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Why is it so difficult for people to take responsibility for their own actions?

being me 2012/12/27 18:51:22
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This is NOT a political question.

I don't understand why some people tend to blame other people or objects for things they have done.
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  • John Hall 2012/12/27 19:03:48
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    Look at our president he blames , look at our politician's they blame . When you are brought up and you see other people blame or make excuses and then you have the media that help's you get people who have no idea what it is to take resposability for their action's.

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  • David Hussey 2013/01/08 09:04:55
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    Maybe because their actions are too bad for their egos to handle acknowledging their responsible for such things?
  • being me David H... 2013/01/08 11:11:17
    being me
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    That's a possibility.
  • David H... being me 2013/01/09 01:16:31
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    I'm sure it applies in some cases.
  • moira.faulds.14 2013/01/02 01:33:51
  • being me moira.f... 2013/01/02 01:52:06
    being me
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    I choose to be responsible for myself and not worry or put energy into what others do. Even if it involves me. The truth will come out eventually.
  • Quazimoto 2013/01/02 01:06:38
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    One word........Lawyers.
  • being me Quazimoto 2013/01/02 01:13:37
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    That too.
  • moira.f... being me 2013/01/02 02:46:32
    moira.faulds.14
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    hee hee
  • Jazzyjimmy56 2013/01/01 14:19:42
    If I'm at fault, I take the responsibility
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    This behavior does start at an early age, and parents are mostly to blame. If the parent never learned, they in turn will not be able to teach their children. The crux of the syndrome is not giving consequences for inappropriate behavior. That will lead to an apathetical type of behavior and in turn the child cannot know how to fess up, so to speak.
  • being me Jazzyji... 2013/01/01 17:36:44
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    Maybe to some extent but I have seen instances where the parents have taught their children to take responsibilities for there actions. One of their children would follow their guidance while the other child would not.
  • Jazzyji... being me 2013/01/02 06:44:49
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    Yes, basically it is called, "freedom of will". That however does not negate the responsibility of the parent to mete out consequences for misbehavior. Once a pattern is established, the child is less likely to rebel against a parent. The odd thing is, children need and want "boundries" placed on them, it's there way of feeling safe and secure in their home environment, without the boundries, you are almost guaranteed a negative outcome.
  • being me Jazzyji... 2013/01/02 18:34:39
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    I understand but to say its all the parents fault is a cop out when there are so many other influences and experiences in our life that mold and shape us into who and what we are. I know wonderful people that are honest and responsible who have parents that are completely lacking in any responsibility. Those people I admire the most. It shows me many things are possible if we set our mind to it.
  • Jazzyji... being me 2013/01/04 03:43:21
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    Not trying to ruffle your feathers! My point was that it starts at an early age, and parents have the responsibility squarely on their shoulders. I did not give 100% blame to the parents, they are "mostly" responsible for the education of their children. Yes, we all have influences throughout our lifetimes, but the basic teachings of right and wrong start in the home, if the parent is incapable of teaching right from wrong, yes, it will take someone else to help them see right from wrong. I was not in anyway trying to dissagree with you.
  • being me Jazzyji... 2013/01/04 17:41:43 (edited)
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    I didn't mean to give the impression that I was agitated. I apologize if it came across that way.
  • Jazzyji... being me 2013/01/05 04:41:35
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    Thanks, Glad we can have civil discourse on a subject without resorting to verbal abuse and hyperbole' This could be a great lesson for the left leaning liberals huh?
  • being me Jazzyji... 2013/01/05 06:32:19
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    Lol:-)
  • Marcus Clark 2013/01/01 10:57:28
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    That is basic human nature. It is called pride. No one wants to be wrong.
    Some people do overcome this nature, but it is a basic part of each of us from birth.
  • being me Marcus ... 2013/01/01 17:38:34
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    But it is also seen in society as a whole
  • Marcus ... being me 2013/01/02 02:05:10
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    Society as a whole is not its own entity but is the result of the collective of the individuals in that society.
  • moira.f... Marcus ... 2013/01/02 02:47:43
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    But by the same token you could say fairly that societal trends are very much a part of the sociological makeup our our current culture, couldn't you? It's kind of a chicken and the egg thing.
  • Marcus ... moira.f... 2013/01/02 03:47:09
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    Yes the relationship is very much circular. Individuals make up and influence society. Society influences individuals. Some fixes can be accomplished via broad influence on society, such as via legislation. Most fixes, to be truly effective, have to start with the individuals and grow through individual association. That is why it is so easy and prevalent to go down and so difficult and rare to go up.

    The chicken and egg reference is fairly good here. The Chicken most definitely came first, but from there the chicken and egg alternate continuously. The individual also definitely came first, followed by the couple, then the family. Since then society has developed and the circle continues.
  • moira.f... Marcus ... 2013/01/02 04:07:25
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    Well said.
  • Casey 2012/12/31 18:17:09
    If I'm at fault, I take the responsibility
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    Bc of lack of discipline though a lot of people never learned about consequences therefore just don't give a damn
  • being me Casey 2012/12/31 18:19:37
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    That makes sense.
  • EmoMcParland 2012/12/31 06:58:50
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    We live in a no accountability era.
  • being me EmoMcPa... 2012/12/31 07:22:33
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    I've noticed:(
  • Doc 2012/12/30 23:58:23
    If I'm at fault, I take the responsibility
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    That is one of the great questions about human nature, imo.

    And I think it's at the root of what's wrong with society.
  • being me Doc 2012/12/31 06:55:55
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    Me too. I respect people and would not blame someone for my screw ups. It upsets me that so many people do.
  • Doc being me 2012/12/31 16:39:16
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    I feel the same way. And what really bothers me is when I think it's someone else's fault, then find out later that it's mine.

    Because I try so hard NOT to do that
  • being me Doc 2012/12/31 16:47:15
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    I understand. I feel really bad when I do that as well. Sometimes at that point it's too late to fix the situation but I'll still apologize and try to make it right the best I can.
  • Doc being me 2012/12/31 16:57:25
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  • moira.f... Doc 2013/01/02 02:50:00
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    Well no come on now doc....lots of people over function and are over responsible and workaholics and then there's Uncle Buck you know? Just kind of happy to drink beer and laugh. People are all different, but I agree that blaming the government for everything absolves a lot of people in their own minds anyway for doing anything including voting. The irony.
  • Doc moira.f... 2013/01/03 15:16:53
  • ☆stillthe12c☆ 2012/12/30 03:33:09 (edited)
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    As a retired Supervisor and Process Engineer I always wonder why people would lie to me about something they did. Most of the time it was no big deal to start with. I just wanted to know what happened so that I would help them avoid the problem again. Many times I would hold a meeting and go over what was done so that it did not get repeated by others.
  • being me ☆stillt... 2012/12/30 14:55:32
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    I don't really understand it either. For me if its my fault I rather admit it and move on to resolve the situation.
  • JustMe 2012/12/29 15:23:52
    If I'm at fault, I take the responsibility
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    Well why admit you're wrong if you can blame someone else? That seems to be the new american way, and the way most kids are being raised these days
  • being me JustMe 2012/12/29 19:03:32
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    It makes it difficult for parents like me to teach my kids that taking responsibility for their actions in the right thing to do when they are watching their peers do the opposite.
  • JustMe being me 2012/12/29 19:05:15
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    i totally agree, but its easier to point fingers and blame mental disorders than to be parents
  • being me JustMe 2012/12/29 19:09:03
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    I agree to a point. I do think some mental disorders make it difficult to know what the correct or right thing to do is BUT it still can be taught. In this case it's more challenging but still possible.
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