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Did your parents ever let your significant other go into your room as a teenager?

peaches 2012/07/17 20:16:35
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After over 8 months of being in a relationship with the same girl, my parents decided that it was fair to make a rule that she's not going to be allowed in my room again. They say it's because my twin sister (who's straight while I'm in a homosexual relationship) would never be allowed to have a boyfriend in her room. The thing is, that "boyfriend" is nonexistent. And the closest person to a boyfriend she has would never be allowed out of his house anyway. I agree that a double standard wouldn't be fair, but they should have thought about that a longggg time ago. At this point, it would only be fair if they simply let her "boyfriend that doesn't exist" in her room.
And why I feel like it's unfair to me is because you know what we do when we're in my room? We cuddle. Mostly cuddle. We nap, have tickle and pillow fights and the occasional makeout session. My door is ALWAYS open and my sister is usually right across the hallway! Because that is such a horrible situation for a responsible 16 year old girl to engage in.
And it's not like I could try and discuss it with them everything would be claimed to be backtalk. If I show a problem with it, then their logic is that we're obviously having sex up there 24/7 which proves that the rule should have been in place. But no, instead we're supposed to be content with sitting in our dining room twiddling our thumbs at each other. My girlfriend suggested that we awkwardly cuddle in our living room in front out my parents. She said, "If they take away out privacy, they'll have to deal with what we do in private." I agree, yet I still couldn't bring myself to do that.
And on top of that, she was supposed to come over tonight. She said earlier that she wanted to come home from her college orientation and cuddle in a warm bed while drinking tea.
Sorry for my rant, I'm just in a super pissy mood right now. Anyway, no need to lecture me on the whole "Their house, their rules" argument. I realize, but that doesn't mean that punishments should be handed out for no reason whatsoever.

