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11th man theory



If you don’t watch the video- In a nutshell, the guy explains the 11th man theory.

It’s the theory that most women will brush aside the 10 men in the room that treat her like a queen, and go for the 11th man, that doesn’t give two shits


I don't know why ALL women would go for the 11th guy, honestly i thinks its too steretypical to say ALL women will, or have, or would.

I will say that i have, i think its the challenge of it. NOT because we wanted to be treated like shit because most of us really don't want that although i'm sure few women do get off from it, but mainly it's the challenge. We will feel accomplished for getting him to notice us, it would make us feel good if we could tame the "player", the guy that went from girl to girl with no strings to the guy that we have wrapped around our finger, not because we want him whopped just because it would boost our egos to know we were able to do that. You know we want bad guys to change for us.

Lol but idk.

Maybe this is why i had a hard time for a while, because i thought i was more to the 11th guy then i was..but really i was just the girl he was with RIGHT NOW, til he found something bettter? Although that happened a lot that wasn't always the case.

Sometimes it was that way for me. Sometimes i was the "bad guy".

I'm not sure if i consider Seth an 11th guy, because he was ehh to other girls, but never really to me. Not in middle school, not even when he was trying to "hit this" in higschool, and especially not after highschool.

Idk. I don't think i can speak for other women because i am only one. But from a chicks perspective i think thats why. The challenge of trying to "tame a lion" is why the go after the 11th guy who is a duece lol. It doesn't always work though.
But like i said, it can't be all women, some women would rather not bother and just find themselves a nice guy from the start.

But then agian, are all nice guys really as nice as they seem?
Lol
I'm rambling..

Anyway now i really want to watch that entire movie.
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  • crimsonbutterfly 2009/06/19 15:26:42
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    I went for the guy who treated me like a queen. I married him. I guess it's because of my mom and the men she dated when I grew up. I would never let a man tell me what to do. If they don't like it, they can start walking.
    My husband is an excellent father.

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  • Pseudonym 2009/06/19 21:21:57 (edited)
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    Let me get this straight. There are 10 guys in one room treating a woman like a princess, with the utmost respect? And only one guy, "the bad boy" who walks in after, doesn't really care that she's even there, but wins her attention? Pffff. Yeah right.

    The analogy makes more sense if there are 10 guys in a room full of testosterone all competing for the same goal, trying to "hit that", as you put it; and the 11th guy who walks in doesn't really go after her for the same reasons as the rest of them, if at all.
  • Queen B 2009/06/19 19:09:59 (edited)
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    After watching that clip, I sort of agree with him on some of what he said. But I also think it has something to do with age, maturity, and confidence on both the man and the woman's parts. Younger girls in high school will go through a bad boy stage and they are attracted to that. Some women never get out of that phase and keep looking for the bad boy they can tame. But really, if they succeeded in taming him, he wouldn't be the bad boy anymore would he? As most woman get older they want a guy who can act mature and give her their time instead of hanging out with their boys. As guys mature most are willing to do this unless they never really grew up. Some men are afraid of mature, confident women and would rather just continue to hang out with their boys because they have no idea how to deal - or they continue to date young girls because they can feel confident with that. The young girls make them feel good. But how long can that last? A truly mature relationship between a man and woman is when they both understand each other and understand the other's wants and needs and are willing to give them what they want and need without any reservation to make their partner happy. That's a lasting relationship.
  • Jon 2009/06/19 17:49:56 (edited)
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    Not you have me interested in it. Maybe not all nice guys are as nice, as they seem.
    But I am, usually as nice, as I seem.
  • theshleepybear 2009/06/19 16:41:12
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    Not me. I go for the really nice guys. I get really frustrated when a guy can't pay any attention to me.

    Like, hello? I'm here?
  • crimsonbutterfly 2009/06/19 15:26:42
    crimsonbutterfly
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    I went for the guy who treated me like a queen. I married him. I guess it's because of my mom and the men she dated when I grew up. I would never let a man tell me what to do. If they don't like it, they can start walking.
    My husband is an excellent father.
  • Izzy! crimson... 2009/06/19 15:27:28
    Izzy!
    +1
    Glad to hear that.
  • crimson... Izzy! 2009/06/19 15:32:58
    crimsonbutterfly
    +3
    Yeah, we met each other in high school. He had two sisters, his mom, his grandmother. Those are the people who raised him. And a really cool uncle. So he really respects women. Lol if he didn't he'd have faced a firing squad at home. Thanx.
    P.S. Congrats again on getting married. It's gonna be so awesome!
  • Izzy! crimson... 2009/06/19 15:34:59
    Izzy!
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    (:
    Thank you very much.
    It's greatly appreciated.
  • Dagon 2009/06/19 14:02:34 (edited)
  • Izzy! Dagon 2009/06/19 14:12:22
    Izzy!
    +2
    Yeah, i always wonder what guys are thinking.
  • Dagon Izzy! 2009/06/19 14:17:32
  • Izzy! Dagon 2009/06/19 14:20:39
    Izzy!
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    Yeah, sometimes thats good.
  • Dagon Izzy! 2009/06/19 14:25:32
  • Izzy! Dagon 2009/06/19 15:28:32
    Izzy!
    +1
    I found a great man. I'm marrying him monday!
  • Dagon Izzy! 2009/06/19 16:20:08 (edited)
  • Izzy! Dagon 2009/06/19 16:22:21
    Izzy!
    +1
    thanks.
    i'll do my best.
  • LinzBinz 2009/06/19 13:34:50
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    That's very interesting. I have to admit, I might be one of those people... I have a habit of brushing off the nice guys. :) But we shall see I suppose! I know that I do love the challenge of getting a jerk to change his perspective on life...

    P.S. pssst.... Izzy and Seth are getting married! Yay!
  • Izzy! LinzBinz 2009/06/19 14:10:54
    Izzy!
    +1
    lol yeahh

    p.s ooo muh gawd!! how did ya hear!!!? i didn't know!! =0 lol
  • LinzBinz Izzy! 2009/06/19 15:04:14 (edited)
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    haha! it was on one of seth's questions! (well, blogs i think?)
  • Izzy! LinzBinz 2009/06/19 15:31:14
    Izzy!
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    Lmao i know i was only kidding! I read. There was a chick that was like how do u kno her name!!? Lmao. Yeah

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