AHHHHHH!!!!! Animal Cruelty

by NumptyNuts Posted 2012/08/06 23:49:34

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	I may as well poll you fiends. I love u by the way	3 votes	38%
	It's Rockys back leg.	5 votes	63%

This is not a poll this is a rant and rave. I went to Belfast for a two day break from the chronic alcoholic husband and he promised me he would care for my weans (the K9s Rocky and Molly). I don't know how yet but Rocky has damage to his cruciate ligament and has to have an operation to replace it. The husband says someone stepped on his paw and that person maintains Rocky got caught in the door!!!???? Someone is telling lies.
I am gutted. I love my dogs more that anything. They are loving and loyal and my best wee rascals.
I just needed to vent folks. Rocky is having surgery in the morning. The vet sedated him today so he could examine him without trauma and I sat in the cage until he went to sleep. I am so upset my friends that I can't stop crying. My sis Missile and I love our weans (that's kids by the way) and if you love dogs they become part of the family. They have quirky personalities.

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Missile 2012/08/08 16:19:57

I may as well poll you fiends. I love u by the way

Hang tough sweetie. You have to do it this time... GET RID.. xox

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Lizzy 2012/08/07 10:23:11

It's Rockys back leg.

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I would suggest you do all you can to get out of that relationship with the Alcoholic husband. You will never have a life with an alcoholic, they are so devious + the most accomplished liars. I was married to one, i also had 3 young children. He was a secret drinker, he hid it so well, it was years before i found out just how bad he was. I divorced him as no matter what i did to help him he would`nt help himself. Our life became a nightmare. It was`nt easy + i was terrified of what he`d do. Life immediately improved when he finally left. No one needs to put up with such a person, in the end you have to think of yourself + children + have some Quality to your life. Good Luck + i hope your dog is OK.

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NumptyNuts to Lizzy 2012/08/08 08:55:59

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Thanks Lizzy. I am already taking steps to get away and have him kicked out of the house. It was horrendous yesterday. He couldn't get out of bed to help me take Rocky to the vet. He then got legless the minute my back was turned and was incapable of helping me pick the K9 up. Rocky is almost 38kilos and it was a nightmare trying to get him into the car. The vets were great at the other end and lifted him in for me. He had a bottle of wine hidden under his pillow and has no idea how it got there. He's never drunk ... he's dizzy. I have wasted so much of my life on him and it has taken a terrible mental and physical toll on me. I am buying a motorhome and will get away while I sort out the legal stuff. I should have done it years ago.
I'm sorry for what you suffered but also inspired. I am so stressed it's like a ton weight on my chest. He is devoid of empathy and he's in denial Lizzy. You are so spot on with the deviousness they practice. At one point I thought I was imagining that he was drinking and thought I was going mad. Then he fell down and split his head twice. If I don't get away there will be a death in the family lol. Best wishes from the emerald isle Babe. We actually have sunshine. WeeHee. Mx

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Lizzy to NumptyNuts 2012/08/08 09:35:15

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I know exactly what you`re going through. You become so worn down by it all, the final crunch came for me when he hurt one of my son`s. I went to the police, spoke to this lovely policeman, he said " we have an alcoholic in our family ", you get so used to the way life is with them it becomes normal to you, but you must get out of this relationship as it will get worse. I even went to social services, they were`nt interested, i spoke to our Dr to see if he`d speak to my husband, my husband was well educated + well spoken, he completely fooled the Dr, the Dr thought " i was the problem !! ". I sought help from every possible avenue, No One would help. I`d warned him long before this incident i`d divorce him if he did`nt get help + stop the drinking, he threatened me if i did. I had to take action. The partner of an alcoholic does become ill themselves as life is so stressful + frightening. It`s the best thing i`ve ever done. My son`s are now grown up + have done well for themselves. So many years of my life were wasted + my boys never had a proper childhood, they did without so much as he drank everything, incurred debts, had long spells of unemployment, he always blamed someone else for all his problems, Me 1st + foremost. It`s not easy to get them out of the house, I could`nt...

