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Divorced Men Make a Good Catch: Have You Ever Dated Someone Who's Been Through a Divorce?

mrosen814 2012/07/03 21:00:00
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Divorce has become a part of our social fabric, says RSVP's relationship expert and psychologist, John Aiken. "I think the stigma has really dropped away with regards to divorce. There are more people getting divorced than ever, it's something that's commonplace in the media, with celebrities, and kids are growing up with divorce, they're coming from divorced families," he says.

And, according to The Age, there are a slew of reasons supporting the stance that divorced men make a good catch. These include everything from relationship experience to character building. However, the article points out, that individuals and their past relationships should be examined on a case-by-case basis. Have you ever dated someone who's been through a divorce?

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  • Eyes See Wide North 2012/07/05 16:56:20
    No
    Eyes See Wide North
    The reason why, theres 3 billion different possibilities but heres one you might want to recognize.
    A divorced man looks for and believes (or believed at one stage) in such a thing called true love, after losing what he thought he had, he is now desperate for it.
    Go on women, you know a guy like that will obsess over you to unhealthy levels...
  • Donald Eric Kesler 2012/07/05 16:42:38
    Yes
    Donald Eric Kesler
    Me and my wife were both divorced when we first met.
  • Kingarthurup 2012/07/05 16:18:57
    Yes
    Kingarthurup
    more than 10... the damage is obvious.
  • mikeyavelli 2012/07/05 16:18:36
    Yes
    mikeyavelli
    +1
    if you have any looks at all and are over 380 months old you definitely have dated a divorcee. and it's OK, i married one and i am one too.
  • stevegtexas@aol.com 2012/07/05 16:12:41 (edited)
    Yes
    stevegtexas@aol.com
    THIS IS HILARIOUS~! << 1 Timothy 2:12 >>





    New International Version (©1984)

    I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent.

    New Living Translation (©2007)

    I do not let women teach men or have authority over them. Let them listen quietly.



    English Standard Version (©2001)

    I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.



    New American Standard Bible (©1995)

    But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet.



    King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.)

    But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.



    International Standard Version (©2008)

    Moreover, I do not allow a woman to teach or to usurp authority over a man. Instead, she is to be quiet.



    Aramaic Bible in Plain English (©2010)

    For I do not allow a woman to teach, neither to usurp over a man, but she should be quiet;



    GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995)

    I don't allow a woman to teach or to have authority over a man. Instead, she should be quiet.



    King James 2000 Bible (©2003)

    But I permit not a woman to teach, nor to have authority over the man, but to be in silence.



    American King James Version

    But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.



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    THIS IS HILARIOUS~! << 1 Timothy 2:12 >>





    New International Version (©1984)

    I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent.

    New Living Translation (©2007)

    I do not let women teach men or have authority over them. Let them listen quietly.



    English Standard Version (©2001)

    I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.



    New American Standard Bible (©1995)

    But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet.



    King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.)

    But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.



    International Standard Version (©2008)

    Moreover, I do not allow a woman to teach or to usurp authority over a man. Instead, she is to be quiet.



    Aramaic Bible in Plain English (©2010)

    For I do not allow a woman to teach, neither to usurp over a man, but she should be quiet;



    GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995)

    I don't allow a woman to teach or to have authority over a man. Instead, she should be quiet.



    King James 2000 Bible (©2003)

    But I permit not a woman to teach, nor to have authority over the man, but to be in silence.



    American King James Version

    But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.



    American Standard Version

    But I permit not a woman to teach, nor to have dominion over a man, but to be in quietness.



    Douay-Rheims Bible

    But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to use authority over the man: but to be in silence.



    Darby Bible Translation

    but I do not suffer a woman to teach nor to exercise authority over man, but to be in quietness;



    English Revised Version

    But I permit not a woman to teach, nor to have dominion over a man, but to be in quietness.



    Webster's Bible Translation

    But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.



    Weymouth New Testament

    I do not permit a woman to teach, nor have authority over a man, but she must remain silent.



    World English Bible

    But I don't permit a woman to teach, nor to exercise authority over a man, but to be in quietness.



    Young's Literal Translation

    and a woman I do not suffer to teach, nor to rule a husband, but to be in quietness,





    Barnes' Notes on the Bible

    But I suffer not a woman to teach - see the notes on 1 Corinthians 14:34.



