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13 year old bullying victim commits suicide. Should those who bullied her be held legally responsible?

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Rachel Ehmke, a 13-year-old seventh grader
in Mantorville, Minn., died April 29 after hanging herself at her home.
The months leading up to the tragedy were a whirlwind of peer abuse
instances, her parents say.



Now following Rachel's Friday funeral that was met with widespread
community condolences, Rick and Mary Ehmke are speaking out against the
bullying they say their daughter endured at Kasson/Mantorville Middle
School and online.



Rachel's family and friends say the teen fell victim to school
bullying last fall when her chewing gum was stuck to her textbooks and the word "slut" was scrawled across her gym locker, the Austin Daily Herald
reports. And while she was outgoing, athletic and friendly, the same
group of girls reportedly threatened Rachel and kept calling her a
"prostitute," though she had never kissed a boy, according to KMSP.



Two days before Rachel's death, an anonymous text was sent to other students at the school, KARE reports.



"It was pretty explicit.
Something to the effect of that Rachel was a slut and to get her to
leave the Kasson-Mantorville School, forward this to everyone you know,"
parent Chris Flannery told the station.



But after the text was reported to authorities, it was traced to someone who wasn't a student at the school,
according to Minnesota Public Radio. The district's bullying policy
prohibits threats both in person and online, and promises investigations
within 24 hours of any reported bullying.



Rachel reportedly pleaded with her father not to mention the bullying
to school officials, for fear of worsening the situation. A note that
her parents found after her death read, "I'm fine = I wish I could tell
you how I really feel," alongside a picture of a broken heart, according
to KMSP.

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  • Lily 2012/05/10 12:33:49
    Yes they should.
    Lily
    +7
    I think all involved need to be held responsible. From the school administration down to the parents of all children involved as well as the children themselves. At some point, a stand needs to be made or this will be a re-ocurring theme in american schools.

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  • Flip-182 2012/05/14 20:04:13 (edited)
    Yes they should.
    Flip-182
    It is very sad to know that someone that young with her whole live ahead would even think about committing suicide let alone doing it. The people who bullied her need to be taught a lesson.
  • HipJipC 2012/05/14 00:20:39
    Yes they should.
    HipJipC
    A strong message needs to be sent out to bullies. They will not be tolerated and they will pay for not allowing others to live a peaceful existence. If any of them have a conscience I hope it hounds them until the day they die. They should be shown no mercy because that is what they showed her. What you give out in life comes back at you hard and when it does shut the F**k up and take the punishment that is coming to you. I hope their lives are never happy. When you don't respect others' life, you have no right to have that gift yourself.
  • Maria 2012/05/13 03:33:14
    Yes they should.
    Maria
    she does remediable of young Jodi Foster an actor ...
    Anyway Bully is way out of order..shouldn't be picking on someone so young as 13 yrs old. why haven't the other class mates to stand up for her instead bully gets in the way...
    school is responsibility for the damages had done to her life...why hasn't teacher notice this earlier signs spot before hand?
  • frank 2012/05/13 02:31:16
    No they shouldn't
    frank
    I don't know on this question. Part of me wants to say that her parents should file a wrongful death suit against the kids and their parents and the other makes me want to just beat the hell out of them.
  • Classical Liberal 2012/05/13 02:23:23
    No they shouldn't
    Classical Liberal
    If they are guilty of harassment, as is likely, then charge them with that.

    But we cannot be held fully responsible for the actions of others which are out of our control.

    However, the school has some responsibility for letting this bullying persist as it had. This should be investigated.

    But suicide is always the sole responsibility of the person who does it. There is nobody else who deserves that blame.

