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Divorced Men Make a Good Catch: Have You Ever Dated Someone Who's Been Through a Divorce?

mrosen814 2012/07/03 21:00:00
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Divorce has become a part of our social fabric, says RSVP's relationship expert and psychologist, John Aiken. "I think the stigma has really dropped away with regards to divorce. There are more people getting divorced than ever, it's something that's commonplace in the media, with celebrities, and kids are growing up with divorce, they're coming from divorced families," he says.

And, according to The Age, there are a slew of reasons supporting the stance that divorced men make a good catch. These include everything from relationship experience to character building. However, the article points out, that individuals and their past relationships should be examined on a case-by-case basis. Have you ever dated someone who's been through a divorce?

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  • John Hall 2012/07/04 18:29:36
    Yes
    John Hall
    +1
    Yep dated her and then married her .
  • Cunning Stunts 2012/07/04 17:50:24
    No
    Cunning Stunts
    +2
    I've slept with a married chick, does that count?
  • VampFreak13 2012/07/04 17:21:10 (edited)
    No
    VampFreak13
    +2
    It would depend on the reason they are divorced... :)
  • Cameryn (◠‿◠✿) 2012/07/04 16:51:27
    No
    Cameryn (◠‿◠✿)
    +1
    I've never dated.
  • EmpathyReigns 2012/07/04 16:04:11
    Yes
    EmpathyReigns
    +1
    Many times , Diovrce comes with a lot of baggage..But they need time to heal and have shape to move forward freely with out remembering, old drama form past realtionship.
  • Kerymi 2012/07/04 15:45:51
    No
    Kerymi
    But I'm trying to get my mom to date a just divorced guy, lol.
  • Blackberry 2012/07/04 15:19:47
    Yes
    Blackberry
    +1
    I was only married for a year and a half when I was 22. It was a huge mistake, of course, but I learned a lot about what it takes to stay in a long-term relationship. I've dated many women who knew about my divorce (and one who dated me while I was still in the process). I've been called nothing but a true gentleman and good guy, so I know I'm already a good guy, but that also wasn't due to the divorce.

