Do Men Prefer Mean Girls?

Living 2012/06/12 18:00:00
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We recently explored whether women are attracted to jerks. But is the same true for guys? A writer for How About We says women are "mean if we don't really want to settle down with one guy (but we don't feel like being 100 percent single)." Also, she adds, "We might continue the tradition of meanness if we’ve grown up with it in our own families." But is all this a turn-on for guys?

Men’s Fitness thinks it is, for the following reasons:

1) The "Hard to Get" Factor: Just as Groucho Marx said, "I don’t care to belong to any club that will have me as a member." Sadly, if a woman is not interested in a man, he might be more interested.

2) Men Are Commitment Challenged: If a woman isn't nice to a guy, it gives him an "out." Meaning he doesn't have to get married and have babies anytime soon.

3) Too Much Media: Pop culture portrays mean girls as sexy, and guys are confused.

4) "Mommy" Issues: If his mom was like Mommie Dearest, odds are he's looking for the same. Do you think guys prefer mean girls?

Read More: http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/nice-guys-li...

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  • **StarzAbove** 2012/06/12 18:12:46
    I think men prefer nice, sweet girls that they can have fun with. Who wants a mean girl that is cruel to them and to others. Mean is not attractive at all.

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  • AndyBoy 2012/07/30 19:16:45
    My sex slave is VERY subservient and obedient.
  • Tom R 007 2012/07/20 04:25:27
    Tom R 007
    I can't stand them. Meanness is probably the worse trait I can think of in any gender.
  • ajracestables1 2012/06/17 17:42:26
    Only a small percentage like them mean, the sick ones.
  • Dave 007 2012/06/17 13:09:30
    Dave 007
    Mean girls are bitches. And in hese golden days, there are way too many bitches in the world.
  • Tiah Dave 007 2012/06/19 12:55:29
    Yes there are a lot but y do u think they r like that? I mean I agree with u but a lot of it is cockiness and ego a lot of the girls who r insanely pretty can b so cruel thats wot my friend is like
  • gembaser 2012/06/17 03:44:37
    No, real men prefer women who have grown up, not any kind of girl.
  • Larry 2012/06/16 14:33:11
    just naughty
  • debhead 2012/06/16 12:23:17
    I wouldn't say the majority, however, there are mean girls and a lot of them have a man. The question was asked as more of a generalization and, as that, I don't think so..
  • fantastic.drew1 2012/06/16 01:23:27
    I don't like feel like the female in the relationship, I want someone to worry about me and care. I am kind of a softy so would be nice to let down my guard. But I do like women that take charge thats a wonderful trate, I don't like followers.
  • Tre 2012/06/15 19:32:23
    Nah, most men like myself don't want to put up with any BS. However, I think most woman prefer a mean guy.
  • BubblyB... Tre 2012/06/16 03:06:47
    It's sad but true. That would be the definition of a "badboy."
  • Jose Hernandez 2012/06/15 16:57:42
    Jose Hernandez
    I like them to be mean and tomboyish.
  • winthei... Jose He... 2012/06/16 06:52:21
    please yuo are contect .

