BreakingUp due to lost of a baby

Give her space. Miscarriage is hard.

he should give her the space she needs but he should let her know that he is there for her if she needs him. i don't know the details like why she lost the baby, how far along she was and was the baby a planned pregnancy wanted by both because that would explain a little more what she is going through but still its a traumatic experience and he may be just too much of a reminder of what could have been..

i think he should. personally i went through the same thing. it was very depressing. my ex- girlfriend moved on quick. with in a week she found someone else. i never told anybody close to me was embarrassed, i gave her space and respected her but she ended up ending things. i am still trying to get over it but it is very diffcult almost impossible but its happening, i jus try to live everyday with the mind set to move on. its like drilling a new concept into my brain with the little chance of anything staying in. I never got counciling i wish i did..because it is that difficult at least for me, i literally almost lost everything, school, money, family and myself for a while.

he needs to give her some time think everything thro

Both your buddy and his girlfriend need to obtain some councling. They are both grieving, and they will both do it in different ways. If she is she is blaming him they can work this out in couples counciling.

Probably the best idea to give her some space!

He should respect her request. That said, she should recognize that he's grieving too. I don't think it was a "request." I think it was the first step of a total break-up. Maybe he can talk to her some first -- he's certainly entitled to tell her how he feels.

When a woman asked for space--- GIVE IT TO HER

If she wants space, tell him to give her space, but make sure he tells her that he is there for her whenever she wants him.

He should give her some space. If it's meant to be, they will get back together. If not, maybe it was never right to begin with.

Id say, give her some time apart, losing a kid is a huge thing and even though she wants to break up, im sure she doesnt really mean that. I would say, let things be for a bit, he should be respectful of her space (as she should with his) and some time apart will help them both think clearly about their relationship, and if it will carry on, etc.

Im sure she knows he is there for her if needed, and if she wants to talk he will be the first one she will go to, giving her space is the best thing I think, time will let things settle

Give her sufficient space, but still be there for emotional support. Dealing with the loss of a child is always difficult no matter what the circumstances, and I'm sure he's hurt too. Perhaps they can go to counseling together?

That sucks. I'm guessing he should let her heal in her own way, as much as it ... well ... sucks. My heart goes out to your buddy and his lady.

NEVER force anyone to stay just because he wants it. That quickly builds resentment. I have no idea why she feels she needs to break up, but it doesn't matter. She obviously does NOT want to talk about it right now, maybe she never will want to. Not everyone LIKES to have people "comfort" them ya know.

facing it together

Women don't die of miscarriage but they do require practical help and emotional support. Your partner may also need to have a D&C; or some form of medication to make sure her miscarriage is complete. She can feel fearful about the possible pain of the medical procedures and the physical consequences and also upset that she is, in her mind, ‘getting rid of her baby’. The waiting time for this is usually very stressful so being present as often as possible for her is a good idea. You may be thrown by your partner’s reaction but even capable women are often in such shock, both emotionally and physically, that they are unable to function normally.

Your partner may need you to make decisions in an area that is ordinarily her domain so it is essential at this time to check that there is clear communication between the two of you and she is comfortable with your decisions. You can only do your best and talking about it will help. Some things can be put off and if she needs time to think, abide by her wishes. For instance, if you have any baby remains, they can be suitably contained and cooled or frozen meantime, if necessary at a funeral home, until a decision about what to do with them can be made which you both agree to (see ‘Saying Goodbye’ & ‘Burial Options’).

they both should go to counseling

he should give her some time because if it was a miscarriage she has to face the fact tht her baby died inside of her and something u cant help him what is i did something different or what did i do to diverse the cruelty of my baby dieing

he souldnt ... he needs to be their for her and make sure she dosnt go into depressed mode... .... ... he should make her feel like he loves her eather wany and will stick by her for the tough times in life !

just let her talk

let her go.... give her her time to grieve. Everyone grieves in their own way.
tell him to tell her that what ever she needs he'll be there.
Once she has her mourning time she'll come back.

wow! you mean she had an abortion without telling him? or she just lost the baby? he should think it again...she may love him

Give her space. If she just the baby she needs time to think things over... There is nothing he can really do if she wants space.. They could still be friends, but she needs time to do what she wants and live her own life even after losing a kid. It's hard trust me

Give her some space. Unfortuneate this is she is probably blaming him for the whole thing right now as part of her postpartum depression.

She needs to get some very good counciling and HE needs to get some too.

She's probably more depressed that she realizes. He should both give her space but also let her know that he will be there to help her deal with it.

Let her know how he feels and let her be alone for awhile, give her some time, I think now and again everyone is entitled to it. I don't think breaking up is neccesary in the slightest though you don't have to end your relationship to have alone time for a few weeks. "Taking a break" is 95% of the time NOT temporary whatever the intentions are going into it.

Give her what she wants. If she loves you, she'll love you more for it.

...given her space. 80% of marriages that lose a child end in divorce (as did my first); it's extremely stressful and more so for the woman than for the man. He may be and stay a reminder of her loss.

This can be a tough time for a girl. Sometimes it's best to let her cope with the lose the way she wants to. When she feels ready to talk about it, she will. Until then, just make sure she knows your available when she's ready to talk about it.

Let her grieve alone for some time yet make it clear that he is there for her whenever she needs him.

Let her break up with him, because it would be bad to force it on her...I don't really understand her, but a relationship functions with both people willing. I lost a baby early on as well and the last thing I wanted was to end things with my boyfriend, but everyone is different. If she loves him, she'll most likely come crawling back after a month or sooner and accept his comfort.

accept that she maybe wants to be alone for a while, and if she loves him, she'll come back eventually.

if she loves him enough he will gain her back and as they say everything is fair in love and war

He should give her the space she's asked for, but definitely let her know he's only a phone call away, so even though she's by herself she's never alone or far from his thoughts.

If he tries to smother her with love and support when she's asked for space, she could end up resenting him for not backing off a little and associating that feeling with the loss of the baby, if that happens she'll always associate that loss with feelings of resentment for him and their relationship will probably fail, because she'll blame him without meaning to. You'd be surprised how easy it is to associate certain people with certain feelings, simply because they were around when you had whatever experience led to the feelings in the first place.

he should be with her...Just insist that he cant stand to be away from her. Try to reason with her..but if she REALLY wants some space to take all of it in maybe that's what she should have...it's hard loosing a baby. Her emotions are crazy right now. If I was him I would just stick to her side no matter what..

Give her space to grieve if that's what she wants, but after one month he should move on. I can't imagine that this is the entire story. Was he abusive during the pregnancy, mentally or physically? I can't imagine why she would wanna be alone now.

right now he should give her space if that is what she really wants....he should give her whatever makes her feel better...losing a baby is horrile :/

Go to her....now is the time that she really needs you. She needs a shoulder to cry on....don't give up on her for even a second.

He should do what he can for her.
If she really does love him, she'll be back.