    Nor to usurp authority over the man - notes, 1 Corinthians 11:3.





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    Clarke's Commentary on the Bible

    Nor to usurp authority - A woman should attempt nothing, either in public or private, that belongs to man as his peculiar function. This was prohibited by the Roman laws: In multis juris nostri articulis deterior est conditio foeminarum quam masculorun,; l. 9, Pap. Lib. 31, Quaest. Foeminoe ab omnibus officiis civilibus vel publicis remotae sunt; et ideo nec judicis esse possunt, nec magistratum gerere, nec postulare, nec pro alio invenire, nec procuratores existere; l. 2, de Reg. Juris. Ulp. Lib. i. Ad Sab. - Vid. Poth. Pand. Justin., vol. i. p. 13.



    "In our laws the condition of women is, in many respects, worse than that of men. Women are precluded from all public offices; therefore they cannot be judges, nor execute the function of magistrates; they cannot sue, plead, nor act in any case, as proxies." They were under many other disabilities, which may be seen in different places of the Pandects.



    But to be in silence - It was lawful for men in public assemblies to ask questions, or even interrupt the speaker when there was any matter in his speech which they did not understand; but this liberty was not granted to women. See the note on 1 Corinthians 14:34, 1 Corinthians 14:35 (note).





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    Gill's Exposition of the Entire Bible

    But I suffer not a woman to teach, They may teach in private, in their own houses and families; they are to be teachers of good things, Titus 2:3. They are to bring up their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord; nor is the law or doctrine of a mother to be forsaken, any more than the instruction of a father; see Proverbs 1:8. Timothy, no doubt, received much advantage, from the private teachings and instructions of his mother Eunice, and grandmother Lois; but then women are not to teach in the church; for that is an act of power and authority, and supposes the persons that teach to be of a superior degree, and in a superior office, and to have superior abilities to those who are taught by them:



    nor to usurp authority over the man; as not in civil and political things, or in things relating to civil government; and in things domestic, or the affairs of the family; so not in things ecclesiastical, or what relate to the church and government of it; for one part of rule is to feed the church with knowledge and understanding; and for a woman to take upon her to do this, is to usurp an authority over the man: this therefore she ought not to do,



    but to be in silence; to sit and hear quietly and silently, and learn, and not teach, as in 1 Timothy 2:11.





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    Vincent's Word Studies

    Suffer (ἐπιτρέπω)



    Lit. turn over to; thence, permit. See 1 Corinthians 14:34.



    Usurp authority (αὐθεντεῖν)



    N.T.o. olxx, oClass. It occurs in late ecclesiastical writers. The kindred noun αὐθέντης one who does a thing with his own hand, Wisd. 12:6, and also in Herodotus, Euripides, and Thucydides. Ἁυθεντία right, 3 Macc. 2:29. The verb means to do a thing one's self; hence, to exercise authority. The A.V. usurp authority is a mistake. Rend. to have or exercise dominion over.





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    Geneva Study Bible

    But I suffer not a woman to teach, {8} nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.



    (8) The first argument, why it is not lawful for women to teach in the congregation, because by this means they would be placed above men, for they would be their masters: and this is against God's ordinance.





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    People's New Testament

    2:12 I suffer not a woman to teach. I permit not (Revised Version). To become an authorized teacher off the church, a work confined to presbyters.



    Nor to usurp authority over a man. Authoritative teaching and ruling were united.





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    Wesley's Notes

    2:12 To usurp authority over the man - By public teaching.





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    Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Bible Commentary

    12. usurp authority-"to lord it over the man" [Alford], literally, "to be an autocrat."





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    Matthew Henry's Concise Commentary

    2:8-15 Under the gospel, prayer is not to be confined to any one particular house of prayer, but men must pray every where. We must pray in our closets, pray in our families, pray at our meals, pray when we are on journeys, and pray in the solemn assemblies, whether more public or private. We must pray in charity; without wrath, or malice, or anger at any person. We must pray in faith, without doubting, and without disputing. Women who profess the Christian religion, must be modest in apparel, not affecting gaudiness, gaiety, or costliness. Good works are the best ornament; these are, in the sight of God, of great price. Modesty and neatness are more to be consulted in garments than elegance and fashion. And it would be well if the professors of serious godliness were wholly free from vanity in dress. They should spend more time and money in relieving the sick and distressed, than in decorating themselves and their children. To do this in a manner unsuitable to their rank in life, and their profession of godliness, is sinful. These are not trifles, but Divine commands. The best ornaments for professors of godliness, are good works. According to St. Paul, women are not allowed to be public teachers in the church; for teaching is an office of authority. But good women may and ought to teach their children at home the principles of true religion. Also, women must not think themselves excused from learning what is necessary to salvation, though they must not usurp authority. As woman was last in the creation, which is one reason for her subjection, so she was first in the transgression. But there is a word of comfort; that those who continue in sobriety, shall be saved in child-bearing, or with child-bearing, by the Messiah, who was born of a woman. And the especial