    So essentially, divorce has nothing to do with a man being good or not. There are good men who haven't been married.
  • TasselLady 2012/07/04 14:44:03
    Yes
    TasselLady
    +3
    But unfortunately the divorced men I dated had too much baggage. They were the "walking wounded" and there was no dealing with them or convincing them that I wasn't like the others. They were gunshy to the point where they believed every woman was evil like their ex, and I got tired of that crap really fast. I was nothing like their ex, but it's like they're walking forward and their head is still facing backwards. Until they are willing to get past it somehow and move on, they won't be able to have any successful relationships. I dated one who was very insecure, and I couldn't stand it anymore.
  • Prairie Wind 2012/07/04 14:31:18
    Yes
    Prairie Wind
    +3
    The fastest way to ruin a new relationship is to not have dealt with passing THROUGH grief first, finding yourself and moving on, respecting your life experience, but understanding why what happened and how to deal with your own life first ... BEFORE undertaking a new relationship.
  • TasselLady Prairie... 2012/07/04 17:30:00
    TasselLady
    +3
    Very true. Many of them DON'T and that's why they not only are miserable, they make the other person in the relationship miserable too.
  • rand 2012/07/04 14:26:36
    Yes
    rand
    I married one...as did she...3 decades ago. We're both "one-trial learners".
  • tobe 2012/07/04 14:26:34 (edited)
    Yes
    tobe
    but her ex was nuts. They both had that cajun temper. She had a good balance though. I knew she was nuts and I knew if i came home and heard pat benatar that she was in a mood. I also knew if I stayed calm, went down to the market and picked up a magazine and a pint of dutch chocolate ice cream it'd be alright. Would I date another divorced woman, i don't know.
  • Tiah 2012/07/04 14:04:17
    No
    Tiah
    Not old enough to be and in the future if I did I wouldn't care as long as he treats me good then I'm great:D
  • bluelady 2012/07/04 13:47:02
    Yes
    bluelady
    +1
    married one too..we had both been divorced
  • RachelA7X 2012/07/04 13:46:56
    No
    RachelA7X
    My boyfriend and previous boyfriends haven't been old enough to get married :P
  • .: LiVi :. 2012/07/04 13:25:23
    No
    .: LiVi :.
    Honestly im not sure if tbe guy im with nodw has that history or not, he wont talk about it
  • lori 2012/07/04 13:07:01
    Yes
    lori
    Not anymore then divorce woman make a good catch. It is not always the person that got the divorce fault.
  • SoftBear 2012/07/04 13:00:26
    Yes
    SoftBear
    Married her, too.
  • SOUL4REAL 2012/07/04 12:51:31 (edited)
    No
    SOUL4REAL
    How can a divorced man be a good catch? That would be a red flag if he's divorced, something is not right with him,men are very complexed human beings,somes are never satisfied. Maybe he might be confused with life or he might be a narcissistic. A leopard doesn't change it spots! No,I don't want someone else's baggage,I prefer my own.
  • SoftBear SOUL4REAL 2012/07/04 13:14:01
    SoftBear
    +2
    Everyone has baggage that they bring into a relationship. Assuming someone is "a bad catch" because they have been divorced is somewhat lacking in logic. The statistics don't tell the whole story, and relegating divorced people to the pool of divorced people for their next match is certainly unfair.
  • SOUL4REAL SoftBear 2012/07/04 14:31:27
    SOUL4REAL
    That is my opinion and you have your opinion. Why does a person get married? I think you love the person,right? Love is not a faucet where you can turn it off and on. One thing I know for sure men take longer to mature then women. Most men have a roaming eye, I believe that's their nature,they always believe there's something else better out there. I respect your opinion so please respect mine. Have a Happy 4th of July!
  • Sebastian SOUL4REAL 2012/07/04 20:49:30 (edited)
    Sebastian
    +1
    Reading through some of your other comments below, it seems you have something against men and are very bitter. That's a "red flag" if you ask me.. Are you divorced by any chance?
  • SOUL4REAL Sebastian 2012/07/04 23:17:25
    SOUL4REAL
    No,I'm not divorced,I'm happily married with two beautiful children. I'm not bitter,I'm speaking the truth,I'm a psychologist in mental health. I see that you're a man and I expect that from you. I also know that it take two to tangle (interwind). Without the women, men wouldn't be able to cheat. That's my opinion and I stand behind it. Have a happy 4th of July!
  • Lucy SOUL4REAL 2012/07/05 03:56:35
    Lucy
    +1
    I am shocked that as a psychologist you would simplyfy divorce as caused mainly by cheating men. I agree with you somewhat, but your answers sound kind of unprofessional. Also to say a leopard doesn't change his spots sounds wrong. People can change and I know many people who have cheated-men and women-and they stopped it. They can learn self-control.
  • SOUL4REAL Lucy 2012/07/05 14:47:20
    SOUL4REAL
    +1
    Don't be shocked,it's life and yes people can change but they have to want to change. If you are being realistic,it's very hard for any human being to master self-control.I'm not saying it can't happen but it very hard. People of today and the past love instant gratfication,if self-control was so easy there wouldn't be alot of deception going on in this world.When I mention about a leopard not changing it's spots,men are hunters by nature and this is what they do. If you find a man who have changed his spots,your a lucky woman. The only reason my answer sound unprofessional to you is because, I went against the grain. I speak what I've learned and everyone is not going to agree with me, but that's alright. You have a good day!
  • Lucy SOUL4REAL 2012/07/06 00:15:57
    Lucy
    +1
    You too. And I believe you, but I am lucky to have an honorable husband.
  • Nibiru SOUL4REAL 2012/07/04 17:03:51
  • SOUL4REAL Nibiru 2012/07/04 17:32:05 (edited)
    SOUL4REAL
    You're right, some what, but 9 times out of 10 the man is the one who end up cheating. Men,have affairs all the time behind their wives back. Men are always looking for a opportunity to cheat!
  • Nibiru SOUL4REAL 2012/07/04 17:45:25
  • SOUL4REAL Nibiru 2012/07/04 17:58:01
    SOUL4REAL
    +1
    "LIFE"!!
  • Sebastian SOUL4REAL 2012/07/04 20:54:02 (edited)
    Sebastian
    +1
    Whatever happened to you in your past that has you so angry with men is going to continue to prevent you from having normal relationships with men in your life, whether romantic, friendly, or familial, until you get over the past and move on with your life. Don't generalize an entire gender because of your bad experiences. There are those of us who have been equally screwed over by ladies, yet I know most women aren't that way (my current gf, for instance :)
  • SOUL4REAL Sebastian 2012/07/04 23:20:33
    SOUL4REAL
    Let me bring your awareness up,My husband and I met as school sweethearts and we are still together today 2012. Find something else to defend men. :))
  • Nibiru SOUL4REAL 2012/07/05 06:19:54
  • SOUL4REAL Nibiru 2012/07/05 14:53:30
    SOUL4REAL
    lol,back at you! :))
  • TasselLady SOUL4REAL 2012/07/04 17:32:03
    TasselLady
    +2
    Or maybe his ex-wife cheated on him and treated HIM bad. It's not just the men who are divorced who cause problems sometimes, women do too, and I've seen alot of them too.
  • Nibiru TasselLady 2012/07/04 17:45:04
  • SOUL4REAL TasselLady 2012/07/04 17:55:47
    SOUL4REAL
    +1
    It's can be both, but men are basically the one who seek women. Men are hunters by nature!
  • Nibiru TasselLady 2012/07/05 16:09:30
  • Lucy SOUL4REAL 2012/07/05 03:49:25
    Lucy
    How do you know it wasn't just a mismatched couple or his wife was at fault?
  • SOUL4REAL Lucy 2012/07/05 14:51:27
    SOUL4REAL
    How do you know it was a mismatched couple? I doubt the wife was at fault. Calm down it's only an opinion!

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