If there is something I can do to help reform sex offender legislation, let me know. I am so hurt and mad. My 20 year old grandson was approached by a 13 year old girl (who looks, acts, and talks much older). both lied to each other about their age. she invites him to her house, gramma catches them. he didn't have sex with her but heavy petting. gramma tells her dad. next day dad takes her to the police department. next day grandson is arrested. he has been in jail for 4 weeks now. Turns out the girl has been caught giving bjobs to other boy (not grandson). ACTUALLY CAUGHT IN A PUBLIC PLACE with all ages. like she is trolling for guys. so far two young guys have been arrested (my grandson being one of them). turns out she was raped when she was younger (l don't know the whole story), messed around with drugs, cutting herself and now sex. So these young guys have to pay for it. In the meantime, she is still out trolling and doing her stuff.
Granted my grandson made a stupid decision to be with her. But he is paying for this, jail, court, attorney.... she's out doing the same old stuff??? what the hell? Bail is too high to get him out of jail. We heard her testimony. Even the judge said she was the "aggressor". But the DA is still pressing charges, because her father wants to.
I'm not kidding, my grandson is the victim here. I think the dad is so mad at the daughter that he is out to make anyone and everyone pay. IT'S NOT RIGHT!!
Are Young Men Getting Unfairly Labeled As Sex Offenders?
SodaHead Living
2010/05/12 17:42:23
While young girls certainly need to protect themselves from sex offenders, young men should be concerned as well. Not just about sex offenders, but getting unfairly placed on the list themselves - and having their lives irreparably damaged in the process.
When Ricky Blackman was 16, he met a girl at a teen club in Des Moines. She told him she was 15, they dated, and their relationship turned sexual. When the young woman ran away from home, police questioned Blackman about the girl’s whereabouts. During this time, Blackman admitted to the police he’d had sex with the girl twice. The police then told him the girl was actually 13 and, two weeks later, he was arrested.
Although Blackman’s record was expunged by a sympathetic judge in Iowa, the problem followed him to Oklahoma, where he’d moved with his family and where his name remained on their state sex offender list for the next four years. He was unable to attend high school, visit the town library or go to his younger brother’s basketball games. He and his family were harassed and his picture and home address were posted on a vigilante website. The experience transformed him from an outgoing, cheerful athlete into a paranoid introvert. Blackman’s mother now devotes her time to reforming sex offender legislations, and works as the chief operating officer of Sex Offender Solutions And Education Network. “What keeps me going? My anger, my guilt,” she said. “My ignorance is why Ricky’s on this registry…I didn’t know how to protect my son when I talked to those cops.”
Blackman is not the only victim. An 18 year-old male carnival worker was convicted of “Indecent Assault and Battery on a Child” when his hand brushed against a young woman’s buttocks while buckling her into a carnival ride. He spent 9 months in jail and is now on the Sex Offender
Registry for Life. Another 18 year-old man was arrested for and convicted of “Visual Sexual Aggression Against a Child” after a confused young girl burst into the men’s room while he was using the urinal. He spent six months in jail and has also been placed on the Sex Offender Registry for 10 years.
Are we being overly zealous with the Sex Offender Registry? Or do you believe that we can never be too careful when it comes to sex offenders?
When Ricky Blackman was 16, he met a girl at a teen club in Des Moines. She told him she was 15, they dated, and their relationship turned sexual. When the young woman ran away from home, police questioned Blackman about the girl’s whereabouts. During this time, Blackman admitted to the police he’d had sex with the girl twice. The police then told him the girl was actually 13 and, two weeks later, he was arrested.
Although Blackman’s record was expunged by a sympathetic judge in Iowa, the problem followed him to Oklahoma, where he’d moved with his family and where his name remained on their state sex offender list for the next four years. He was unable to attend high school, visit the town library or go to his younger brother’s basketball games. He and his family were harassed and his picture and home address were posted on a vigilante website. The experience transformed him from an outgoing, cheerful athlete into a paranoid introvert. Blackman’s mother now devotes her time to reforming sex offender legislations, and works as the chief operating officer of Sex Offender Solutions And Education Network. “What keeps me going? My anger, my guilt,” she said. “My ignorance is why Ricky’s on this registry…I didn’t know how to protect my son when I talked to those cops.”
Blackman is not the only victim. An 18 year-old male carnival worker was convicted of “Indecent Assault and Battery on a Child” when his hand brushed against a young woman’s buttocks while buckling her into a carnival ride. He spent 9 months in jail and is now on the Sex Offender
Registry for Life. Another 18 year-old man was arrested for and convicted of “Visual Sexual Aggression Against a Child” after a confused young girl burst into the men’s room while he was using the urinal. He spent six months in jail and has also been placed on the Sex Offender Registry for 10 years.
Are we being overly zealous with the Sex Offender Registry? Or do you believe that we can never be too careful when it comes to sex offenders?
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Lynn 2011/04/12 04:29:28
Granted my grandson made a stupid decision to be with her. But he is paying for this, jail, court, attorney.... she's out doing the same old stuff??? what the hell? Bail is too high to get him out of jail. We heard her testimony. Even the judge said she was the "aggressor". But the DA is still pressing charges, because her father wants to.
I'm not kidding, my grandson is the victim here. I think the dad is so mad at the daughter that he is out to make anyone and everyone pay. IT'S NOT RIGHT!!
It is completely ridiculous that things like that happen... Violent offenders... predators.. certainly.. but a couple of kids making out?? W T F??
While I do feel we must be cautious.. we also must look at the individual cases.
Sometimes the law is not the best judge.
Seriously, people have to stop suing one another.
Just castrate the sex offenders and replace P.E. in schools with self-defense and martial arts classes.
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REALLY???? wtf...
Same thing happens with police brutality laws: they are set to protect people who might be innocent from getting roughed-up by policemen who are power-crazed or had a bad night; but there are times when real thugs use them against their captors in court, when everyone else thinks a smack was 100% justified.
No good deed goes unpunished I guess.
13 isn't a "woman".
Obvious biased reporting. There's more to the story.