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  • mikeyav... stevegt... 2012/07/05 16:20:32
    mikeyavelli
    yeah, and my wife's version:
    shut up and listen or you're cut off.
  • Donald ... stevegt... 2012/07/05 16:48:08
    Donald Eric Kesler
    +1
    I don’t see how an exploration of 1 Timothy 2:12 is relevant to the discussion at hand.

    Furthermore, while I completely agree that 1 Timothy 2:12 is ridiculous, you could have expressed the sentiment in a far more succinct manner.
  • deadshot stevegt... 2012/07/05 18:43:28
    deadshot
    Well, say hello to Mr. Crazy Cut & Paste.
  • cat 2012/07/05 16:01:45 (edited)
    Yes
    cat
    +1
    Yes and have been with him for almost 50 years. He was burned the same way I was in the first marriage.
  • alina.deepsinghgill 2012/07/05 16:01:07
    No
    alina.deepsinghgill
    no i dont think is good
  • waterlady 2012/07/05 15:55:46
    Yes
    waterlady
    +4
    All the men I have dated have been through divorces. I would rather date a divorcee than someone who has never married. If they haven't married by their 50's something is really wrong with them. There is no commitment, they don't know how to share, and they don't know how to live with someone.
  • _-T3x4S_M4D3-_ 2012/07/05 15:37:47
    Yes
    _-T3x4S_M4D3-_
    +1
    I am, and I have.
  • supercar55 2012/07/05 15:36:42
  • Eyes Se... supercar55 2012/07/05 17:01:05
    Eyes See Wide North
    And you have come to Sodahead, were people will finally recognize your struggle and just maybe (but most likely) a large number of attractive men or women (or both, whatever floats your boat) will show up at your door now at any minute, to answer your Sodahead prayers.

    Or it could just be that your too young, you dont like people, you dont have a face, your too two faced, or maybe because you deserve to be alone?

    Dont look at me, im just assuming things and asking questions based on those assumptions like any good SH.
  • gmiing 2012/07/05 15:23:34
    Yes
    gmiing
    I have - depending on how long they have been divorced - whether they are still trying to get back with ex. Sometimes it allows you to find the person you should be with.
  • Flowers 2012/07/05 15:23:07
    Yes
    Flowers
    +1
    I find it annoying that people say men are a "good catch" and women who have been through a divorce are NOT always painted in such a complimentary fashion.

    BOTH men and women who have been through a divorce are better partners to the next one because they learned (HOPEFULLY) how to communicate when problems start to rise up.
  • Character Flowers 2012/07/05 15:48:18
    Character
    +1
    Of course, if there are children involved all that experience is worthless.
  • Flowers Character 2012/07/05 15:51:36
    Flowers
    I disagree. I have a child, so does my current boyfriend from his previous marriage. Aside from my ex being a selfish prick I think it's going pretty good.
  • Character Flowers 2012/07/06 15:20:40
    Character
    The problem is that your current boyfriend must deal with your ex - that's baggage.
  • Flowers Character 2012/07/06 15:27:33
    Flowers
    ah, I see! Yes, it is a necessary annoyance.
  • Link 2012/07/05 15:18:53
    Yes
    Link
    I am one, I have dated them, and even married one...
  • Rod 2012/07/05 15:11:53
    Yes
    Rod
    Married on and it was the best decision that I ever made. I chased her until she caught me.
  • rosebud 2012/07/05 14:58:47
    Yes
    rosebud
    +3
    The biggest problem with many divorced men and some women as well is that they come with other issues, like the baggage left over from the first /earlier relationship i.e. children, ex-spouses who want to have themselves supported. They are often cash strapped due to the divorce agreements made when the earlier relationship ended.
  • Michael rosebud 2012/07/05 16:35:56
    Michael
    +1
    Your point is compounded if like myself you are on a retirement income in which the EX recieves 1/3rd of it. This is a hard issue to sweep under the table when stepping back into the dating world. Dating is a very expensive venture.
  • Edensasp 2012/07/05 14:52:39
    Yes
    Edensasp
    On a recurring basis.
  • politicalsoldier 2012/07/05 14:51:58
    No
    politicalsoldier
    +2
    Nope, still married and was married relatively young, so I never did. But, if I was ever to be divorced of widowed myself, the answer would be no. Of all of my friends and colleagues that have dated, or had serious relationships, or even a second marriage to divorcees, I can't think of one that wasn't a disaster or left the person trapped in yet another crappy relationship. I know there are good people out there that have been through divorce and I know it works out for some, but I don't like the odds. If I was to loose the wife I have for some reason, I think I'm too content with my own company to feel that I NEED to be with someone. Plus, i have my kids. I would never feel "alone".
  • Donald ... politic... 2012/07/05 17:09:51 (edited)
    Donald Eric Kesler
    The evidence you are offering against dating or marrying a divorcee is wholly anecdotal. There is, however, empirical data to support your position.

