-at-home dad who lives in New Jersey with his 1-year-old son, says when his son was a few months old, he began feeling unusually down, sleep-deprived, trapped and resentful.
He never spanked his son, but he could see how another father might lose control.
"There have been times where I've wanted to, but I've pulled back," Illuminati told the AP.
The American Academy of Pediatrics warns against spanking children of any age, with studies showing that kids who are spanked are at risk of being physically abused and becoming aggressive themselves.
Do you think depression leads dads to spank their kids? And does the same hold true for women?
In a recent survey, about 40 percent of depressed fathers said they spanked their 1-year-olds, versus just 13 percent of fathers who weren't depressed, The Associated Press reports. Overall, 15 percent of fathers had recently spanked their children.
Depression among fathers is strongly tied to unemployment rates, researchers say. Unemployed or not, today's fathers are increasingly spending time on child care, and some may be suffering from postpartum depression.
Chris Illuminati, a 33-year-old writer and stay-at-home dad who lives in New Jersey with his 1-year-old son, says when his son was a few months old, he began feeling unusually down, sleep-deprived, trapped and resentful.
He never spanked his son, but he could see how another father might lose control.
"There have been times where I've wanted to, but I've pulled back," Illuminati told the AP.
The American Academy of Pediatrics warns against spanking children of any age, with studies showing that kids who are spanked are at risk of being physically abused and becoming aggressive themselves.
Do you think depression leads dads to spank their kids? And does the same hold true for women?
Read More: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20110314/ap_on_he_me/us...
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Leia-Lou 2011/03/15 12:47:22
A depressed person will often take out their anger and frustration on those who are "safe" like a child or a dog, instead of the husband or a boss.
Mom beat the crap out of me -- because she felt guilty about not having taken me to the doctor, before she did, when I was ten....That guilt, along with her inability to admit she'd done anything wrong, caused her to see everything I did as wrong, so if I did anytikng wrong, I was beaten to the point of abuse.
On the other hand, Dad limited himself to making an impressoin. Mom wouldn't stop at ten or fifteen licks, but Dad stopped at three.
Depression has nothing to do with whether you spank your child or not.. It has everything to do with morals and with how you handle situations.... Too many people NOT on drugs for depression or who do not have depressions beat the living heck out of their kids.. I KNOW I use to work for those that monitored things like this. Even with the National Center For Youth Law who are the ones that put Government agencies in check to make sure that laws are followed regarding youth, and implementing those laws, there was nothing in there through all their data that showed depressed people beat their children.. In fact, it usually came down to upbringing being the cause along with alcohol and drug abuse as in street drugs....
a survey would have to be conducted on every living soul that has a child and who is officially depressed, which is an impossibility because most people that are depressed do not ...
Depression has nothing to do with whether you spank your child or not.. It has everything to do with morals and with how you handle situations.... Too many people NOT on drugs for depression or who do not have depressions beat the living heck out of their kids.. I KNOW I use to work for those that monitored things like this. Even with the National Center For Youth Law who are the ones that put Government agencies in check to make sure that laws are followed regarding youth, and implementing those laws, there was nothing in there through all their data that showed depressed people beat their children.. In fact, it usually came down to upbringing being the cause along with alcohol and drug abuse as in street drugs....
a survey would have to be conducted on every living soul that has a child and who is officially depressed, which is an impossibility because most people that are depressed do not even know it, or have not been diagnosed...
The world is going through serious upheavals... its global.. BUT if you wish to state something more accurate... Lets look at Solar Flares and their affect upon the Central Nervous System... Wow, you talk about road rage and havoc!! those not centered will take the brunt of course with that.. But there are a zillion reasons why folks spank their children and most of them stem from their own beliefs and environments they themselves were raised in, along with money stress etc etc..
My sister would get my father all worked up every day before I got home so that she could entertain herself with the show when I got home. As soon as I arrived, my father would rip off his belt and beat me with the buckle, until he wore himself down. My sister just loved this kind of entertainment. My sister may be a sadist, however, my father was just frustrated, since when my sister got him all worked up, and he could not hit a girl, when I came in the door he just let loose on me to get rid of the frustration that my sister had deliberately built up in him so she could watch the show. I would say that was my sister's problem, more than my father's. Maybe it would have helped my sister if my mother had tried the old switch from the bush out back on her, however, I doubt it.
Either way, regardless of whether or not depression leads to spanking or not, spanking is still the most effective, least harmful, legit form of discipline there is. Stop trying to poison the waters with your political correctness to make people think parents are abusing their children, when in fact the real abuse is letting the spoiled brats get away with outlandish tantrums in public, and thinking they can live life without negative consequences. That is how you end up with so many entitlement minded fools like we have today!
1 Corinthians 3:19 ,King James Bible
For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. For it is written, He taketh the wise in their own craftiness.
1 Corinthians 1:20, .Where [is] the wise? where [is] the scribe? where [is] the disputer of this world? hath not God made foolish the wisdom of this world?
Those humans in those professions is mans wisdom. I have something Superior to that that does not include drugs or talk that helps nothing. www.upcspine.com U,C,S,practitioners,and do it now or guarantee a chronic condition no one can help.
Some turn that inward and may become suicidal or turn that outward and become bullies
Some children get brutally abused, yes. Some are just hyper-sensitive liars. :) I'm sure you have seen the children in supermarkets holding tantrums that throw themselves to the floor, make themselves vomit and then scream out that the mother pushed them whilst watching the whole dramatic episode and the parent never touched the child. I do not put it past children to be ungrateful and lying brats. I've seen it. Oh wait... I did it to my mother a few times when I was little... I has a little "bad" phase when I was kid. I probably needed a spanking.
I don't cosign spanking. But I don't disagree with it as a last resort.
I think your veering off into the domestication of children, very disconcerting. I would hardly call any one year old a barbarian.