Are Women More Attracted to Jerks?

but you dont want the girl who likes jerks.

yes you do, cause she's usually the hottest

well, if that's your thing, but most of those girls are nothing but infidelity drama and STDs. I'm more of a committed relationship kind of guy.

just one of those committed relationship kind of guy huh!

I have known some very sweet attractive girls that married attractive good guys.

cant someone try to say something sarcastically or jokingly.

I answered yes, but with a caveat. Seems to me the case is this: many women confuse actual confidence with arrogance and cockiness, which are generally borne out of insecurty and ignorance. On the other hand, a nice guy who is truly confident is not going to act like an arrogant, cocky jerk. He's more likely to let you think you're right when it's not important for him to be right. A nice, confident guy is also more likely to walk away from a high-maintenance woman who thinks that unless he acts like an arrogant jerk, a guy is a pushover.

Wise up, arrogance-loving ladies - the truly confident guy does not need to prove wrong every person that insults or disagrees with him. And those cocky, arrogant guys are pretty much all hiding their own insecurity behind a facade of bluff and bluster. Personally, I take great satisfaction in that. Those women who are shallow and shortsighted will fall for the jerks. A real woman who know what she's worth and doesn't put it up for grabs to every rooster who struts past may get fooled once in a while, but in the end, she knows what to look for and will find happiness much more easily by taking her time and finding out what real confidence is. Real confidence does not need validation or a compensatory facade - it simply is.

I think jerks are just good at fooling women initially. Nobody wants a relationship with a jerk--male or female!

I don't think this just applies to women. I think something considered difficult to achieve or tame always seems more attractive in some ways than something easy to get. We like the challenge. We like the unknown. We like things not being simply handed to us. If a guy pays you too much attention and is too nice to a female, she'll probably loose interest until she has had enough of the bad boys and is ready to settle down and start a family. Only then is it that the nice or good guys start to catch most of their eye. Good guys then have to come in and deal with all the baggage the bad guys left behind.

I'm not!
I will kick them there!

It's the "I can fix" him if given the chance... never works

I know most bad boys won't change, no matter how they fix him. I mean come on why fix a bad boy, when there are fixed ones out there already.

Yes, especially women in the 20's are attracted to "bad boys." The very good looking guys are usually the bad boys because they get a lot of attention from women and can't seem to turn it down. The average or less than average looking guy has more trouble getting women, therefore has a harder time playing the bad boy. Humans are attracted to certain features that signal health and fertility. Short, fat, bald, etc.. does not signal those qualities.

Yeah judge by the appearance, come on now. I know a few guys that are good looking to women, and they are straight, and a nice guy.

Not really that interested in guys so I would have to say no.

Jerks and ugly fat guys. I got to know my friends son really well and his living habits. He's a perfect example ofa jerk; he's lazy (slept 12-16 hours day), had mommie waiting on him through his 20's, cried over lettuce or something similar on a burger, wore his shirts buttoned to the top and walked pigeon toed. He smelled like an old sock, had no personality and is ugly as they come yet, some girl actually married him. (she's kind of a pig left dirty soiled underwear around, wore pj's out in public to hide her fat) but still thought this guy was worth marrying. I swear some women in general will get together with any guy no matter what they look or act like. How many times have you seen an ugly guy with a normal or attractive woman? It's classic.

I see them around here. I saw a total of 10 ugly guys within the last week, with a very attractive woman.

My best friend (we were also a couple) passed away years ago. Ugliest guy ever, based on looks, nicest guy based on soul. Treated me better than anyone I have met in my whole life, and in turn I reciprocated. We both became better people because of the respect and love we had for one another. But maybe those ten ugly guys from last week are rich...lol

Children of any age will take advantage of their mother. That is what children do if they are allowed. lol.

In general they are.

I like nice guys and rebels ( but not the ones that don't know how to tell women about their value)

As long as I feel beautiful and loved.

There was a time in my young life that I seemed attracted to the jerks of the species. I'm happy to say I have grown out of it.

That explains why my ol' lady is attracted to me. I'm a jerk, and she's on the rag 24/7...

'Jerks' tend to be aggressive, confident, dominant and seemingly in charge. Thus they seem to provide 'security' in a partnership. And women are very big on security. 'Nice Guys', on the other hand, do not seem very confident, so women think them weak. Unfortunately, Jerks tend to be more insecure, which is why they tend toward aggression, to mask any sense of uncertainty.

im sure NOT

I'm a jerk, and women aren't attracted to ME.

Yes unfortunately. Nice guys are considered booring by many women.

Yep' the good guys get passed over, girls always go for the jerks first until they learn.

LOL...seems that way but who knows..I had one jerk in my life..so drop dead gorgeous and that kept me there for awhile but not too long..I am much more attracted to kindness, talent, intelligence and generous..and cute...and i married him 26 yrs ago. I did get a plus of no drinking, drugging, smoking or sports..LOL

Some probably are.

This subject is as endless as it gets. Here's my opinion, women consistently date jerks because they refuse to think logically about their choices. There's a dumb movie called "he's just not that into" that contains perfectly sound advice for women who keep becoming involved in the wrong kind of man. The signs are all there for you, ladies. Plain as day. But you refuse to take notice to them because you get trapped in the fantasy. Life, love...it's not a Disney movie or Twilight.

I hope not. If so I been doin it all wrong! LOL!

Women like a man who is attracted to them, aggressive, opportunistic and motivated. Those are qualities of good bread winners. Those are also qualities of many jerks too.

I am a nice guy, and If I had a wife, or a girlfriend. I would fight for her, and die for her. You are also making it seem that every girl wants to be hit too, if she won't have sex with you. Not every nice guy is weak, and not every nice guy is a douchebag. And any girl not attracted to a nice guy will have a tough life, for parts of their life. And you are making it seem that 100% of all girls are attracted to jerks. Most girls are, but not every girl.

Bear with me though. Its my opinion. This is a opinion website.

I admit,I am blowing things out of proportion. And I said spank,not hit. I didn't mean that I think all the chicks want a guy to spank them. Good god,it was an expression. I know what I said makes it seem that I have an extremely warped view,.......because I do. But I also strongly believe its true. Nice guys are not losers. I didn't mean that. What I'm saying is that in my experience of being a nice guy......its just got me walked on,laughed at,and ultimately ignored. I'm to blame for that. But I really do believe,that women love jerks,more than someone like me,who needs to gain more of the mental attributes that jerks have,and at least have the courage to try without using alcohol to make it easier to try to talk to a woman. I am not putting nice guys down in general. Have a good day. I respect your comment. You could have been a complete ass,but you didn't.

And at this point,I'm just waiting for a female to put the smackdown on me,in a comment,for how I feel,and at that,its time for me to stop being a damned troll,and find somethin better to do with my day.

lol

I understand, what you meant I was just saying. I have had similar experiences, but I am still choosing to be a nice guy.. I do too, I believe most loves jerks, not all. And glad you aren't, and I support that, and I am glad you understand. Good day to you too!