Woman Angered When...
Woman Angered When Veiled Anger Expressed As Mock Anger Is Interpreted As Real Anger
August 11, 1999 |
ISSUE 43•19 ISSUE 35•28
CHEEKTOWAGA, NY—Anger was the order of the day Tuesday, when
area resident Gwen McCullers, 41, reacted angrily to husband Craig's
insinuation that she was angry. Sources report that real anger over an
inexpensive, thoughtless anniversary gift surfaced in the form of thinly
veiled mock anger on the part of Gwen, who suggested to Craig that
"another goddamn cheap beaded car seat" would be a suitable gift for his
mother's 70th birthday. Gwen's veiled anger, which she disguised as
mock anger, turned to openly displayed real anger when Craig responded,
"What? You said you didn't want to make a big deal out of the
anniversary." After 15 minutes of discussing the various complexities,
emotional underpinnings and larger implications of the previous
discussion, both parties walked off angrily. "I was just pretending to
be angry as a little joke," Gwen said angrily.
Sure, there can be a gap in understanding each other (male vs. female), but rather than be angered and turned away by it, I tend to look at it as a challenge... and as what helps keep life and love and relationships interesting...
But, I didn't mean "challenge" as a bad thing... I meant it as an endeavor to do my best to undertand my wife... which should be viewed as a good thing (and NOT confrontational)...
I do everything I can to help my wife feel good... and considering that she rarely needs me to bolster her self-esteem, I feel good when she does...
I'd sacrafice my life for my wife if the need ever arose, my friend... literally... Her happiness, her health and well-being are extremely important to me... she is as, if not more, important to me than I am...
And, my wife and I are equals... we make major decisions together... we don't always agree... but, we generally do not argue... if we reach an impass, or one of us is getting a angry, we walk away and come back and talk later...
Had to explain the pun.... Damn... LOL...
(I also feel the need to admit that when I first came across it years ago, it took me much longer than it should have to realize the onion was satire)