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Are Young Men Getting Unfairly Labeled As Sex Offenders?

Living 2010/05/12 17:42:23
While young girls certainly need to protect themselves from sex offenders, young men should be concerned as well. Not just about sex offenders, but getting unfairly placed on the list themselves - and having their lives irreparably damaged in the process.

When Ricky Blackman was 16, he met a girl at a teen club in Des Moines. She told him she was 15, they dated, and their relationship turned sexual. When the young woman ran away from home, police questioned Blackman about the girl’s whereabouts. During this time, Blackman admitted to the police he’d had sex with the girl twice. The police then told him the girl was actually 13 and, two weeks later, he was arrested.

Although Blackman’s record was expunged by a sympathetic judge in Iowa, the problem followed him to Oklahoma, where he’d moved with his family and where his name remained on their state sex offender list for the next four years. He was unable to attend high school, visit the town library or go to his younger brother’s basketball games. He and his family were harassed and his picture and home address were posted on a vigilante website. The experience transformed him from an outgoing, cheerful athlete into a paranoid introvert. Blackman’s mother now devotes her time to reforming sex offender legislations, and works as the chief operating officer of Sex Offender Solutions And Education Network. “What keeps me going? My anger, my guilt,” she said. “My ignorance is why Ricky’s on this registry…I didn’t know how to protect my son when I talked to those cops.”

Blackman is not the only victim. An 18 year-old male carnival worker was convicted of “Indecent Assault and Battery on a Child” when his hand brushed against a young woman’s buttocks while buckling her into a carnival ride. He spent 9 months in jail and is now on the Sex Offender
Registry for Life. Another 18 year-old man was arrested for and convicted of “Visual Sexual Aggression Against a Child” after a confused young girl burst into the men’s room while he was using the urinal. He spent six months in jail and has also been placed on the Sex Offender Registry for 10 years.

Are we being overly zealous with the Sex Offender Registry? Or do you believe that we can never be too careful when it comes to sex offenders?
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  • Lynn 2011/04/12 04:29:28
    Lynn
    +5
    If there is something I can do to help reform sex offender legislation, let me know. I am so hurt and mad. My 20 year old grandson was approached by a 13 year old girl (who looks, acts, and talks much older). both lied to each other about their age. she invites him to her house, gramma catches them. he didn't have sex with her but heavy petting. gramma tells her dad. next day dad takes her to the police department. next day grandson is arrested. he has been in jail for 4 weeks now. Turns out the girl has been caught giving bjobs to other boy (not grandson). ACTUALLY CAUGHT IN A PUBLIC PLACE with all ages. like she is trolling for guys. so far two young guys have been arrested (my grandson being one of them). turns out she was raped when she was younger (l don't know the whole story), messed around with drugs, cutting herself and now sex. So these young guys have to pay for it. In the meantime, she is still out trolling and doing her stuff.
    Granted my grandson made a stupid decision to be with her. But he is paying for this, jail, court, attorney.... she's out doing the same old stuff??? what the hell? Bail is too high to get him out of jail. We heard her testimony. Even the judge said she was the "aggressor". But the DA is still pressing charges, because her father wants to.
    I'm not kidding, my grandson is the victim here. I think the dad is so mad at the daughter that he is out to make anyone and everyone pay. IT'S NOT RIGHT!!

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  • michelle 2013/01/05 02:19:53
  • Lynn 2011/04/12 04:29:28
    Lynn
    +5
    If there is something I can do to help reform sex offender legislation, let me know. I am so hurt and mad. My 20 year old grandson was approached by a 13 year old girl (who looks, acts, and talks much older). both lied to each other about their age. she invites him to her house, gramma catches them. he didn't have sex with her but heavy petting. gramma tells her dad. next day dad takes her to the police department. next day grandson is arrested. he has been in jail for 4 weeks now. Turns out the girl has been caught giving bjobs to other boy (not grandson). ACTUALLY CAUGHT IN A PUBLIC PLACE with all ages. like she is trolling for guys. so far two young guys have been arrested (my grandson being one of them). turns out she was raped when she was younger (l don't know the whole story), messed around with drugs, cutting herself and now sex. So these young guys have to pay for it. In the meantime, she is still out trolling and doing her stuff.
    Granted my grandson made a stupid decision to be with her. But he is paying for this, jail, court, attorney.... she's out doing the same old stuff??? what the hell? Bail is too high to get him out of jail. We heard her testimony. Even the judge said she was the "aggressor". But the DA is still pressing charges, because her father wants to.
    I'm not kidding, my grandson is the victim here. I think the dad is so mad at the daughter that he is out to make anyone and everyone pay. IT'S NOT RIGHT!!
  • michelle Lynn 2013/01/05 02:30:46
  • amber 2010/05/13 18:51:20
    amber
    +3
    i think if the girl lies about it she should be introuble and not the boy. i mean if its not a huge age diff. nothing should be said . the way i look at is you cant rape the willing
  • Steven Cav amber 2014/05/01 19:51:01
    Steven Cav
    +1
    If a kid lies about their age to buy alcohol they are charged - why not for this. It was not the adult who lied, and the adult had no intention of breaking the law.
  • AngelaCraig 2010/05/13 18:16:52
    AngelaCraig
    +3
    My brother in law is on a sex offenders list.. for statutory rape, with a girl who was 3 years younger.(she was only weeks from her 18th boirthday btw), her father is the one who filed the charges and all. My brother did actual prison time for it.