    50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri.

    A second source arrives at different numbers, but the same pattern emerges. According to enrichment journal on the divorce rate in America; The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%, The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%, The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%.

    I was surprised to learn this information. It does not conform to my own anecdotal observations.

    Seriously, when I went looking for facts about the divorce rates for second and third marriages, I had anticipated finding data that would prove you wrong. Don't let it be said that I am either dogmatic or inflexible.

    http://www.divorcerate.org/


    “If I was to loose the wife I have for some reason, I think I'm too content with my own company to feel that I NEED to be with someone. Plus, i have my kids. I would never feel "alone".”

    It is wonderful that you enjoy both your own company and that of your offspring; however, these sorts of relationships do not satisfy ones desire for intimate contact. What about sex?
  • politic... Donald ... 2012/07/08 05:33:03
    politicalsoldier
    LOL! Sex! Ask any married guy, "what about sex." Around 85% of them will say, "yeah, what about it. I seem to remember something about sex." Seems there's a food substance that diminishes a woman's sex drive by around 98% ... Wedding cake. LOL

    Seriously though, sex is great but trading my sanity for it wouldn't be worth it. My friends that dated after marriage may have had more sex (for a while), but the crap they had to deal with in return wasn't worth it. I'd rather get a box of Kleenex ans some Lubraderm before I go through the almost adolescent drama scenarios they dealt with. Like a bunch of damn sixteen-year olds again.

    Besides what I offered was merely my opinion based on personal observations in my own life not evidence, but what you found is interesting.
  • Donald ... politic... 2012/07/08 13:06:35
    Donald Eric Kesler
    I’m a married guy. It is my second marriage. My wife and I have a healthy sex life. It can happen.
  • politic... Donald ... 2012/07/08 19:30:37
    politicalsoldier
    +1
    That's awesome. I'm glad you beat the odds. I Hope your happiness goes the full distance.
  • Donald ... politic... 2012/07/09 11:31:07
    Donald Eric Kesler
    Thank you. I can't imagine life without her. She is my best friend.
  • AntonioVásquezCárdenas 2012/07/05 14:51:31
    No
    AntonioVásquezCárdenas
    +1
    Todavía no.
  • Tommy 2012/07/05 14:39:30
    Yes
    Tommy
    In todays world its almost impossible to date someone that hasn't been divorced 1 or 19 times.
  • Character Tommy 2012/07/05 15:50:19
    Character
    I never dated somebody who divorced and I happily married at age 32
  • Tommy Character 2012/07/07 13:34:49
    Tommy
    Your one of the few lucky ones if your happily married.
  • Character Tommy 2012/07/09 02:47:51
    Character
    So far :) I'm 34 now.
  • Ashley 2012/07/05 14:38:10
    No
    Ashley
    +2
    Always too much baggage.
  • Grant Straka 2012/07/05 14:19:56
    No
    Grant Straka
    I've never dated
  • Elizabeth 2012/07/05 14:12:09
    No
    Elizabeth
    +1
    I haven't, but cannot say I wouldn't. I'm married, so I don't have any plans of dating. LOL!
  • RosaJerry 2012/07/05 13:53:10

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