So, did/do your parents allow your significant other in your room as a teen? And any suggestions on what I can do in my situation would be greatly appreciated.
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  • ↓←↑♣→NVL←♣↑→↓ 2012/07/18 15:41:25
    No
    ↓←↑♣→NVL←♣↑→↓
    They would never let that happen
  • Lizzeh 2012/07/18 12:07:42
    Yes
    Lizzeh
    +1
    They let him be in the same room as me. I just have to keep my door open and we can't lay down at all. I find this rule ridiculous seeing as I refuse to make the same mistake they did. Plus, all we ever do is cuddle and kiss. Sex is gross, never even crosses my mind.
  • Amberwolf 17 2012/07/18 06:12:19
    Yes
    Amberwolf 17
    +1
    but there were (and still are) very strict rules, and once my mom put a freakin' security camera in my room just in case something actually happened. I can't even let my boyfriend put his arm around me near her or she goes psycho. It's probably because I'm turning 18 in about 3 months and my boyfriend just turned 16 earlier this month, but idk. Later I made a joke with my dad, (who happens to love sarcastic jokes and comments,) saying "I know my mom put the videocamera in my room, but honestly, I don't perform for audiences." He fell out of his chair laughing. lol
  • peaches Amberwo... 2012/07/18 12:32:16
    peaches
    Hey well, that age gap is fine! I'm 16 and my girlfriend is 18. I feel like if I had a boyfriend then my parents would be a bit more wigged about the extra 2 years, though. Hahahaha that's pretty funny. At least some good jokes can be made about that situation as crappy as it is :P
  • Artisan Rose ☽✪☾☥ 2012/07/18 05:20:21
    No
    Artisan Rose ☽✪☾☥
    +1
    Not even my friends are allowed in my room. After she saw me and my two girl bffs cuddling on the bed, she was all like "No one in your room but you!"
  • peaches Artisan... 2012/07/18 05:21:29
    peaches
    That's silly! And sad to hear.
  • Artisan... peaches 2012/07/18 05:26:39
    Artisan Rose ☽✪☾☥
    +1
    I think she was scared of the possibility of me liking girls (which I do anyways, lol)
    now she has to worry about my bf not getting me pregnant rather than her not having grandkids. She's paranoid. I haven't even had sex with my boyfriend, but when she sees us cuddling on the couch, she gets uncomfortable. I can't help it though, he's soft and warm and i love him tons.
  • peaches Artisan... 2012/07/18 12:32:59
    peaches
    +1
    Hahaha I agree. Cuddling is one of my favorite things to do (:
  • Artisan... peaches 2012/07/18 12:35:53
    Artisan Rose ☽✪☾☥
    +1
    Cuddling is one of the best parts of the relationship
  • peaches Artisan... 2012/07/19 16:20:41
    peaches
    +1
    I 100% agree (:
  • **Vampire Redefined** 2012/07/18 04:22:25
    No
    **Vampire Redefined**
    +1
    No girls are allowed in my room, and I'm f***ing 19 almost 20 and I have a good head on my shoulders I understand the risks and am willing to wait. So if I had a girl in my room nothing would happen but my parents still have that rule in place
  • peaches **Vampi... 2012/07/18 05:13:58
    peaches
    That sucks, I'm sorry :/ Being an adult, I have no idea why they think they have the right to control you like that.
  • Antone ... peaches 2012/07/18 05:46:45
    Antone KingSmith
    Their house their rules simple as that
  • peaches Antone ... 2012/07/19 16:22:54
    peaches
    That doesn't mean that you should not allow your ADULT child to be restricted so much. If you raised them well enough, you should trust them at that age. Plus, no 19-20 year old kid is gonna be able to get a good place now-a-days for them to stay at. That's impossible for some the way society and the economy works today.
  • Antone ... peaches 2012/07/19 21:06:17
    Antone KingSmith
    It doesn't change the fact that it is still their house. Yeah it sucks but are they paying any rent? Any bills? If not then the least they can do is follow their parents rules
  • peaches Antone ... 2012/07/20 03:10:51 (edited)
    peaches
    Well what I'm saying that if it were my kid, and their working, or getting an education, and trying to live their life, I'm not going to get in their way. Obviously someone that young won't be able to pay bills and rent themselves, but if they're working to be able to do so and not laying on their ass all day taking advantage of their parents, I see no problem with it. It's not quite their fault the way that the economy and society works. In order to get somewhere in life you need a job, in order to get a job you need education, and for education you need money. It's a vicious cycle. I'm not going to punish my kids with those rules because of that. Just my opinion in a hypothetical situation. It'd be different if they were harming themselves or others. Having a significant other in their room isn't included in that list.
  • **Vampi... peaches 2012/07/18 18:51:38
    **Vampire Redefined**
    Yeah I dunno either I even still have a curfew
  • LunarRain 2012/07/18 03:25:49
    No
    LunarRain
    +1
    They only let him sometimes when he is helping me with stuff or were taking care of the bunny but his parents don't care.
  • Jackie G - Poker Playing Pa... 2012/07/18 01:15:53
    No
    Jackie G - Poker Playing Patriot
    And they should not - when you reach the age of 18 and older, move out, get your own place and make your own rules. Until that time, you live by the rules of the house your are in.
  • peaches Jackie ... 2012/07/18 03:03:53
    peaches
    +1
    Doesn't mean I can't disagree with the rules that are set. Besides, it's funny that you think that an 18 year old can actually move out and support themselves this day in age.
  • Jackie ... peaches 2012/07/18 15:18:57
    Jackie G - Poker Playing Patriot
    Who said that?? People graduating from college cannot find work (50% of them all), 23 million are unemployed, underemployed and have just stopped looking for work. All thanks to the policies of our loser president.

    No, what I said was that it was your remedy to your problem - I did not say your could do it or could not --- only that it was the ultimate answer. And I agree, you can certainly disagree with the rules; you are just faced with following them until the day you are on your own.