    It is completely ridiculous that things like that happen... Violent offenders... predators.. certainly.. but a couple of kids making out?? W T F??


    While I do feel we must be cautious.. we also must look at the individual cases.
  • michelle AngelaC... 2013/01/05 02:31:52
    michelle
    +9
    I agree!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
  • ChrisWingard 2010/05/13 17:22:38 (edited)
  • ««Gingey, the Master Debate... 2010/05/13 16:44:57
    ««Gingey, the Master Debater of Þ|-|Дэ†»»
    +1
    Yes, it's so ridiculous. There was an 18 year old in my neighborhood who got on the sex offender list for dating a 15 year old. Flippin' stupid.
  • van-allengirl212 2010/05/13 14:53:40
    van-allengirl212
    I have a sex offender living up my road. When he first moved in no one let there kids out of the house
  • michelle van-all... 2013/01/05 02:33:44
    michelle
    +9
    I sure wish they could list their offense or situation. He could of been a 16 yr old kissing and that could put him on the list. SHAME!
  • Takoma543 2010/05/13 14:49:32
    Takoma543
    wow those stories are really ridiculous! that not fair for those men=l
  • Kirby 2010/05/13 14:45:44
  • vannuck 2010/05/13 14:26:41
    vannuck
    +1
    They are definitly over doing it...they need to take a chill pill not every guy taking a piss or having sex is a sex offender..
  • mbithi.james 2010/05/13 14:06:00
    mbithi.james
    +1
    i think this is unfair man these incidences are just accidents
  • keliffa 2010/05/13 11:38:35
    keliffa
    +1
    Yes, they have gone too far. How about those little boys that were playing with their classmates? They were ALL slapping each other on the butt and 2 boys were arrested and actually spent time in jail and I believe are going to court for sexual battery.
  • Alex 2010/05/13 08:15:16
    Alex
    +3
    For real cases I say castration is a good solution, r capital punishment. But for the above cases it's just a stupid system and needs a total overhaul.
  • Steven Cav Alex 2014/05/01 19:52:03
    Steven Cav
    +1
    If the girl lies, she should get the same punishment as what the guy would have gotten.
  • FallenOnyx 2010/05/13 07:50:36
    FallenOnyx
    +1
    I had a friend get caught peeing behind a bush in a park in the middle of the night. They charged him with vagrancy, lewd conduct, and sexual harassment. They then tried to register him as a sex offender. Now, I'm all for keeping track of perverts, but it loses its power when lawyers and police officers don't use the good sense God gave them.
  • ChrisWi... FallenOnyx 2010/05/13 17:26:45 (edited)
  • FallenOnyx ChrisWi... 2010/05/13 20:00:56
    FallenOnyx
    +1
    Its frustrating that our government seems to think that creating more and more laws is gonna fix the problem. They need to enforce the ones they have and stop trying to nail people on technicalities. Every day I am reminded that common sense is just not all that common.
  • ChrisWi... FallenOnyx 2010/05/13 20:05:48 (edited)
  • FallenOnyx ChrisWi... 2010/05/13 21:23:28
    FallenOnyx
    +1
    If that's the case, it's sheer laziness on the part of the police and the courts. I can walk down the street right now and find a plethora of people committing crimes they should be arrested for. Hell, if they really have nothing to do they could give social services a hand. They are swamped with sh*tty parents and neglected children.
  • ChrisWi... FallenOnyx 2010/05/13 22:59:28
  • 2468 2010/05/13 07:19:11
    2468
    +2
    This may technically rise to the level of a Sex Offense, but really we know the reason for all the laws are the real sexual predators. Puppy love and hormones are different than stalking a playground and grabbing a child for an abuse session.