I know exactly what you`re going through. You become so worn down by it all, the final crunch came for me when he hurt one of my son`s. I went to the police, spoke to this lovely policeman, he said " we have an alcoholic in our family ", you get so used to the way life is with them it becomes normal to you, but you must get out of this relationship as it will get worse. I even went to social services, they were`nt interested, i spoke to our Dr to see if he`d speak to my husband, my husband was well educated + well spoken, he completely fooled the Dr, the Dr thought " i was the problem !! ". I sought help from every possible avenue, No One would help. I`d warned him long before this incident i`d divorce him if he did`nt get help + stop the drinking, he threatened me if i did. I had to take action. The partner of an alcoholic does become ill themselves as life is so stressful + frightening. It`s the best thing i`ve ever done. My son`s are now grown up + have done well for themselves. So many years of my life were wasted + my boys never had a proper childhood, they did without so much as he drank everything, incurred debts, had long spells of unemployment, he always blamed someone else for all his problems, Me 1st + foremost. It`s not easy to get them out of the house, I could`nt get the decree absolute as he would`nt leave the house. He was offered a place on an adult education course at a college in Oxford, someone at church made these arrangements for him. He up + left leaving me with his debts, 3 kids + a house in desperate need of repair but life was Heaven without him around. I immediately changed the locks + shortly after got the decree absolute. I worked so many jobs + life was hard but Praise God we have survived. I`m so proud of my sons + i now have the house nice, the only glitch is he took me to court as he wanted the house sold, he was awarded a third of the value, i can stay here till i die but i cant move or i`ll have to pay him off, i feel trapped, i`d love to move but i have`nt the money. He put virtually nothing into the house + never supported his children. I think the judge was an alcoholic as he seemed to have sympathy for him !!!. Don`t expect things to be easy but make a plan + stick to it, your life will begin again once you are free. Good Luck. X
We also have some Sunshine this morning !!!!!
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Missile to Lizzy 2012/08/08 16:24:26

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Lizzy, thank you for what you have written in this post, Numptynuts is my sister-in-law and she needs to hear from someone like you who has lived with and divorced an alcoholic. God Bless.

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Lizzy to Missile 2012/08/08 16:42:22

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Thanks Missile, I hope she does take action + gets out of that situation very quickly as it Wont Improve at all.
I went to Alan-non hoping to get some advise, i would`nt recommend those meetings, they are So Depressing, the horror stories i heard there were awful + these people were soldiering on in these terrible relationships !!!. You have to get out, no other answer to it. The more you put up with the worse it goes, you just cant help an alcoholic.

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earlofbelmont@hotmail.com 2012/08/07 07:37:14

It's Rockys back leg.

Very hard to know what really happened. Somebody stepped ~ likely by accident - on Rocky's paw. I emphasize SOMEBODY. Who did R say did it? Can you speak to them and get their side of the story?

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NumptyNuts to earlofb... 2012/08/08 09:06:02

Hi Timbo. It's amazing to have such a support group on Sodahead don't you think? Rocky is in a lot of pain and the wound is awful looking. I moved his bed and slept with him downstairs on a foam thingy. My back is skelpin'. He cried in his sleep so much I blubbed too. You know how I am. Stitches in for 2 weeks then a review and plan to design a mobility program.
Robert says Jason stood on his paw and Jason says Rocky got caught in the door??? I'm never going to get to the bottom of it. I hit Robert with a pool Q last night and broke the bloody thing. He survived unscathed. Good job I don't have a shotgun.

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Muskoka 2012/08/07 04:16:19

I may as well poll you fiends. I love u by the way

My first thought is to get rid of hubby. He is not fit to live in a house with dogs or any animal at all.

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NumptyNuts to Muskoka 2012/08/08 09:08:20

He's on his way out but it is gonna be a long process so the motorhome is a bolt hole. I finalise the sale tomorrow. Everytime I think about it a spark of happiness burst inside my heart.