  • Claire Greenewald 2012/06/15 08:52:15
    Claire Greenewald
    With me, I'm nice to the nice guys. If the Guy is a jerk, I'm a jerk to them and the boys who follow me around think its hilarious.
  • Dave Hampson 2012/06/15 06:35:21
    Dave Hampson
    What a pant load. Nice guys win with nice girls.. Nice girls win with nice guys. Ladies you want a jerk; be a jerk.
  • Nicole 2012/06/15 03:48:30
    I said "yes" because I'm shy, quiet, and nice....yet guys really have no interest in kind, quiet girls. All the guys in middle and high school have only gone after the loud, obnoxious, VERY, VERY RUDE girls. I don't understand it. Maybe guys change after high-school(?) Maybe they just don't like the quiet ones. Or maybe I've just known jerks. Because all the guys I know from school are very rude and immature. I really don't know. But I'd rather be single than with a jerk. I'm not complaining. Much less drama, too.
  • Claire ... Nicole 2012/06/15 08:48:19
    Claire Greenewald
    I know how that is....
  • fantast... Nicole 2012/06/16 01:25:28
    I don't think it is becaues they are mean that guys attack, try standing out a little. You don't have to be a bitch to get noticed just like a guy doesn't have to be an ass to get a date.
  • Call me Mark willya? 2012/06/15 01:25:11
    Call me Mark willya?
    Men tend to prefer HOT girls, and unfortunately if a girl is really HOT she'll probably know it and be mean because she can get away with it... My lady is beautiful and sweeter than a field of sugar cane.
  • Andrew 2012/06/14 23:10:53
    No, I prefer the easy going type.
  • Calisto 2012/06/14 18:35:55
    Tired of them. They are the worst.
  • Tom 2012/06/14 17:42:51
    My guess would be that insecure men will be more likely to put up with a Mean girl. A lot of mean girls tend to be attractive. If you are good looking you can get away with being mean or a jerk (this goes for good looking guys as well). I my self would prefer a cute nice girl over a stunning mean girl anytime. I have a 9 yr old daughter I make sure she is aware of mean people and what to watch out for. I hope she listens :-)
  • Rob Williams 2012/06/14 10:50:58
    Rob Williams
    Some men might but you can't think that ALL men have the same preferences.
  • rishi 2012/06/14 10:29:15
    NO nee
  • May 2012/06/14 10:05:04
    I think that really varies, there are a lot of men out there and you cannot lump them all together. For the ones that do, something is wrong with them. I think they consider them "safe" if they are unattainable.
  • Katte_bellaqva 2012/06/14 06:59:06
    well some does but they have to be insane to keep someone like that... and some seem like they enjoy suffering at lest my friends haha
  • carlton999 2012/06/14 06:28:19
    Ive had a Bitch for a girlfriend......screw that. any guy who has had one don't want another one.
  • Ol'Dave 2012/06/14 03:59:00
    'MEAN" is relative.. EVERYONE has something they like! It could be attitude/assertiveness/t***/a... WHATEVER!
  • Royo 2012/06/14 01:56:29
    More like the opposite. From what I've seen, girls fall for mean guys. And it sucks for the guys who want to get a girl without acting like a douchebag.
  • anna 2012/06/14 01:30:25
    i think it depends on the guy
  • kfallslady 2012/06/14 01:12:18
    I sometimes wonder when you see people putting up with crap from their other
  • Sweet-N-Sour 2012/06/14 00:32:45
    My husband loves me! LOL!! I'm not mean to him or our kids though, just everyone else. He recognizes that I don't take other's crap. He definitely likes it, he never has to defend me, I do it myself.
  • txtum#C... Sweet-N... 2012/06/14 03:56:03
    Hello Sweet-N-Sour - I liked your answer as it clearly demonstrates the wide area than 'mean' encompasses.

    Some corporate women are pegged 'mean' because of ambition, competition with the opposite sex on an intellectual level. That presentation bump in the boardrooms, is not chest-bumping but confidence in their plan beats out the male.

    Formerly abused women seem 'mean' to protect themselves from any emotional expectations.

    Women in the alternate lifestyle will automatically perceive men as an adversary, thereby perceived as 'mean'.

    Some men, for carnal reasons, require a 'mean' talking, acting, "playmate" but some 'games' take over lives. TOTALLY DYSFUNCTIONAL!

    I understand a mother being 'mean' to ousiders, even friends should they be 'out of line' with her cubs. That part of the female Dna is so basic and beautiful, I truly know where your heart is Sweet-N-Sour, just like your Creator made you:)

    A single, young, employed, living on her own or with a same-sex roommate, woman can be competent, assertive, intelligent, motivated, idealistic (it'll mellow:D) and have leadership skills without being 'mean'.

    The men who prefer 'mean' girls, in my opinion, have some personal issues that should be acknowledged.

    Thanks for you post SNS :D
  • Sweet-N... txtum#C... 2012/06/18 18:17:13
    Yep, yep. So true. It does seem odd these days though that women like me who never attack but not afraid to defend get called bitches and the women who go out of their way to be horrible in the name of exerting their self proclaimed superiority to make themselves feel better are held up as heroes. You're right, a man who actually likes THAT kind of woman deserves all the crap he steps in.
  • txtum#C... Sweet-N... 2012/06/18 23:03:06
    Then he should make an appointment with the closest psychiatrist and be concerned about himself for a change.
  • blumunofky 2012/06/14 00:25:58
    Absolutely. I have always been loving, supportive, helpful, honest, undemanding, and accommodating to the men in my life and every last one of them has kicked me in the teeth (figuratively speaking). Other women treat their men like dirt and the men inexplicably keep a-comin' back for more.
  • txtum#C... blumunofky 2012/06/14 03:57:22
    That is twisted and says way too much about the person on the receiving end.
  • Maleficent 2012/06/13 23:55:16
    they say they dont want them but they go to them anyway.
  • anna Maleficent 2012/06/14 01:31:06
    that's so true
  • Maleficent anna 2012/06/14 21:50:56
    it is.
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