    Parents, sending teenagers off to juvenile detention over something they couldn't possibly have expected like this is not going to end your grief. But it is going to permanently mar the lives of those who could otherwise reflect on this tragedy and become better human beings.
  • NarcolepticGoat 2012/05/13 01:09:29
    Yes they should.
    NarcolepticGoat
    Not all the blame falls on them, but a heck of a lot does.
  • ☮ Ron ☮ Paul ☮ 2012! ☮ 2012/05/12 20:10:28
    No they shouldn't
    ☮ Ron ☮ Paul ☮ 2012! ☮
    Her parents were not there for her in her time of need. Counseling and a group of close friends and family could have helped her. She may have already been depressed too which is not always an external thing. It's truly sad to lose such a beautiful person but there may be more to this then meets the eye.
  • Rubyking 2012/05/12 18:07:02
    No they shouldn't
    Rubyking
    what if they didn't know that they were bullying her
  • sugar plum 2012/05/12 18:02:09
    Yes they should.
    sugar plum
    it will teach those idiots a lesson n just wondering yd she hand herself?? isnt jumping off a building much easier?
  • xXILoveVinnyBooXx 2012/05/12 02:08:00
    Yes they should.
    xXILoveVinnyBooXx
    Well a little of both. She chose to kill herself, but the bullies gave her no choice. They made her feel horrible about herself.
  • Vision of Verve 2012/05/11 21:52:35
  • ☂cinderella.dress.in.yellow☂ 2012/05/11 13:11:31
    Yes they should.
    ☂cinderella.dress.in.yellow☂
    if you waste your time tormenting somebody for not reason whats so ever
    then you should be held responsible
  • The Potato Princess 2012/05/11 10:09:45
    No they shouldn't
    The Potato Princess
    Well, I definitely think they should be charged with harassment and all, but I don't think they should be held responsible for actually killing her.