    Hey, have a good day
  • peaches Jackie ... 2012/07/19 16:24:26
    peaches
    Yeah, well if I were a parents, I'd understand how hard that would be and still allow them to live THEIR life while in my house. That's just my logic... I think it's silly when parents are so overprotective over their adult children...
  • Jackie ... peaches 2012/07/19 16:30:40
    Jackie G - Poker Playing Patriot
    +1
    I guess that is one way of looking at it - overprotective is in the eyes of the beholder for sure; One thing is certain, they do care and love their children- silly or not.
  • peaches Jackie ... 2012/07/19 16:33:51
    peaches
    +1
    Well of course. But you had them for 18 years to raise them right, and I would trust that I could do that. If not, it's still their life. Guidelines are certainly acceptable to show that you care and love them, but not silly restricting rules.
  • Jackie ... peaches 2012/07/19 16:44:25
    Jackie G - Poker Playing Patriot
    :You made me smile - I suspect that they do not see them as silly or restricting; rather they see them as caring, and loving.

    Later, have a great day
  • POWERSHAKER 2012/07/18 00:59:27
    Yes
    POWERSHAKER
    +1
    Yes. My mother and step-dad let my girlfriend go in my bedroom. I can't say it's appropriate, but my parents weren't very strict that way. Once in awhile, they would say stuff about us kissing in the pool and stuff. However, that's about it.
  • XXrawwwrXX 2012/07/17 23:13:11
    Yes
    XXrawwwrXX
    +1
    well, she honestly didnt care. my boyfriends mom let me live in his room, when we were living with her (though we werent dating then)
  • Vision of Verve 2012/07/17 23:08:18
  • Stryder 2012/07/17 22:51:20
    Yes
    Stryder
    +1
    But the door had to remain open.
  • peaches Stryder 2012/07/18 03:04:51
    peaches
    Yes, that's always been a rule here too. I've never had a problem with that
  • METALheadMom 2012/07/17 22:16:20
    No
    METALheadMom
    Get real. My parents were never in a million years going to condone us doing things they told us we should not be doing.
  • peaches METALhe... 2012/07/17 22:22:34
    peaches
    Are you assuming that just because we're alone together that means that we're having sex, right? Wrong. We're not doing anything that my parents told us we shouldn't be doing.
  • Marianne723 2012/07/17 22:03:19
    No
    Marianne723
    it's called "morality"...know what that is?
  • peaches Mariann... 2012/07/17 22:15:54
    peaches
    +1
    What does morality have to do with this?
    I don't think it's very moral to give a responsible person a freedom and then just yank it away because they realize that they may have been wrong. Because of something that has nothing to do with their relationship, but because of their sister.
  • Happy 2012/07/17 21:56:04
    Undecided
    Happy
    +2
    I have never dated, so i wouldn't know. Its not because they won't let me date, i just never have. My older sister has never dated either, we are kind of a forever alone family. They would probably allow it since i am responsible, but i can't say for sure.
  • peaches Happy 2012/07/17 21:58:07
    peaches
    +1
    I thought they would because I am responsible as well, but I guess not. Lucky you for not having to go through with this kind of stuff, I guess (:
  • Dave Sawyer ♥ Child of God ♥ 2012/07/17 21:35:04
    No
    Dave Sawyer ♥ Child of God ♥
    +1
    And they wouldn't have, even if I had a significant other while I was a teen.

    And if they made a rule, it was their house.
  • peaches Dave Sa... 2012/07/17 21:39:46
    peaches
    Yeah well, I'd probably accept the rule if they had given it to me right from the start. But now they're just taking away a freedom that they've given me because of my sister.
  • Dave Sa... peaches 2012/07/17 21:51:25 (edited)
    Dave Sawyer ♥ Child of God ♥
    They probably thought you were too young to need the rule until they observed your behavior.

    If you want to cuddle, get a Teddy bear.
  • peaches Dave Sa... 2012/07/17 21:56:00
    peaches
    And what behavior do you think they've observed? I haven't shown any signs of irresponsibility and/or misbehavior that they shouldn't trust me. It's simply because of a possible double standard with my sister.
    And you really think that cuddling with a teddy bear is equivalent to the closeness that you can feel with a significant other? Silly.

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