Do Father-Daughter Dances Promote Gender Discrimination? (The ACLU Thinks So)

Living 2012/09/23 20:42:35
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Father-daughter dances and mother-son ballgames are now a thing of the past—at least in the Cranston Public Schools district in Rhode Island. The American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) targeted these longstanding traditions after a single mother filed a complaint when her daughter was prevented from attending a father-daughter dance in Cranston.

Apparently, the district’s hands are tied because Rhode Island’s gender-discrimination laws do not exempt such events—thought federal laws do. Strangely, the policy change banning these events was apparently made months ago. However, it only began to receive widespread media attention lat week when Sean Gately, a candidate for state Senate, announced that he would reinstate such events if elected.

The ACLU said in a statement:

"The controversy that has suddenly arisen in a political campaign over father-daughter dances in Cranston is old news -- the matter was amicably resolved with school officials over four months ago. And it was resolved for a simple reason: the school district recognized that in the 21st Century, public schools have no business fostering the notion that girls prefer to go to formal dances while boys prefer baseball games. This type of gender stereotyping only perpetuates outdated notions of 'girl' and 'boy' activities and is contrary to federal law.

"[Parent-teacher organizations] remain free to hold family dances and other events, but the time has long since passed for public school resources to encourage stereotyping from the days of Ozzie and Harriet. Not every girl today is interested in growing up to be Cinderella -- not even in Cranston. In fact, one of them might make a great major league baseball player someday.

"We commend the school district for its resolution of the matter, and are sorry to see some people turning it into a political football -- a game that they may think only boys should be interested in."

So SodaHeads, what do you think? Do father-daughter dances promote gender discrimination?

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  • America... bt sedlock 2012/10/13 14:49:05
  • bt sedlock America... 2012/10/20 23:13:44
    bt sedlock
    Yes it was right wing wing talk radio I'm proud to say.
  • bt sedlock America... 2012/10/13 04:44:49
    bt sedlock
    The ACLU's heroes and role models are not George Washington, Thomas Jefferson or Abraham Lincoln, but Karl Marx and Vladimir Lenin.
  • America... bt sedlock 2012/10/13 14:49:22
  • bt sedlock America... 2012/10/20 23:16:05
    bt sedlock
    The ACLU follows the theories of Marx, Engles and Lenin. They were founded by former Communists and their leader was James Baldwin.
  • mk, Smartass Oracle 2012/09/26 02:46:25
  • kari farmer 2012/09/26 02:40:28
    kari farmer
    You have a father/daughter dance at a wedding if they don't have a father then they either dance with mom or and uncle or someone like that I don't see a problem if like an uncle or family friend goes if its just a single mom
  • greenticky 2012/09/26 02:22:39
    But I think it was unfair to not allow them to attend.
  • Hollyhock 2012/09/26 02:18:57
    I rather think people have lost their minds. Suddenly it's not OK if one person is upset, we must never have anyone in this country upset, especially when that person is in the minority. So the majority no longer can have their own opinion, we all have to bow to the objector or to the one who takes a different opinion. Let everyone have an opinion, let everyone be allowed to think and do [within law] what makes them happy. I am offended by the people who put sexual comments here. Parents and children of the opposite sex have always existed and will continue to exist. They can have a relationship that is normal and healthy so if you are thinking otherwise, you should get some counseling. People need to get a grip and stop making something out of nothing. There's no logic in believing that everyone has to be accommodated. I fear for us all.
  • bt sedlock Hollyhock 2012/10/12 21:22:49
    bt sedlock
    This is such a stupid arguement and stupid issue and the ACLU are stupid too!
  • Z-Wolf 2012/09/26 02:14:36
    I'm going to just throw out that I'm like the only person here with a brain. Since obviously, no one besides me seems to even realize what the argument is about.

    The point that they made was that Father/Daughter dances, just like Mother/Son baseball games are only an issue because, "the school district recognized that in the 21st Century, public schools have no business fostering the notion that girls prefer to go to formal dances while boys prefer baseball games."

    It was about how they make it seem as if girls should be dancing, while boys should be watching sports. They're being extremely presumptuous. That's the issue, please read the article.
    judging you gif
  • Airhead Z-Wolf 2012/09/26 02:21:31 (edited)
    I understand where you are coming from but if you don't want to attend the school isn't forcing you, that would be up to your parents. I don't agree with parents forcing their children to do things just because of their gender like not letting a girl play with boyish toys or make a boy play with them when he really likes dress up or pony type toys. Also, you're on a highly conservative site so get used to it you "liberal ninny".
  • Z-Wolf Airhead 2012/09/26 02:30:27 (edited)
    It's not about them wanting to go or not. Of course kids are going to want to go. But the things that you expose kids to will affect them no matter what. It's like even if they had the dance every year, no matter if some girls went or not, you're planting the idea in their heads that that is what they should be doing. The same with boys. That is not the way we should be thinking.

