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Are You Obligated to Invite the Whole Class to Your Kids' Birthday Party?

Catch My Party 2012/07/17 18:00:00
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At my daughter's school the policy was "invite the whole class," but I wish we could have done something smaller with girls only.

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  • fairiefang -annoying fashio... 2012/07/18 01:12:51
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    fairiefang -annoying fashion snobs everywhere-
    +4
    I've never understood schools/classes that have stupid rules like that. It's as dumb and pointless as "everyone is a winner" in kids sports. They won't learn from this kind of sheltering and babying. What are they going to do when they grow up and aren't invited to a co-workers party?
    Plus, you'd think the school would be reasonable enough to at least accept that you wanted a girls only party. It's not like any one child is being left out that way.
    Schools shouldn't even be allowed to have these rules. Not their kids so it's not their right to dictate party invites.

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  • fairiefang -annoying fashio... 2012/07/18 01:12:51
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    fairiefang -annoying fashion snobs everywhere-
    +4
    I've never understood schools/classes that have stupid rules like that. It's as dumb and pointless as "everyone is a winner" in kids sports. They won't learn from this kind of sheltering and babying. What are they going to do when they grow up and aren't invited to a co-workers party?
    Plus, you'd think the school would be reasonable enough to at least accept that you wanted a girls only party. It's not like any one child is being left out that way.
    Schools shouldn't even be allowed to have these rules. Not their kids so it's not their right to dictate party invites.
  • Adrian1265 fairief... 2012/07/18 10:43:56
    Adrian1265
    Yeah schools can be control freaks sometimes ;)
  • tobe 2012/07/18 01:12:23
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    tobe
    +1
    but I wouldnt go to the point of inviting all the kids in the class except one or two.
  • boss hawg 2012/07/18 00:46:04
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    boss hawg
    +3
    go ahead and teach your kid/kids that life isn't fair.
  • Vision of Verve 2012/07/18 00:42:36
  • Sister Wolf 2012/07/18 00:20:39
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Sister Wolf
    no you are not obligated not even close. your child talks to probably four or five and that's who you do.
  • Autumn 2012/07/18 00:20:15
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Autumn
    +2
    If you hand out the invitations at school and leave people out, it's rude.

    If you mail the invitations and keep the party low key, it's selective. ;)
  • YeahISaidIt 2012/07/18 00:19:28
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    YeahISaidIt
    +1
    If it's at the school during class then yes but if it's at your house you don't have to invite all those little bastards over.
  • Lyndzz 2012/07/18 00:05:34
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Lyndzz
    +1
    Its up to the kid. I always enjoyed having all my class over for a birthday party because I was one of the few people who did it and that's what I wanted, where as my niece prefers to have a couple of the girls over for a sleepover or something and that's what she likes. I don't think there should be any pressure on the kid to have the whole class over unless they want to.
  • sick'n'tired 2012/07/17 23:57:18
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    sick'n'tired
    Hell no.
  • wildcat 2012/07/17 23:55:45
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    wildcat
    +1
    But at our school, if you hand out the invitations during school or on the bus you must hand one out to all the kids in the class.
  • *Mahogany Goddess 2012/07/17 23:54:26
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    *Mahogany Goddess
    +1
    Don't; my little cousin just had his friends from school, not the whole class attend. Plus they can't tell you what to do with your own kid and her BD at home.
  • Cunningmungus 2012/07/17 23:32:49 (edited)
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Cunningmungus
    It's essential to establish cliques, a hierarchy of popularity, and to ostracize the weak at an early age, so the psychotherapy and mood altering pharmaceutical industries can thrive for generations to come. phsychologist couch
  • David 2012/07/17 23:30:19
    You can limit it to just boys, or just girls
    David
    +1
    If you invite everyone, except one or two, then it becomes a problem!

    However, if you invite some close friends and the majority are not invited that is okay!
  • volley15 2012/07/17 23:27:31
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    volley15
    +1
    However if you purposely don't invite one or two kids just because when you invite everyone else then that's just being mean.
  • Rob 2012/07/17 23:23:38
    It is only fair to invite everyone
    Rob
    +2
    Of Course!