    This is tragic though.
  • Mel 2012/05/11 07:57:25
    Yes they should.
    Mel
    In my state it's manslaughter
  • beach bum 2012/05/11 07:09:29
    Yes they should.
    beach bum
    +2
    kick some ASS
  • Shawna 2012/05/11 05:28:11
    Yes they should.
    Shawna
    +2
    So heartbreaking.
  • Yes they should.
    Pixie·ŸŸMzAwesome♠ƤĦĂĔŢ♠
    +2
    This breaks my heart She was so pretty and young. To think she was so sad she thought this was the only way out I do not even know what to think.
  • die Küss der Tod 2012/05/11 03:07:25
    Yes they should.
    die Küss der Tod
    +2
    Oh my god...the poor girl. Broke my hear to read this.
  • Selketskiss 2012/05/11 00:40:35
    Yes they should.
    Selketskiss
    +1
    They have no excuse they know what they are doing...
  • gregaj7 2012/05/11 00:38:55
    Yes they should.
    gregaj7
    +1
    And their parents, and the school district.
  • Caedus01 Sith Lord of the P... 2012/05/10 21:02:44
    Yes they should.
    Caedus01 Sith Lord of the PHAET
    +2
    what's going on in today's society? If my grandmother or cousins found out that I was being bullied and not defending myself that was my arse ( they did and it was) but even WORSE if I was picking on someone that would be a MAJOR violation.. Sad situation indeed
  • pdarkow 2012/05/10 20:48:12
    Yes they should.
    pdarkow
    +2
    They are responsible for fheir actions that drove this young girl to take her life. What people often don't realize or think about is the fact that people can only take so much. Far too many times people take things too far and don't realize the emotional damage they are causing until its too late. I'm sure they will be worried about their futures but at least they have a future. Rachel Ehmke will only have a past. Which is the biggest tragedy of all my thoughts are with Rachel's family because they will never forget and never get over the pain of their loss. I hope those who bullied her too this point are haunted for the rest of their lives by what they've done.
  • Lonna121593 2012/05/10 18:14:33
    Yes they should.
    Lonna121593
    +3
    little kids are so stupid! I hope thay all know it is their fault this poor girl is gone.
  • Xerxes,Phantom of PHAET 2012/05/10 17:57:35
    Yes they should.
    Xerxes,Phantom of PHAET
    +4
    Especially the parents, I lay bullying at the feet of parents, if you are doing your job this would not happen. Stop trying to be your kid's friend (they have enough friends) try being a parent
  • METALheadMom 2012/05/10 17:55:07
    No they shouldn't
    METALheadMom
    I would never kill myself if all the states in the USA decided to give into the gay bullies. Her PARENTS should be held accountable. You NEED to pay attention to your kids, and NEED to step in when you see problems. No way can you convince me that a responsible parent could miss the signs.
  • BoomLover METALhe... 2012/05/10 19:53:14
    BoomLover
    +2
    Way to go! Blame the victim...class, real class....this is on the heads of the kids who did this to her, and their parents, and...the school officials who obviously are not in control of the kids at the school...little bullies grow from big bullies...kids and parents should all have to pay.
  • aahhhhhhh BoomLover 2012/05/10 21:53:53
    aahhhhhhh
    The victim being the girl who KILLED HERSELF. Why don't you put you're boom in you're mouth blow it off and blame it on me. Would that be classy?
  • GeorgeA... aahhhhhhh 2012/05/11 06:25:21
    GeorgeAMartini
    +2
    Have any of you ever raised children? 90% of the time children DO NOT tell their parents what is going on. Most parents I've known are not psychic. I helped raise two step sons. They wouldn't even tell me the good things going on in their lives, let alone the painful things. Now that they're grown up they appreciate what I did when I knew what was going on with them. The youngest considers me more of a father than his biological father. The oldest was the toughest to get through to at the time. He hid everything from us. Then one day during a shouting match he told me I didn't know him. I yelled back, "Well of course not, you won't talk to me!" The girl is a victim, but I suspect so are her parents. As to the parents of the bullies - they may or may not have known how their children behave. With the number of single parents and parents who have to work two jobs if they can find work, its pretty hard to keep up with whats going on with your kids unless you make a major effort. I did with my boys and it paid off, but it was not easy.
  • aahhhhhhh GeorgeA... 2012/05/11 08:21:01
    aahhhhhhh
    You're sons were lucky to have you.And yeah I have a step daughter "hate that term" thank god nothing like this ever came up. But there was always alot of love and respect if I ever said no or not to do something she listened as I listen to her. Sadly this girls parents did not listen to her or she would still be alive.
  • GeorgeA... aahhhhhhh 2012/05/11 08:45:55 (edited)
    GeorgeAMartini
    +1
    Yeah the whole "step" child thing is awkward. When it all is said and done, family is the most important thing. Too bad so many people don't realize that. And thank you.
  • aahhhhhhh 2012/05/10 17:51:10 (edited)
    No they shouldn't
    aahhhhhhh
    +1
    She hung herself right? Who hasn't been the victim of some sort of bulling at some point? Maybe the problem is that people allow themselves to be bullied. MAYBE SHE WAS A SLUT! I know some of u are gonna think i'm wrong and try and bully into thinking like u. Take note on how I don't give a fu*k! And go on with my day!
  • BRIDGET 2012/05/10 16:55:52
    Yes they should.
    BRIDGET
    +5
    THEY NEED A KICK IN THE HEAD WITH A FROZEN BOOT. WHATS WRONG WITH THE PARENTS? CAN'T RAISE A DECENT HUMAN BEING?
  • Anariashki 2012/05/10 16:26:18 (edited)
    No they shouldn't
    Anariashki
    +2
    Should they feel deeply guilty and suffer social consequences for it? Absolutely. Should the criminal law step in? Unless they really saw the suicide coming and did something to make sure it would happen, probably not. Not everything blameworthy deserves criminal retribution when there's a causal disconnect like this. It's a tragedy, and they should not have contributed, but people's decisions to commit suicide are often so complex and internal that a trial to figure out how much of a role one tormentor played in it is a farce.
  • BoomLover Anariashki 2012/05/10 19:57:14
    BoomLover
    +2
    Don't know much about peer pressure in teens, do you?
  • Catnip 2012/05/10 16:20:41
    Yes they should.
    Catnip
    +5
    Bullying is just another form of terrorism. The bastards who commit these acts of terrorism must be held to account!
  • Jaroslav Dantes 2012/05/10 15:56:05
    Yes they should.
    Jaroslav Dantes
    +4
    No authority over student behavior! All parents who have a child for inappropriate behavior, .. Shame on you.
  • Riobhca 2012/05/10 15:27:51
    Yes they should.
    Riobhca
    +5
    Young people are very sensitive to bullying and it can easily lead to actions such as hers. Bullying is never right and its possible effects should always be taken seriously. And if they get away with this, they will probably do something even worse to someone else ion the future. The bullies and their parents should be forced to go to counseling for a long period of time until they are truly reformed, not to just attend one or two sessions.
  • LarryFine 2012/05/10 15:16:50
    No they shouldn't
    LarryFine
    +3
    All this tragedy does is signal a greater problem with teens in our society today. Never once, in all of my school years, did somebody commit suicide or massacre class mates because of something they did. Something has gone wrong and I suspect it is within the school system as well as the unlimited social media outlets available today
  • BoomLover LarryFine 2012/05/10 19:59:45
    BoomLover
    +1
    Not to mention the parents and school officials are handcuffed and prevented from disciplining kids these days...and by the way, yes, they should be held accountable...all involved...the kids who bullied her, their parents, and the school officials who did nothing about it.
  • BARRY0619 2012/05/10 15:04:03
    Yes they should.
    BARRY0619
    +3
    Absolutely. If they throw the book at them, maybe things would stop.

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