A friend once told me that it's better for your mate / spouse to love you more than you love them. What do you think?

by Angel41 Posted 2007/09/22 03:47:18

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judeee 2008/08/25 01:36:58

No

Why do I need to Love him more than he loves me... How can you measure Love and know how much... When I love I usually love with everything I have... I am a giver and want us both to be happy...However I'm not a Fool... Reminds me of a song I like, " Fools Rush In"...

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mslsa2u 2007/09/23 23:03:17

No

50/ 50. If one feels that they're giving more in the relationship than the other person, it can cause problems, because they start to feel like they are getting the short end of the stick, When they can go somewhere else and get half of the stick. Half is always better than less.

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BiteMe 2007/09/23 20:37:14

No

I can't actually answer since there's no undecided box. That and my wife is right beside me glaring.

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JimBob 2007/09/23 20:31:09

No

Every relationship is different (though many do seem boringly similar). An imbalance like what you describe is likely to cause problems. The very act of trying to measure "who loves whom more" is no good for a relationship.

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Ihr Hase ~ Radix Libertas 2007/09/23 16:45:46

No

+1
That is not love that is control.....

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Fef 2007/09/23 16:22:43

No

You both need to compete to love each other more. If your spouse loves you more, then you risk unhappiness because you don't love the one you have as much as possible. If your spouse loves you more, then he/she may feel unhappy also because of the lack or returned affection.

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oy 2007/09/22 10:11:58

No

I agree with Mag... I think it's only correct if we're talking power here... but if you really want to make a relationship work why should having power over the other matter more than love itself? Plus, how can you measure love? Each person loves differently.

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Angel41 to oy 2007/09/22 13:46:05

I didn't think about it that way as a power thing, but that really explains a lot. She has been hurt mant times in relationships so I guess it is a power thing for her. It's her way of feeling secure....I guess.

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oy to Angel41 2007/09/22 23:24:50

Yes, if she's been hurt that many times it does make sense. Sounds like she thinks that if she doesn't love them as much, then she won't get hurt... which isn't true though... and her trying not to love them as much will possibly end up hurting her in one way or another. That's just my opinion though!

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magmeister10 2007/09/22 04:32:13

No

You didn't have an undecided for this one, so I wasn't sure how to answer.

If you want to have a happy, productive marriage, I don't know that your friend gave you the best advice. BUT it's true that in any relationship the person who cares the LEAST has the most power. If power is more important to you than love, then I guess your friend was right.

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