Would you tell your friend that their partner and or spouse were cheating on them?

by sky Posted 2012/03/04 04:33:34

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	Undecided	10 votes	17%

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Megan Rochelle Grim-Wise 2012/03/05 18:57:08

Undecided

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i wouldnt tell them at first. id let them find out first. i would talk to the other person first. and if it camer down to that.then yes i would

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Sashhha 2012/03/05 08:33:06

Yes

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I wouldn't tell them first.
I would lt the person who cheated do it first.
and if they didnt want to, i would.

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caroline 2012/03/05 08:29:34

Yes

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If i had absolute proof and had seen it with my own eyes then yes and i'd expect them to do the same for me.

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TD 2012/03/05 06:33:53

No

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I would take them with me and let them catch them themself...takes the heat off of me

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✞Knight of Honor 2012/03/05 01:05:25

Yes

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"Do to others as you would have them do to you." -Luke 6:31

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Hula girl - Friends not Fol... 2012/03/04 23:08:07

Yes

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It depends on the circumstances but may take my friend for an outing nearby that spouse with the affair may be so they can find out with their own eyes. Just because someone is having dinner with someone doesn't always mean it's an affair so don't dare to jump to conclusions to swiftly.

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KATniss 2012/03/04 22:02:54

Yes

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i guess yes

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sally 2012/03/04 21:21:03

Undecided

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If it were my best friend then of course! They deserve to know, but if it's just an a acquaintance then I'd hope someone would let them know soon enough.

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Joel 2012/03/04 21:16:20

No

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An ex told our mutual friend that her husband got oral sex from a hooker. There was no question that it happened. He did not deny it. But our friendship was destroyed. That was 25 years ago and the rift never was mended. The only one that made out OK was the hooker!

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Sinister Ken Doll™ 2012/03/04 20:49:04

No

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none of my biz

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justnotsaying (: 2012/03/04 20:30:14

No

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I've done it before, and wouldn't ever do it again.

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Diana 2012/03/04 20:28:44

Yes

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Yes I would.If it were my friend .I could not in good conscience knowing that their partner
was cheating on them and look them in the face every day and not say anything.What
kind of friend would I be ?

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Bat Outta Hell 2012/03/04 20:10:41

Yes

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I have to say I probably would. Not to hurt her, but I would want my friend to tell me if my partner/spouse was cheating on me. I'd rather her be upset and brokenhearted for awhile than her find out later, and find out that I knew and compromise our friendship - even more so, I'd rather her be brokenhearted than not know and possibly contract an STD or something.

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sky to Bat Out... 2012/03/04 23:43:23

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jokeriser 2012/03/04 19:51:14

No

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he does not need to know I'm sleeping with her

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Shadow 2012/03/04 18:51:21

Yes

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In a heartbeat!

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Piwan 2012/03/04 17:48:25

Yes

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Any TRUE and GOOD friend would tell them right away!

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Callaway 2012/03/04 17:39:35

No

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Simply a can of worms better left unopened.

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jacktown kid 2012/03/04 17:14:53

No

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no bodies business but yours

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Sofahead 2012/03/04 17:12:18

No

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If they asked and I knew, maybe another story.

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DoxieDad 2012/03/04 16:53:25

No

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No, I know it is a cop out but I would not want to live my life knowing I was the cause of a friends life tragedy. I would say something to the side that I knew was cheating but not to the spouse. I guess women are more prone to want to tell another women of a philandering husband but I do wonder if they would tell the husband about the wife...

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The River Rat 2012/03/04 16:44:51

Yes

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If I knew for sure, I would even though it would be extremely hard and could hurt our friendship. They need to know the truth.

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sky to The Riv... 2012/03/04 17:41:05

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Dandydon 2012/03/04 16:41:35

No

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Never again,let them find out for their self.

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♌βļąƈʞƦơșƐ3033♌ 2012/03/04 16:38:11 (edited)

Yes

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I would have to especally since I caught them at it or whatever. Would you want them to tell you if the roles were reversed?

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sky to ♌βļąƈʞƦ... 2012/03/04 19:35:19

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Wonder Woman 2012/03/04 16:36:45
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justnot... to Wonder ... 2012/03/04 20:33:58

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I 100% agree. Which is why I would never do it again.

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Treasure ♥ijm♥ 2012/03/04 16:29:31

Undecided

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Difficult place to be.... If I knew for sure, I don't know what I would do. I wouldn't want to lose my friend so I would hope she/he had noticed the signs of infidelity and figured it out on their own.....because I don't want to get involved. But, I would hate to see my friend hurt.....so this is a tough place to be. I had a friend tell me that my ex was cheating and at first I didn't believe her but it did open my eyes to all the red flags. I was in denial, I guess. I am glad she opened my eyes. It would just really depend on the circumstances involved ............

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sky to Treasur... 2012/03/04 17:44:16

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Cricket 2012/03/04 15:52:19 (edited)

Undecided

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I tend to avoid budding in other people's business although countless times, I've been pulled into them. This is a tough one and I think I would rather plant the seed of suspicion gently to lead them up to their own conclusion about it but only if I was 100 percent sure their spouse or partner was cheating on them.

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sky to Cricket 2012/03/04 17:49:20

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Cricket to sky 2012/03/04 18:23:23

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katt 2012/03/04 15:51:35

No

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you know the whole thing about killing the messenger does apply. either the friend will not believe you or may forgive their spouse but you could be resented for the problem that was caused by telling. i would prefer if my friend knew not to give me the answer but set me on the path to find out on my own.

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wtxwoman 2012/03/04 15:26:57

No

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No, no, no! It's none of my business. Besides, if my friend is happy in her/his ignorance, I'm not the one that going to mess that up. I might be wrong and it would ruin a friendship. It's the old 'shoot the messenger' thing.

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EDWARD G 2012/03/04 15:21:29

Yes

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Especially if the cheater told me to keep it a secret. Cheating is a dealbreaker, no excuses.

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