Are Big Weddings Overrated?
SodaHead Living
2012/09/23 23:51:04
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Torie Bosch at Slate makes a case for skipping the big wedding and eloping instead. Could she be on to something?
One of the primary reasons couples choose the courthouse over the big ceremony and reception is to save money. According to Brides magazine, the average wedding costs $26,989. Is it really worth it to lay down that kind of money (and possibly go into debt) for an event that takes months to plan and will be over in a couple hours? Bosch thinks not.
She writes,” I love a good wedding just as I love any party with an open bar and ‘The Electric Slide.’ But unless you are wealthy, come from a family that has never known strife, enjoy giving up an entire year of your life to planning, and can smile in the face of any possible wedding disaster (and mean it, not just for pictures), you should elope. That’s because weddings—even small-scale ones—are more pageant than sincerity.
“Many men and women have told me that their weddings were so frantic—worrying about whether the caterer was late, whether a simmering family feud was about to boil over, whether everyone who should have been thanked was acknowledged—that it felt like a blur. We all know people who were too busy on their wedding day to eat the food that they so carefully selected—and if that isn’t a demonstration that a wedding is for everyone else but the couple, I don’t know what is.”
Is Torie Bosch right in her assessment of weddings today? Or is she just too cynical? We want to know what you think SodaHeads. Are big weddings overrated?
One of the primary reasons couples choose the courthouse over the big ceremony and reception is to save money. According to Brides magazine, the average wedding costs $26,989. Is it really worth it to lay down that kind of money (and possibly go into debt) for an event that takes months to plan and will be over in a couple hours? Bosch thinks not.
She writes,” I love a good wedding just as I love any party with an open bar and ‘The Electric Slide.’ But unless you are wealthy, come from a family that has never known strife, enjoy giving up an entire year of your life to planning, and can smile in the face of any possible wedding disaster (and mean it, not just for pictures), you should elope. That’s because weddings—even small-scale ones—are more pageant than sincerity.
“Many men and women have told me that their weddings were so frantic—worrying about whether the caterer was late, whether a simmering family feud was about to boil over, whether everyone who should have been thanked was acknowledged—that it felt like a blur. We all know people who were too busy on their wedding day to eat the food that they so carefully selected—and if that isn’t a demonstration that a wedding is for everyone else but the couple, I don’t know what is.”
Is Torie Bosch right in her assessment of weddings today? Or is she just too cynical? We want to know what you think SodaHeads. Are big weddings overrated?
Read More: http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/201...
It is good for the economy. Actually wedding create far more jobs the the Chinese I-phone and the rest of dumb phones combined.
When I get married, I hope to have a small wedding. Just family and close friends. Something simple, something inexpensive.
If it's a big fancy wedding, and no open-bar, then yes, it's probably overrated.