Why don't people take their wedding vows seriously anymore?

I thought i answered this when I answered Billy
I take my wedding vows seriously and so does he, as long as you both open about everything and don't hide anything in your marriage. You have a great marriage. :o)

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It really depends on what you mean by taking it seriously. I was married to my first wife for 37 years. Along about year 30 I discovered that she had, had multiple affairs early in our marriage. It like to have killed me as I had no idea. I even went to a Crises Councillor and worked through it. As a result we continued on. Because of life circumstance, around year 37, it happened again. That was the last straw and it ended.

I married again but after only four years she passed away. I am now married for the third time. I have never ever had an affair. I do admit that I flirt, perhaps too much, on-line but it's all in good fun. As you well know I have met some very special women that mean a lot to me but it would never impact my marriage.

There are many of us out here that take our marriage vows very seriously but life circumstance can never be predicted and we often find ourselves where we never thought we would be. I fully expected to be married to one woman all my life but that was not meant to be.

I agree there are lots just like my parents and a few friends that have been married since after high school.. Very well said as always my dear I enjoy your comments

lol could be.. Thank you ;)

I take mine seriously and you know it

I know it to,

Aww you love birds ;)

:) love you to

I know you do, and so does she.. Thank you ;)

because they all cheat

lol yeah well not all.. Thank you for answering

Because they are stupid

Yeah could be haha Thank you for answering

no clue

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they are who they are and that is confused

Yeah there are some lol Thank you for answering

yw

Everything is too disposable these days. Just think about it. Not much is made to be fixed anymore. I used to repair my wife's vacuum cleaner when it went on the fritz, and now they are sealed units cannot fix them, same with the coffee pot and a lot of other items. What I am trying to say is we are now in a society where things including relationships are not fixed anymore. I wonder how much work each couple does to make things work. I have been married for about 43 years and marriage does not just happen.
You have to really love the other person more than yourself to make things work. You have to pick your battles and not everything is a battle, and make them a win win for both of you, because you are as one, and each person in the relationship is not anymore important than the other. My wife is still my best friend after all these years. Do you still treat each other as best friends, than as lovers than lastly as spouses? If not time to get to work and talk with one another not at one another.

I absolutely very well said... Thank you for that ;))

Who says people don't take their wedding vows seriously? granted there are those cases where they divorce almost as quickly as it takes for the ink to dry and then there is Tiger Woods. But in most cases I think couples really want their marriage to succeed. But many things work to break up marriages. Stress of life can be tough.

I agree but, not if they truly love each other. I don't think anything can ruin that.. Thank you for answering

Exactly.. Thank you for answering Brooke

I think people do take their wedding vows seriously at least, I know that I do. I know that the divorce rate is high but I think that's caused by other things. When couples marry now, they are both usually working outside the home. I think it's easy to get distracted with jobs or even other people on the job. Having children is not the same either. First of all it's much more expensive to raise a child and both people HAVE to work to start college funds, pay for daycare and all the activities that kids have to be in today. And people live longer. Years ago women died in childbirth quite often compared to today and illness also took a lot of men and women before they even turned 40 or 50 so marriages really weren't expected to last as long.
But I still think that couples take their vows seriously today. It's just when something goes wrong, it's much easier to get out of a bad marriage than it was years ago.

Well that makes a lot of sense to me.. I agree it's not the same like it was in the old days Thank you for that.. ;)

Overall moral decay.

Define moral decay.

No respect for moral standards.

define moral standards? Whose morals by the way? The question was why don't people take their wedding vows seriously? I think the pressures of modern life does far more to break up marriages than moral standards.

May be a combination of both.Many weddings now have the couple vowing "long as we both shall LOVE",not "live".Some think a marriage is like a job,walk away when you fell like doing so.

But is that immoral or moral decay?

Thank you ;)

Given the divorce rate for first marriages, which is around 50%, you have to wonder.

These day yes but, not back in my parents days. Their still married 46 yrs.. Thank you ;)

Some ppl have fake feelings they just wanna hurry and get it over with so they can have their wife/husband and just leave

Damn that's terrible. I would never marry someone if I didn't love him