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Muskoka to NumptyNuts 2012/08/11 06:25:52

Good luck to you. Any person who abuses an animal is not fit to live. Take care of those pups..

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Dax 2012/08/07 02:29:58

It's Rockys back leg.

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I wish you and your dog well... I hope he is okay... Someone in your life needs to grow up and own up, that's just pathetic.

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NumptyNuts to Dax 2012/08/08 09:10:11
Dale 2012/08/06 23:59:47

It's Rockys back leg.

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Bitch slap the both of them, your husband and the other person. One of them is telling a porkie and will not admit it and they both deserve it.

And best wishes on the outcome of the operation. I know how you feel. My dog, or perhaps I am his person, is my link to sanity and if anything were to happen to him...

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sockpuppet to Dale 2012/08/07 00:46:16

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Slap them for me, too. And it'll have to be hard, 'cuz I'm pretty big and pretty disgusted.

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NumptyNuts to sockpuppet 2012/08/08 09:16:55

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Got one sockpuppet but he's still satnding. Better luck next time Mx

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Missile to sockpuppet 2012/08/08 16:19:05

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The alcoholic husband is my brother, and believe me I wish you lived closer coz he needs a good slapping, he has put tha girl through a living hell for years.

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sockpuppet to Missile 2012/08/08 16:24:45

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Never developed a taste for it myself... didn't mean to pass judgment on your brother, but people who are cruel to animals really set me off. ,':O\

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Missile to sockpuppet 2012/08/08 16:26:07

Listen...I agree with you. He is a waste of space.

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sockpuppet to Missile 2012/08/08 16:28:03

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Maybe that would all turn around without the alcohol-- I overcame a drug habit of many years.

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Missile to sockpuppet 2012/08/08 17:00:29

Yes, but you must have wanted to overcome it, he won't even admit to having a problem, it's just lie after lie, he twists things around, he is manipulative, devious and is a master at playing the victim. I know I sound very hard, but he is bad news.

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sockpuppet to Missile 2012/08/08 17:13:55

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I'm sorry to hear this. I hope he comes around before things get even worse than they must already be. Drinkers, gamblers and addicts are all very bad news indeed.

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Missile to sockpuppet 2012/08/08 17:20:05

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Until they admit there is a problem and seek help. By what you have said you have turned your life around, it is possible.

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sockpuppet to Missile 2012/08/08 18:17:47

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Oh, absolutely. I feel like I never even grew up until I was about 35 years old. I can't really say I was 'addicted' specifically, but the partying lifestyle always came first. I guess it's something you can grow out of and learn to prioritize properly. At least I had the sense to avoid marriage and commitment during that time. :O\ Now I have no family (except my folks!) and never established myself in a career of any sort. I'm just really lucky to be... really lucky, I guess. :O)

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Missile to sockpuppet 2012/08/08 19:06:38

You are a solid guy, you take care of your folks, you have alot to be proud of in yourself, whoever you marry in the future will be a lucky lady.

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sockpuppet to Missile 2012/08/08 19:46:53

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You're so nice to me. :O) I think you're just a good person, through and through.

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Missile to sockpuppet 2012/08/08 19:49:38

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Just telling the truth my friend.

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NumptyNuts to Dale 2012/08/08 09:16:10

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I did bitch slap him Dale I was so angry. You would be proud of me as I am 4'11'' and 9 stone soaking wet. He's a big guy. I hit him with a pool Q and it broke. He is getting more aggressive especially if I find a stash of booze. He wrestled me for a bottle of wine. Time to get out.

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Dale to NumptyNuts 2012/08/08 12:37:37

Hang tough Love. Glad you are getting out while you still can. Best to you and Rocky in future. Let us all know how Rocky is getting along.

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NumptyNuts 2012/08/06 23:52:46

It's Rockys back leg.

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I'm 2 upset to set up a proper poll. Sorry

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