    You invite the lil' kids over, then get the addresses and send the parents a bill for food, beverages and entertainment...works like a charm....
  • Rob Rob 2012/07/17 23:24:14
    Rob
    Just kidding!!
  • Miss Bela Rae 2012/07/17 23:19:13
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Miss Bela Rae
    When I was little, my mom always said I could invite whoever I wanted, but I always told her I didn't want a party, I just wanted one or two friends to come over. I don't have any friends now except for my best friend Alissa (we kept moving) and I met her after I turned thirteen, so she didn't get to spend that birthday with me, and this year I was in Mississippi (I still am but I'm going back to Alabama sometime soon)
  • Callaway 2012/07/17 23:16:23
    It is only fair to invite everyone
    Callaway
    Early on K-3rd everyone got an invite, then as he got older I narrowed it down to his close friends. Kids form up little clicks early enough by themselves without starting it too early in school.
  • artistheweapon 2012/07/17 23:15:40
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    artistheweapon
    at least, thats how my mother was for me. and my birthday being on christmas, i never really had a real birthday party with friends, it was always the same family holiday dinner
  • sockpuppet 2012/07/17 22:55:34
    You can limit it to just boys, or just girls
    sockpuppet
    +2
    I think it's good form to invite the whole class (or just boys or girls). The problem arises, as it did in my 6th grade class, when one or two students are ostracized by the group.

    If you want a small party, just invite your kid's very best friends. That shouldn't cause any problem.
  • ↓←↑♣→NVL←♣↑→↓ 2012/07/17 22:45:36
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    ↓←↑♣→NVL←♣↑→↓
    Why invite people that you either don't like, your not friends with, don't know them, not comfortable being around with, or your polar opposite? If your invited then your invited.
  • MOMMA THOMAS 2012/07/17 22:40:50
    It is only fair to invite everyone
    MOMMA THOMAS
    IF IT'S A BIG PARTY. ....OR TELL THEM MOM LIMITED THE NUMBER OF INVITES.
  • Lycaste skinneri 2012/07/17 22:31:42
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Lycaste skinneri
    I NEVER invited the whole class to my birthday parties. I've always invited close friends.
  • FanOreilly 2012/07/17 22:26:13
    It is only fair to invite everyone
    FanOreilly
    As for little kids, yes.

    Children are sensitive and should be treated as children.
  • CysticFibrosisMama 2012/07/17 22:25:29
    It is only fair to invite everyone
    CysticFibrosisMama
    It was the principle I was raised on. You do not want to be the person who leaves others out. Perfect way to lose friends, create enemies and cause drama.
  • skyebrand 2012/07/17 22:17:17
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    skyebrand
    My daughter only invites her friends & the other parents seem to do the same. I don't think there is any obligation for everyone to be invited at all!
  • Elizabeth 2012/07/17 22:12:43
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Elizabeth
    i hate 5-6 ppl at my school, i wouldn't wanna invite them. >:(
  • MlssCue =Go Blue= 2012/07/17 22:12:13
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    MlssCue =Go Blue=
    Nope, I have only allowed my girls to invite their friends from class. Wait, the policy? What? How can they tell you who you can & can't invite to YOUR home! Bull crap!
  • Christopher Kirchen 2012/07/17 22:08:24
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Christopher Kirchen
    Life is that way; you won't be friends with everyone, and no one should try to force you to.
  • Jen 2012/07/17 22:02:10 (edited)
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Jen
    It is up to how many you feel is appropriate. However if ALL r not being invited the invites should be mailed. I always made my kids mail them or hand delivered to the friends home.

    I also advise ya think about what your getting into because ya set yourself to do it for every Birthday or even an expectation of having more people every year. I highly recommend to go small. slumber party
  • Rob Jen 2012/07/17 23:26:47
    Rob
    I want to be invited to the party pictured above..they look like they need a male presence.
  • Nekosarethebest 2012/07/17 21:58:21
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Nekosarethebest
    How do they know. That is stupid....
  • Juan O'Mara 2012/07/17 21:30:10
    It is only fair to invite everyone
    Juan O'Mara
    +1
    vhee dont vant people to have zee butthurt no?
  • JDLogan 2012/07/17 21:20:37
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    JDLogan
    +2
    Our school also requires invitations distributed at school be given to the entire class, but there is a simple solution, distribute them outside of school.
  • MlssCue... JDLogan 2012/07/17 22:13:43
    MlssCue =Go Blue=
    I've never heard such a thing, about the entire class being given an invite. I mean yeah I can see why but kids learn when they are young that some things you'll be included in & some things you won't, that's life...
  • Crypt_H... MlssCue... 2012/07/17 23:08:32
    Crypt_Heart
    +1
    Unfortunately some teachers don't see it that way. Usually during or after a period of 'inclusion training' which teaches the teachers that getting all children included is good practice.
  • skyebrand JDLogan 2012/07/17 22:18:58
    skyebrand
    +1
    Is it a private school because I can't imagine a public school would be allowed to dictate who you can & can't invite into your home.
  • MlssCue... skyebrand 2012/07/17 23:20:22
    MlssCue =Go Blue=
    Heck even a private school.
  • JDLogan skyebrand 2012/07/18 00:47:12
    JDLogan
    Actually public schools are far worse, everyone is equal, everyone is included; I wish I could afford private school, as it is, I just supplement my children's education at home.

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