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Admit It: Do You Hate It When Your Single Friend Finds Love?

Living 2012/04/09 18:00:00
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We have to admire a writer for How About We coming clean about something almost everybody feels but hardly anyone admits: It stinks when your single pal finds new love. "Deep, terrible confession time: sometimes I really think it sucks when one of my girl friends gets a boyfriend. So selfish, I know!" the writer confesses.



We've been there, and we know she's right. Suddenly, your Saturday night playmate is unavailable. Your wingman or wingwoman is paired off -- you're on your own in the dating world. And often, you're on your own, period.

"When I’m single, my fellow single ladies can feel like my lifeboat. They’re the ones who are always up for spontaneous nights out, the ones who will engage self-deprecating banter about spinsterhood, the ones I can freely text on a random night because I’m fairly sure that they, like me, are sitting around their apartment watching TV, too," the writer confesses.

But once your pal gets into a serious relationship, he or she tends to be M.I.A. As the writer for the article puts it, "...suddenly she only ever wants to hang out during the day: brunch, or lunch, or coffee. Because weekend nights are usually exclusively for him. And if you do manage to drag her out at night, she won’t have the same abandon she did when she was single. She’ll seem slightly distracted, she’ll check her phone a lot, she’ll yawn and want to head home way earlier than she ever used to."

So sad, but so true. Do you feel abandoned when your single friends pair off? Or are you genuinely happy for them?

Read More: http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/it-sometimes...

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  • Melizmatic 2012/04/09 21:49:57
    No
    Melizmatic
    +11
    >>>"We've been there, and we know she's right."<<<

    Sounds like you're just a bunch of self-absorbed haters, to me.

    *shrugs

    I'm genuinely happy for my friends when they find love, regardless of my own romantic status.

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  • birdie1224 2012/04/09 23:01:06
    No
    birdie1224
    not i just can't stand it when all shes does talk about him but I'm happy she found someone
  • ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠ 2012/04/09 22:34:05
    No
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    +1
    What I hate is when they rub it in my face. Seriously. Get a freaking room.
  • Melizmatic ☠ Live ... 2012/04/09 22:43:46
    Melizmatic
    +4
    If they do that intentionally, then it sounds like you need better friends.
  • ☠ Live ... Melizmatic 2012/04/09 22:52:03
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    Intentional or not, I still think PDAs are extremely rude. :/
    But yeah, some people, especially my age just LOVE to show off their new boyfriends/girlfriends; hell, that's half the reason why anyone my age dates at all. Bragging rights. Ugh.
  • Saphirra 2012/04/09 22:30:42
    No
    Saphirra
    I'm very happy for them when that happens, I would want them to be happy for me. Besides, if I am single, I have other options. ;)
  • Jay Calderone 2012/04/09 22:29:46
    No
    Jay Calderone
    I'd be happy for them :)
  • AurouraNatasha 2012/04/09 22:28:28
    No
    AurouraNatasha
    +1
    i love it when my single friends find love that lasts longer than afew days , hours , minutes , lol .
  • Jimmy Lucky 2012/04/09 22:27:27
    No
    Jimmy Lucky
    i do not hate it....
    i am happy for him...
  • Centrist_Bill 2012/04/09 22:12:47
    No
    Centrist_Bill
    +4
    Not just NO but HELL NO. The bottom line is IF you are a friend you join in the good and the bad. If you cant do that you are no friend.
  • KATniss 2012/04/09 22:11:59
    No
    KATniss
    no :S
  • serinity 2012/04/09 22:11:26
    No
    serinity
    Not at all, I'm really happy for them
  • no1badboy56 2012/04/09 22:03:32
    No
    no1badboy56
    I'm happy for them, then again love and lust are both 4 letter words. If it's meant to happen then it will if not they'll be back around.
  • gbudavid 2012/04/09 21:56:41
    No
    gbudavid
    I only have 1 single friend. His wife died 3 years ago
  • andrea carlos 2012/04/09 21:54:24
    No
    andrea carlos
    +1
    no i would be happy for my friend and just hang out with my bf
  • No
    Jersey Roze ♥Jwon's Cyar'ika ♥
    I try to make friends with the girls too...
  • Latti Ice Ganga Gangsta of ... 2012/04/09 21:50:11
    No
    Latti Ice Ganga Gangsta of PHAET
    +3
    No; why would I want someone I love to not find happiness?
  • Melizmatic 2012/04/09 21:49:57
    No
    Melizmatic
    +11
    >>>"We've been there, and we know she's right."<<<

    Sounds like you're just a bunch of self-absorbed haters, to me.

