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Catch My Party 2012/07/17 18:00:00
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At my daughter's school the policy was "invite the whole class," but I wish we could have done something smaller with girls only.
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  • fairiefang -annoying fashio... 2012/07/18 01:12:51
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    fairiefang -annoying fashion snobs everywhere-
    +4
    I've never understood schools/classes that have stupid rules like that. It's as dumb and pointless as "everyone is a winner" in kids sports. They won't learn from this kind of sheltering and babying. What are they going to do when they grow up and aren't invited to a co-workers party?
    Plus, you'd think the school would be reasonable enough to at least accept that you wanted a girls only party. It's not like any one child is being left out that way.
    Schools shouldn't even be allowed to have these rules. Not their kids so it's not their right to dictate party invites.
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  • realist 2012/07/18 12:37:34
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    realist
    Though unless someone is an ass to me I will always give them an invite simply to be polite.
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  • Osk The Great Guru 2012/07/18 12:13:19
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Osk The Great Guru
    Good thing I never had this issue since my birthdays were always during Summer Vacations (August birthday); although, I always was curious what a birthday was like with friends
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  • 001 2012/07/18 11:55:24
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    001
    How stupid that the school has policies for that, it's non of their buisiness. They shouldn't have to invite anyone they don't want to and they shouldn't have to limit it to classmates either. The only situation in which it would be unfair is to invite the whole class except one or two people.
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  • Tella6 2012/07/18 11:32:16
    You can limit it to just boys, or just girls
    Tella6
    If its your party, do what you want.
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  • the fuze 2012/07/18 11:20:53
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    the fuze
    Just invite the kids you want but don't do it @ school.
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  • bmxschoolbus 2012/07/18 11:16:14
    It is only fair to invite everyone
    bmxschoolbus
    +1
    that way no one feels left out. to me it is kind of good in the elementary years
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  • MentalC... bmxscho... 2012/07/18 11:42:01
    MentalCabbage
    +2
    I have been left out very many times,just to realize that I don't want to be around people who don't want to be around me.I had to stick to those who liked me anyway.:)
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  • Adrian1265 2012/07/18 10:42:39
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Adrian1265
    +1
    This is crap for many reasons:
    1. If your child is bullied should you invite the bully as well to ruin ur child's birthday
    2. If you have a small house and can only have 5 childern for example .....
    3. Having a whole class in your house, ALL under ur responsibility is hard :S
    4. More children = more expenses (both the food and even broken stuff like a vase)
    5. The school should have no right over what you do in ur house
    6. Sometimes it is more fun for ur child to have his/her close friends only

    My opinion is to stop this crap rule:
    The only rule should be that you should not single anyone out unless he is a bully or something
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  • Aksana 2012/07/18 10:08:49
    You can limit it to just boys, or just girls
    Aksana
    not everyone
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  • AbDoU 2012/07/18 09:23:29
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    AbDoU
    You can invite whoever you want :D
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  • freakoutnow... cuz mom's here 2012/07/18 08:45:43
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    freakoutnow... cuz mom's here
    You don't have to invite everyone and even the school knows that. There policy is meant to be a fillibuster to discourage invitation from being handed out on school time that could distract the children during the school day and defuse possible conflicts on thier time caused over whether someone was invited to a birthday party or not which occurs more often when invitations are distributed at school or on the bus and someone is ignored and everyone knows it. So just either send invitations through the mail to the kids houses, through email directly to the parents, or even by making a call to the other parents of the children your daughter wants to invite. As to inviting everyone? Nice gesture but it does nothing in teaching kids about the real world and how unfair it is and life can be. Another nice party idea that is courteous is inviting everyone/most people to a party first and then only the girls/her closest girlfriends stay over for a sleepover. I did that as a child a few times.
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  • Rebellion 2012/07/18 08:38:31
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Rebellion
    But in elementary school, you're friends it's all your class so you stuff your house with them. xD
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  • nightcrawler2005 2012/07/18 08:19:59
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    nightcrawler2005
    You can invite anyone you want.
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  • weirdchickalert 2012/07/18 08:11:25
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    weirdchickalert
    I dont have a child and if i did id let my child decide who SHE/HE wanted to come their birthday party!
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  • Lyana 2012/07/18 06:46:26
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Lyana
    Oh man. XD if I had to invite the girl who bullied me in kindergarten, even then that would have been more than I could handle. LOL
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  • C4TSMILEY 2012/07/18 06:43:44
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    C4TSMILEY
    I don't have to be friends with anyone, so I don't have to invite anyone.
    I don't have kids, but I'd only invite the whole class if they wanted the whole class there.
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  • Scream 2012/07/18 06:15:58
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Scream
    +1
    I would have a maximum of 10 friends at my birthday party when I was in primary. That was 1/6 of the grade. No way I would've invited everyone.
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  • Man_Bear_Pig 2012/07/18 06:14:32
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Man_Bear_Pig
    I remember having to do that. I didn't like everyone in my classes so why the hell didi they have to eff up my birthday!!!
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  • Michelle 2012/07/18 06:12:46
    It is only fair to invite everyone
    Michelle
    +1
    I don't think it should be school policy, but I do think parents should consider carefully whether they should or should not invite the entire class. If only a handful of kids are coming or just one gender, I think that's fine; you should not be giving out invitations at school if you're doing that. But if only a handful of people will be left out (for whatever reason, be it that your child is friends with everyone except five people or that your child's class is made up of nineteen girls and six boys-- it happens), especially if invitations will be distributed at school, just invite the entire class because those who aren't going will feel terribly left out. For younger children, I think yes, you should be inviting the whole class. By this, I mean kindergarten to about grade three or four.
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  • ♠♠♠JeLLo♠♠♠ 2012/07/18 06:00:20
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    ♠♠♠JeLLo♠♠♠
    Most schools say that. I get around it by having my son get his friends phone numbers. Once you have them you can call their parents and invite only your child's friends. I do not feel it is the schools right to insist I feed almost 30 children, whatever other children they drag along, and their parents unless the school wants foot the bill.
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  • Jacob Torres 2012/07/18 05:27:11
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Jacob Torres
    If you want an all boys party or an all girls party, that's fine. My folks never made me invite anybody I didn't specifically want to hang out with, boy or girl.
    I'd suggest throwing a class-wide party if that's somehow mandatory (wtf?), then letting a few girls stay afterwards for a sleepover with only close pals.
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  • MattIsTheGeekInPink 2012/07/18 05:10:31
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    MattIsTheGeekInPink
    I've always been an anxious kid who doesn't make friends easy. Having to invite everyone in my classes would've been awful O_o
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  • CG 2012/07/18 05:09:46
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    CG
    +1
    I would tell the school that it is none of their business. Actually I have told the school that certain family matters are none of their business.
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  • Skye 2012/07/18 04:40:09
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Skye
    Everyone, except the mean ones.
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  • mwf122090 2012/07/18 04:09:22
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    mwf122090
    If you have your child bring something in for the class you should give them enough for everyone, but to invite everyone to a party in the class? That's just crazy. It's the parent's money and most likely they'd be using their own house or paying to rent a place so it should be completely up to them and their child. Not the school.
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  • Jdogg 2012/07/18 03:58:04
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Jdogg
    If this is being held at your home that's a different story.
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  • Chancy99: Plague Rat 2012/07/18 03:51:55
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Chancy99: Plague Rat
    You shouldn't be required to. Especially since another student might not be very nice to your kid. It's a nice thing to do, if you have the money or space. But in no way should the school make you invite everyone. The only thing I could see them regulating is if your child brought cupcakes for the class, to bring enough for everyone just just friends.

