I certainly come off as an ambivert sometimes, but I am easily worn down by being out and about in big crowds, so I'm actually an introvert who can appear extroverted if I need to. I do best on my own. Additionally, it's bull that introverts don't like to talk. We just don't like to talk unnecessarily. I could go on for days talking about subjects that interest me.
In Myers-Briggs Type Indicator tests I usually come out INFP, or some variation of INxx. Today, I am... INTP. Interesting.
That said, society does value the extrovert far more, because they're the ones who have no problem walking right up to a stranger and chatting, or going to parties or the club all night. The idea of doing those things sound exhausting to me. Extroverts are the type that can go out and be in a club, at a bar, schmoozing with the boss, talking to non-friend co-workers about their lives, or something like that... without trouble. I can do it...for a very limited amount of time, but after a while it just begins to wear me out.
Are You More of an Introvert or an Extrovert?
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Have you always considered yourself a little bit on the introverted side? Well, it's your time to shine, according to Susan Cain, author of the new book, "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking."
"It's a waste of talent and energy and happiness when we design society in such a way as to favor one over another," Cain, who spent five years studying introverts and extroverts, told USA Today, suggesting that until now, the blabbermouths have ruled the school.
From junior high to reality TV, it does seem like our society favors outgoing people -- and the literature suggests that extroverts are psychologically healthier than introverts, personality psychologist David Watson of the University of Notre Dame in Indiana told the paper.
But sometimes, it pays to be quieter and more reflective. "If you want to do something that requires sustained performance and paying attention for long periods of time, introversion is beneficial," psychologist William Revelle of Northwestern University in Evanston, Ill., told USA Today.
Watson says about 70 percent of people are somewhere in the middle between introverted and extroverted, and about 15 percent are at either end of the spectrum. But psychologist Judith Sills of Philadelphia says you're pretty much born the way you are. "We came out of the womb more or less one way or the other," she told USA Today.
Here are some pointers:
"Introversion is a type of temperament. It is not the same as shyness or having a withdrawn personality, and it is not pathological. It is also not something you can change."
"The strongest distinguishing characteristic of introverts is their energy source: Introverts draw their energy from their internal world of ideas, emotions, and impressions. They are energy conservers (as opposed to expenders). They can be easily overstimulated by the external world, experiencing the uncomfortable feeling of "too much". This can feel like antsyness or torpor. In either case, they need to limit their social experiences so they don't get drained. However, introverts need to balance their alone time with outside time, or they can lose other perspectives and connections. Introverted people who balance their energy have perseverance and the ability to think indepen...
Here are some pointers:
"Introversion is a type of temperament. It is not the same as shyness or having a withdrawn personality, and it is not pathological. It is also not something you can change."
"The strongest distinguishing characteristic of introverts is their energy source: Introverts draw their energy from their internal world of ideas, emotions, and impressions. They are energy conservers (as opposed to expenders). They can be easily overstimulated by the external world, experiencing the uncomfortable feeling of "too much". This can feel like antsyness or torpor. In either case, they need to limit their social experiences so they don't get drained. However, introverts need to balance their alone time with outside time, or they can lose other perspectives and connections. Introverted people who balance their energy have perseverance and the ability to think independently, focus deeply, and work creatively."
"Extroverts are energized by the external world - by activities, people, places, and things. Long periods of hanging out, internal contemplation, or being alone/with just one person understimulate them. However, extroverts need to balance their time doing with intervals of just being, or they can lose themselves in a whirlwind of anxious activities. Extroverts offer much to our society - they express themselves easily, they concentrate on results, and they enjoy crowds and action."
From a book called The Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney.
(even as a child .. my parents got report cards from teachers stating they enjoyed the brilliant .. but very quiet little girl in the classroom .. )
I still listen intently .. digest what I hear .. and when I do speak out loud .. believe me .. folks listen carefully ..
I think it depends on the situation I happen to be in.
Sometimes it is wonderful to be outgoing while other times it is better to sit back and just listen.
To use a comic book example...
Batman. Throws a criminal scumbag off of a roof, right before stopping him before he hits the ground, in order to intimidate him into a confession, or something. That's normal, no one bats an eye, cause it's the God Damn Batman.
Superman. The moment he uses a bad word, everyone notices and gasps in shock. It's Superman, Mr. Truth, Justice, and the American Way.
You don't notice the loud people blowing up, because it's old. They do it all the time. The moment the little mouse in the corner decides to bitch someone out... everyone stands up and takes notice.
Ex. This video. The boss is a loud, foul-mouthed bitch. No one notices. It's normal for her.
I don't know about type A's being everywhere in the work force, they're certainly made for retail management, however.
An actor does the same thing.in order to engage his/her audience through the concept of the "suspension of disbelief."