Do Men Prefer Mean Girls?
SodaHead Living
2012/06/12 18:00:00
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We recently explored whether women are attracted to jerks. But is the same true for guys? A writer for How About We says women are "mean if we don't really want to settle down with one guy (but we don't feel like being 100 percent single)." Also, she adds, "We might continue the tradition of meanness if we’ve grown up with it in our own families." But is all this a turn-on for guys?
Men’s Fitness thinks it is, for the following reasons:
1) The "Hard to Get" Factor: Just as Groucho Marx said, "I don’t care to belong to any club that will have me as a member." Sadly, if a woman is not interested in a man, he might be more interested.
2) Men Are Commitment Challenged: If a woman isn't nice to a guy, it gives him an "out." Meaning he doesn't have to get married and have babies anytime soon.
1) The "Hard to Get" Factor: Just as Groucho Marx said, "I don’t care to belong to any club that will have me as a member." Sadly, if a woman is not interested in a man, he might be more interested.
2) Men Are Commitment Challenged: If a woman isn't nice to a guy, it gives him an "out." Meaning he doesn't have to get married and have babies anytime soon.
3) Too Much Media: Pop culture portrays mean girls as sexy, and guys are confused.
4) "Mommy" Issues: If his mom was like Mommie Dearest, odds are he's looking for the same. Do you think guys prefer mean girls?
Read More: http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/nice-guys-li...
Top Opinion
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**StarzAbove** 2012/06/12 18:12:46No
+20I think men prefer nice, sweet girls that they can have fun with. Who wants a mean girl that is cruel to them and to others. Mean is not attractive at all.
Guys want a good girl who will be bad only for them and never change.
Girls want a bad boy who is good only for them, but that they can remodel into their perfect ideal.
The problem is that most women who are sexually alluring have known it literally all their lives (they were pretty and appealing even as small children, and became accustomed at the earliest ages to getting positive attention on the basis of their looks rather than their abilities.
From doting Daddy down through their youngest male age-peers, they've learned to find success in personal relationships by way of that appeal, and this seems to create in them both contempt for slobbering males and angst about losing the competitive self-esteem battle with other females who get such attention more effectively.
It's probably why "mean girls" - women whose relationships with the men in their lives are rife with cruelty and contempt - spend most of their adolescent years in screaming matches with their mothers and siblings (both female and male).
They begin as they intend to continue, striving to make people value them for the expression of what they personally conceive to be their "feminine wiles," and mothers tend reliably to be both contenders for Daddy's affections and relatively immune to their daughters' charms.
I'm watching this developing right now in one of my "tween" granddaughters, w...
The problem is that most women who are sexually alluring have known it literally all their lives (they were pretty and appealing even as small children, and became accustomed at the earliest ages to getting positive attention on the basis of their looks rather than their abilities.
From doting Daddy down through their youngest male age-peers, they've learned to find success in personal relationships by way of that appeal, and this seems to create in them both contempt for slobbering males and angst about losing the competitive self-esteem battle with other females who get such attention more effectively.
It's probably why "mean girls" - women whose relationships with the men in their lives are rife with cruelty and contempt - spend most of their adolescent years in screaming matches with their mothers and siblings (both female and male).
They begin as they intend to continue, striving to make people value them for the expression of what they personally conceive to be their "feminine wiles," and mothers tend reliably to be both contenders for Daddy's affections and relatively immune to their daughters' charms.
I'm watching this developing right now in one of my "tween" granddaughters, who's putting her parents and my wife through hell.
(Me? Heck, all she wants from Grandpop is help with her homework and school projects. To children, I'm regarded in much the same way that dinosaurs are. "Large, ferocious, and extinct.")
The problem is that "soft and demure" women not uncommonly get turned into doormats.
Effective all the women I've treated over the decades for the physical and psychiatric wounds of spousal abuse have tried to make their way in the male/female world by way of the "soft and demure" strategy, and have suffered because they think "soft and demure" equates with "punching bag."
These are the kinds of patients who break a doctor's heart.
But no one is a stereotype.
I mean BIG.
I would forgoe alot in the looks department for a nice plain girl vs. a mean hot girl.
Also women (and men) who are mean tend to do the whole mean/nice cycle which is very easy to get caught up in.
have seen this happen too many times ..
(even with my own siblings)
their first choices .. abominable ..
but now .. they've got good, responsible .. wonderful wives indeed ..
use see, I found that being kind, respectful, loving and supportive will only get your heart broken. Then they say like challenges but you see a lot of guys on the web complaining about their bitches. Go figure