Asking father for daughter's hand in marriage

by Yosyp Posted 2012/05/09 11:23:55

Related Topics: Marriage, Father

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Is that still the custom, did you ask or were you asked?

If he says no, then what?

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Mz Understood 2012/05/09 11:44:14

No

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What if my parents thought he was great and said yes while I had no desire to marry him? What if they said no and I wanted to spend my life with him? Parents have you, raise you, are there for you no matter what, but they don't know what's REALLY going on in your head when it comes to certain things.
My mother and (now) hubs didn't exactly mesh while we were dating so she would probably have said no...we've been married over 18 years. If my daughters boyfriend asked, we'd say no because we both think he's a total tool. But we aren't the ones who will have to be around him.
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La 2012/06/02 07:12:02

No

I don't think it's the custom any more.

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Swan Eshdeh 2012/05/31 11:23:53

Yes

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customary here

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micaela prinsloo 2012/05/30 17:52:27

I'll answer your questions below

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i guess it's really a 'depends'. i mean i think it's proper but what if daddy says no?

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Elz 2012/05/29 15:36:54

No

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i don't think my dad and i never discussed about this.

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POWERSHAKER 2012/05/29 06:28:10

Undecided

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It depends. These days, that's not always done.

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addie 2012/05/29 05:47:40

No

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Even if women are often seen as little girls who cannot make our own decisions.

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rwsncool 2012/05/09 18:46:51

Yes

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someday i have to....

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Jenna ☮♡ッ 2012/05/09 18:17:45

No

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I don't like that tradition. I'll marry whoever I want to marry, I don't need anyone's "permission."

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Metaldane 2012/05/09 13:43:01

Yes

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I will when I plan to get married but only if I think my gf wants me too and I like her dad because his answer won't really matter to me just hers will;).

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Bingo's Faddah 2012/05/09 12:45:58

Yes

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It's a nice custom that shows respect but it comes from a time when women were considered property. If your girl agrees to marry you and you have a job, laugh in the old man's face if he says no. Then run like hell!

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addie to Bingo's... 2012/05/29 05:49:59

So, it is not less, "nice," because of coming from the idea women are property? Really?
Okay.

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Bingo's... to addie 2012/05/29 11:30:32

You might ask rather than assume, right? Many traditions come from dark times for some group; marriage itself for one. It does show a perverted respect for the parents but customs do evolve over time. Look at Christmas and Halloween.

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Stacie 2012/05/09 12:20:04

Yes

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I'm not sure if it is still a custom or not, but my husband asked my Father for his blessing before he proposed to me.

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Mz Understood 2012/05/09 11:44:14

No

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What if my parents thought he was great and said yes while I had no desire to marry him? What if they said no and I wanted to spend my life with him? Parents have you, raise you, are there for you no matter what, but they don't know what's REALLY going on in your head when it comes to certain things.
My mother and (now) hubs didn't exactly mesh while we were dating so she would probably have said no...we've been married over 18 years. If my daughters boyfriend asked, we'd say no because we both think he's a total tool. But we aren't the ones who will have to be around him.

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Rural Charmer 2012/05/09 11:25:47

Yes

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I think I will, when I get there

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