    I remember in elementary school, everyone usually invited everyone in our grade, but we only had about 20 kids divided into two classes(I was usually the one left out) I didn't care that I wasn't invited though, I didn't get along with the kids that didn't invite me anyways.
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  • Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞ 2012/07/18 03:42:22
    It is only fair to invite everyone
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    Per the school we have to invite everyone in the class in the elementary school. I did this for my sons 6th birthday and had to invite 24 kids and asked that the parents R.S.V.P and only 2 parents did and 10 kids showed up. I think it's stupid.
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  • ellomotto 2012/07/18 03:37:59
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    ellomotto
    +1
    Why is it the school's buisiness how you throw your kid's birthday party?
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  • mikeeonly 2012/07/18 03:34:48
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    mikeeonly
    +1
    Why would you want to invite a person who might not even be nice to your kid?
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  • cookie monster 2012/07/18 03:23:26
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    cookie monster
    +1
    Never. If people show up who I don't want there I'm not afraid to kick them out either.
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  • the judgebigdogeagle 2012/07/18 02:44:29
    It is only fair to invite everyone
    the judgebigdogeagle
    I got left out of a party from which My mom found out & confronted the forgetful Mom of the friend.That Mom was embarrassed & told Mom it surely a big mistake & invited me numerous times. Mom would not let me.But others found out and made it something else of course. It hurt for a long time.
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  • Clare 2012/07/18 02:34:04
  • EDWARD G 2012/07/18 02:02:31
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    EDWARD G
    +1
    But I would say yes if you are one of those despicable parents who sends those invitations into school with their child to hand them out. Fortunately, most teachers don't allow that.
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  • Artisan Rose ☽✪☾☥ 2012/07/18 01:51:16
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Artisan Rose ☽✪☾☥
    +1
    When I was younger, my mom would invite the whole class. Half of them didn't like me so they didn't come.
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  • ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠ 2012/07/18 01:24:40
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    +1
    When I was in elementary school, I would always have a party with everyone in the class, because it was so tiny, then all the girls would spend the night for a sleep over. :3
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  • Resp ☠ Live ... 2012/07/18 02:30:44
    Resp
    +3
    We use to do that too. We'd invite all the girls over and we would have a sleep over.

    My buddies and I were in our twenties and so were the girls.
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  • Charmaine 2012/07/18 01:24:13
    No one says you have to be friends with everyone
    Charmaine
    +2
    In my experiences with birthday parties while in elementary to high school, I was normally the one kid everyone would leave off of their invitee list. It made me sad!!!

    :-(
    :-(
    :-(

    To this day I do not attend many birthday parties, I don't really celebrate my birthday either :-(
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  • Lolita666 Charmaine 2012/07/18 03:49:55 (edited)
    Lolita666
    +1
    Me too... I felt a little sad but i was mostly angry. I only go to my best friend's birthday party and I don't celebrate my birthday either.
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  • Charmaine Lolita666 2012/07/18 04:07:40
    Charmaine
    Cool!!! :-)
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