    This isn't the old ages anymore. We need to teach kids that their aren't limitations to the way that they see themselves, and they need to learn to be more open. That won't happen if we still use phrases like 'Why are you being such a boy?', and 'Why are you being such a girl?' as insults.

    But if you didn't notice, they learn things like that from dances where only little girls attend, and games where all you see is little boys. We have to start with the small things.

    Edit: Really? Liberal ninny? I'm sorry, but I'm pretty sure that I was just assuming that conservative wasn't synonymous to idiot. My bad
  • Airhead Z-Wolf 2012/09/26 02:35:17 (edited)
    You act like this is the only event these kids are going to see in their whole life.
  • Z-Wolf Airhead 2013/09/02 09:30:41
    It most likely isn't. But like this one, many others will promote unhealthy messages and harmful stereotypes. But yeah, you're right, in this society that doesn't happen nearly everywhere. So it's fine. They'll eventually find something not extremely sexist or damaging. Hopefully it'll actually be able to put a dent in all the crap they were exposed to. Don't be an idiot.
  • bt sedlock Z-Wolf 2012/09/26 04:31:33
    bt sedlock
    "Why are you being such a boy? Why are being such a girl?" Ahh, the tyranny words.
  • Z-Wolf bt sedlock 2013/09/02 09:27:50
    Oh yeah, that totally never had an impact on any teenager or child ever. It totally never gave them horrible body image or made them suicidal 'cause it's so "harmless". Grow up.
  • bt sedlock Z-Wolf 2013/09/10 17:28:47
    bt sedlock
    It's political correctness.
  • Z-Wolf bt sedlock 2013/10/27 08:16:21
  • jon Z-Wolf 2012/09/26 07:12:02
    Do you sit and masturbate a lot?
  • Z-Wolf jon 2013/09/02 09:26:40
    Do you ask that a lot?
  • sandra ... Z-Wolf 2012/09/26 07:22:04
    sandra smith
    I did; AFTER I studied human growth and development!
  • Z-Wolf sandra ... 2013/09/02 09:26:17
    So we should totally wait until all the kids are older and hope it works and they're not set in their ways? Instead of teaching them positive messages from the start? Great idea.
  • DizziNY Z-Wolf 2012/09/26 10:47:35
    People who think they know everything know nothing.
  • Z-Wolf DizziNY 2013/09/02 09:25:12
    Says the person who comprehends so little.
  • Peggy 2012/09/26 02:12:52
    It is a wonderful opportunity for a dad to give his daughter an example of how she should expect to be treated on a date. Young girls allow "boyfriends" to manipulate and bully them because they do not know their value or what to expect out their date!
  • Airhead 2012/09/26 02:05:34
    but I think a single mother should be allowed to attend. It was just plain cruel to refuse her!
  • kultur 2012/09/26 02:00:08
    Father dancing with their daughter, single moms ( apologies)..,............... as the world turns human get more summer and summer, and these the people with so called degrees
  • Dennis 2012/09/26 01:52:57
    I would have no problem with father/daughter of father/son dances - or mother/son or mother/daughter dances - as long as they are not extremely sexually expressive dances -
  • GrumpyCat 2012/09/26 01:52:07
    Don't get me wrong what the school did is WRONG. They are swines and should be punished. But this doesn't mean that all father daughter dances are like that. Plenty would allow a mother to attend with her child if something happened to the father. Divorce or death is traumatic enough without some bureaucratic school district singling the child out, poor little girl :(
  • jumpboots 187th PIR 2012/09/26 01:48:59
    jumpboots 187th PIR
    The politically correct gang said it's wrong. Why? Because there are a lot of single mom who don't have a clue who the fathers are........ Lets call a spade a spade!!!!"Shall we?
  • starguide 2012/09/26 01:28:35
    sexist is the wrong word.... the word should be insensitve

    one parent family
  • LadyPatriot 2012/09/26 01:27:38
    More stupidity coming from the ACLU.
  • Hu Chardon 2012/09/26 01:26:58
    Hu Chardon
    Does the father daughter dance discriminate those of us you have no daughters? This simply illustrate the ignorance of the school district in Rhode Island. Perhaps no one should dance because their are those among us who can't.
  • HK5SBR 2012/09/26 01:25:56
  • Sunny 2012/09/26 01:14:27
    Come on really!
    Wake up and smell the coffee people just another bit of America stripped away. I feel unions have lost their way and why they were started in the first place.
  • Jessie 2012/09/26 00:56:54
    OMG WTF! Seriously!!!!! Father/daughter dances promote bonding between the fater and daughter! To hell with the ACLU
  • McSchraden 2012/09/26 00:55:20
    Absurd. This mentality is another of many signs that this country is in the toilet and God's hand is on the flusher.
  • Al 2012/09/26 00:52:58
    Time to rid our country of the left-wing nuts in the ALCU. Time to bring back some common sense.
  • Natalie Allen 2012/09/26 00:48:50
    Natalie Allen
    No. It promotes a father-daughter relationship and I honestly doubt a son would want to dance with their mother or father. Awkward much?

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