    Sometimes the law is not the best judge.
  • gummi bear39 2010/05/13 06:59:29
    gummi bear39
    There has to be more to the story than that, there's probably another reason.
  • lea_bil... gummi b... 2010/08/16 00:30:36
    lea_billings
    +2
    no there isn't more to the story, all it takes is for the girl to under the age of consent and the boy goes to prison.
  • Kalayaan 001 2010/05/13 06:51:34 (edited)
    Kalayaan 001
    A Sex Offender Registry is not necessary.

    Seriously, people have to stop suing one another.

    Just castrate the sex offenders and replace P.E. in schools with self-defense and martial arts classes.
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    registry castrate sex offenders replace schools self-defense martial arts classes
  • Knox 2010/05/13 06:32:53
    Knox
    +1
    "18 year-old man was arrested for and convicted of “Visual Sexual Aggression Against a Child” after a confused young girl burst into the men’s room while he was using the urinal. He spent six months in jail and has also been placed on the Sex Offender Registry for 10 years."

    REALLY???? wtf...
  • michelle Knox 2013/01/05 02:40:48
    michelle
    +12
    OK this one take the F**king Cake!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cant even believe this one happened.
  • ~Roxy~Navy~Brat~ 2010/05/13 06:17:29
    ~Roxy~Navy~Brat~
    +1
    some of it is really stupid reasons to be put on the SOR like the last one mentioned I feel bad for those guys, we need to be careful how we use it considering how much damage it can do to someones life.
  • Derek 2010/05/13 04:53:15
    Derek
    Personally I would rather have a few people unfairly detained than let many actual offenders go scot-free. Because I'm sure that if a legislation was passed to protect unjustly accused young men, the REAL sex offenders would abuse it.

    Same thing happens with police brutality laws: they are set to protect people who might be innocent from getting roughed-up by policemen who are power-crazed or had a bad night; but there are times when real thugs use them against their captors in court, when everyone else thinks a smack was 100% justified.

    No good deed goes unpunished I guess.
  • lea_bil... Derek 2010/08/16 00:21:01
    lea_billings
    +4
    If it were just a few Derek, that would be one thing, but it is thousands of young guys, and because of this, law enforcement is stretched so thin trying to cover ALL the cases being thrown at them, that they don't have time to monitor the ones who are a REAL danger. Most of these are young guys who don't have the experience or the finances to fight the charges and end up terrified into taking a plea bargain, which turns out not to be any kind of a bargain because the rest of their live is ruined by being on the Sex Offender Registry. Then everyone thinks they are nothing but a predator and child molester when all they did was date a girl like a million other guys, but she turned out to be underage.
  • Derek lea_bil... 2010/10/04 03:44:51
    Derek
    I'm not saying the law is perfect, but since you planted the problem with it so well, why don't you suggest a change to it that would solve these problems? Because personally I cannot think of one that would not exhaust the man-power and budget of the state.
  • michelle lea_bil... 2013/01/05 02:43:51
  • michelle Derek 2013/01/05 02:42:47
    michelle
    +10
    Until its a family member of yours!
  • aSeattleConservative 2010/05/13 04:42:44
    aSeattleConservative
    "When the young woman ran away from home,..."

    13 isn't a "woman".

    Obvious biased reporting. There's more to the story.
  • lea_bil... aSeattl... 2010/08/16 00:35:44
    lea_billings
    +3
    no there isn't more to the story, the girl was underage, that is all it takes to put a guy in prison. There are couples that are married where the husband is still registering as a sex offender because of their relationship and the wife is the former "victim", simply because of an age difference set up by the government.
  • aSeattl... lea_bil... 2010/08/16 07:44:24
    aSeattleConservative
    Based on your writings, I sense you're against age of consent laws.
  • lea_bil... aSeattl... 2013/01/14 18:44:10
    lea_billings
    When the government is deciding that someone is a child until they are 18, yes I disagree with that. Once puberty occurs, many teens feel that they are adults and can make the choice to have sex, some not even realizing that there are laws against it. They are behaving based on their hormones, not on what some "old person" has decided should be the law.

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