    *shrugs

    I'm genuinely happy for my friends when they find love, regardless of my own romantic status.
  • Bulanova (Team Hargitay) 2012/04/09 21:44:08
    No
    Bulanova (Team Hargitay)
    +1
    I suppose it might make me sad if the only thing we had in common was that we were single and we based our entire friendship and activities around being single (such as the wingman example in the article). A true friend finds time to continue seeing you after they've become involved, provided you aren't so needy that you need to see them every few days.
  • KendraTaylor 2012/04/09 21:43:02 (edited)
    No
    KendraTaylor
    +2
    If they change their personality or their likes/dislikes just for the sake of someone else, I hate that, but if they're happy, then how am I a true friend if I can't be happy for her?
  • Stef and the City 2012/04/09 21:41:14
    No
    Stef and the City
    +2
    Well this depends, who is the guy and do I want him too? That's the only reason I would have a problem with it.
  • Princess Luna 2012/04/09 21:39:22
    No
    Princess Luna
    i feel happy for them but when they start to talk about them all the time it drives me nutz its like they dont even think about who there going to hurt by talking about it
  • Evil Bunny Wabbit ♑ 2012/04/09 21:29:08
    No
    Evil Bunny Wabbit ♑
    +2
    I only makes me made when there lover are all they talk about.
  • Fancy 2012/04/09 21:20:44
    No
    Fancy
    +1
    no bt it would get on my nerves a little if my friend kept talking abt him
  • Adam Julian 2012/04/09 21:17:35
    No
    Adam Julian
    +2
    I just laugh when he/she gets dumped.
  • KendraT... Adam Ju... 2012/04/09 21:52:28
    KendraTaylor
    +1
    wow, good friend you are to assume that your friend is the one being dumped.
  • Adam Ju... KendraT... 2012/04/09 22:07:45
    Adam Julian
    +1
    Exactly.
  • ☂cinderella.dress.in.yellow☂ 2012/04/09 21:16:59
    No
    ☂cinderella.dress.in.yellow☂
    +2
    i dont care
  • Rubyking 2012/04/09 21:15:44
    No
    Rubyking
    +1
    because it never lasts
  • Jan Nel 2012/04/09 21:10:37
    No
    Jan Nel
    no.
  • ChocolateThunder 2012/04/09 21:06:33
    Yes
    ChocolateThunder
    Is there no inbetween answer?

    I don't hate it, I'm happy for them, but I will admit on here that I get a little jealous because I've never had a boyfriend. Well, my personal feelings don't matter. I would never try to sabotage a relationship, especially my friend's. The only time I would ever intervene was if their partner wasn't treating them right.

    Oh, I doubt they're in love if they're less than 19.
  • iamco2000 2012/04/09 21:05:47
    No
    iamco2000
    +2
    I'm happily married and can't see why I should be anything but happy when the odd single friend or two I have finds "love". You wouldn't answer yes to this if you were in love with someone yourself and if you're not and you got jealous over a friend, I don't see how you can really call them a friend as you're not really concerned about their welfare and happiness.
  • UndeadZander 2012/04/09 21:01:56
    No
    UndeadZander
    Im actually very happy for them!
  • XxViolet-Dark-NekoxX 2012/04/09 20:56:11
    Yes
    XxViolet-Dark-NekoxX
    not all the time im happy for them but if they keep talkin about their lover it pisses me off.
  • Barefoot Peace and Love∞ijm... 2012/04/09 20:53:34
    No
    Barefoot Peace and Love∞ijm♥☮♥∞
    +4
    No, I want my friends to be happy!
  • :O R U 4 REAL??? 2012/04/09 20:50:05
    No
    :O R U 4 REAL???
    +1
    im actually a good friend and if she finds love I would be soo happy for her
  • Kerymi 2012/04/09 20:49:12
    No
    Kerymi
    +1
    Why would I be jealous? If I'm friend's with someone, then I genuinely care and take joy in their happiness.
    Unless it was with a guy I was interested in, no.
  • Kyle 2012/04/09 20:47:36
    Yes
    Kyle
    +2
    ill admit it flat out
  • TheMadChameleon 2012/04/09 20:45:14
    No
    TheMadChameleon
    +1
    Why would I? I think it's sweet. Granted, I get annoyed when one friend of mine starts dating, but that's because she is a maneater who has screwed up her life worse and worse with each subsequent relationship.
  • Hannah 2012/04/09 20:42:29
    Yes
    Hannah
    Espicially when their boyfriends are such sweethearts!
  • Tomboy110 2012/04/09 20:36:43
    No
    Tomboy110
    No I don't really care as long as its gonna be the same between me and my friend and they are not showing physical content everytine in my face I'm cool.

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