Which parent made more of an impact on the way you turned out?

by 2789847 Posted 2012/05/05 23:15:36

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	Both	92 votes	38%
	Neither	28 votes	12%

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kurtanderson1 2012/05/06 00:21:17

Both

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It was pretty even, Mom spoiled me and Dad kicked my ass..........
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Lonely girl 2012/05/07 08:47:40

Neither

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I don't know if it was my mom for being there or my dad for not being there.

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Giantfan 2012/05/07 01:37:38

Mom

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i've got my mother's personality and my father's sense of humor.

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Anna 2012/05/07 01:28:16

Both

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In different ways. The impacts my dad had on me are much more obvious, and I sped a lot less time with him. Not sure if it's nature beating nurture, or just because he has a much more powerful personality. I've got just enough of my mom's temperament to make me tolerable to others. My kind-of step-mother has also had a very large impact on me.
I would't want to loose any of the three, or their teachings.

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Texas Gal 2012/05/06 23:22:10

Both

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Both of my parents had great impact on how I turned out. I would say equally, but sometimes it was in the same areas of my life, and then sometimes one or the other had maybe a little more effect in certain other areas of my life.

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Scream 2012/05/06 23:07:03

Both

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I hate to say this because I love my mum to pieces, but I think she was the one who affected me negatively. And even though Dad and I only became close recently, he's had a massive positive effect on my life. I'm so grateful he came to balance that out.

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acacia86 2012/05/06 22:28:52

Pa

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Dad taught me everything, cooking, cleaning, sewing, car maintence, balancing a checking account, helped with my homework, took an active role in my education, taught me right from wrong, not to judge others. He took care of me and raised me as a single parent. My mom left when I was 2.

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Tabitha 2012/05/06 21:22:28

Neither

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I'm my own person. The only way I take after them is looks really.

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Margaret Jacobson 2012/05/06 19:43:49

Pa

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my father believed A GIRL NEEDS an EDUCATION......not just boys, AND TOLD ME THAT.....he taught how to budget money, balance a checking acct (somewhat), took me to museums, parks, shopping, etc.............

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angie45 2012/05/06 19:31:16

Both

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I would not be here if it were not for them...lol...I am blessed to be raised with both my parents in the home..and I am thankful for that.

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ADRIA 2012/05/06 19:04:44

Mom

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I am like my dad but my mom raised me and I am calmer because of her.

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gkirmani 2012/05/06 18:49:50

Both

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without thier indiidual active support and guidance.,..............i would have been a waste

May They REST in PEACE.........amen

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Skye 2012/05/06 18:06:09

Pa

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daddy's little girl ;)

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ant0n1us 2012/05/06 16:45:19

Both

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Basically my step-father taught me how NOT to be a person. He had only one tool in his emotional toolbox: anger. He taught me that winning was more important than how you play the game. He called me a loser, day-in day-out. My mom was my best friend growing up; she taught me to read, to enjoy life, to sing, to cook, how to listen to other people and enjoy life! So both had an impact, one showing me how NOT to live life and the other how TO live life. (My step-father talked of death, killing, all the time. He was a very weak person, very mean, bullying, like Mr. Potter in the Frank Capra film. He finally got the courage to act on his drive to die, after I had moved out, jumping five storeys to his death.)

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heartsonfire 2012/05/06 16:30:50

Neither

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They both left at important times in my life. 8 for mom, 14 for dad. Then when they came back years later it was too late. They have made the most negative impact on me. The person who made a positive impact on me is my aunt who raised me.

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Lindsey 2012/05/06 15:32:10

Pa

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He opened up my eyes to think about things that are bigger than earth, to ponder the unanswerable questions and helped me to "rise above the clouds" of social norms and collectivist thinking.

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...Kat... 2012/05/06 15:11:19

Pa

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More so my dad, even though he has been dead since '99. He killed himself because of depression, etc.. "It's" been passed down to me, as well as the other mental "illnesses" that he had. I, however, am taking medication for it, & I've learned to live with it, even when times are bad & I feel there's no one to talk to (a reason I started coming on here, actually). Every time I feel depressed or think of ways to go, I think of him, & it makes me feel better. It could have been a negative impact when my mom originally told me how he really killed himself in '08. But I made it positive anyway. I kind of got the feeling he did something before she even told me, but I just didn't want to bring it up. So I found out in the Arby's parkinglot at 10pm :P . Lol... My mom's had a negative/positive affect on me, like the majority of people have given me. She's helped me learned how to live independently, be a strong woman, she's given me my artistic skills, the little childhood I had, she's helped me through a lot. & I love her, & I know I could never give back as much love as she's given me, but I can only try. She's been an amazing single mother, she's been doing it since I was a baby, with or without my father being alive. She's always been a single mom. Since my dad wasn't around because of...&&

More so my dad, even though he has been dead since '99. He killed himself because of depression, etc.. "It's" been passed down to me, as well as the other mental "illnesses" that he had. I, however, am taking medication for it, & I've learned to live with it, even when times are bad & I feel there's no one to talk to (a reason I started coming on here, actually). Every time I feel depressed or think of ways to go, I think of him, & it makes me feel better. It could have been a negative impact when my mom originally told me how he really killed himself in '08. But I made it positive anyway. I kind of got the feeling he did something before she even told me, but I just didn't want to bring it up. So I found out in the Arby's parkinglot at 10pm :P . Lol... My mom's had a negative/positive affect on me, like the majority of people have given me. She's helped me learned how to live independently, be a strong woman, she's given me my artistic skills, the little childhood I had, she's helped me through a lot. & I love her, & I know I could never give back as much love as she's given me, but I can only try. She's been an amazing single mother, she's been doing it since I was a baby, with or without my father being alive. She's always been a single mom. Since my dad wasn't around because of his work at the garage & visiting his mom & dad an hour away, my mom has always been a single parent. But I love both of them... I just wish I could tell my dad I love him to his face. But I can only say it to his face when I'm near the waters... I also wish I could tell him I changed my tire because he taught me how!
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Muriel 2012/05/06 15:09:25

Both

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They both made an impact in totally different ways . Mom was gentle Dad was determined and there were times I was afraid to do things because I just knew my folks would "kill" me. They didn't obviously, but I've always thought a little bit of healthy fear works wonders.

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Watts 2012/05/06 14:28:58

Neither

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I'm pretty screwed up from my upbringing, but I'm not into violence, drinking, I'm not desperate for sex, I don't bother with relationships (probably because of my upbringing), I am loyal & I do keep my word, I wasn't bought up to do that!!!

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Elaine Magliacane 2012/05/06 14:22:30

Both

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I have my Dad's opinions and stubbornness, my Mom's smile and voice (the older I get the more I sound like her), she hates to talk on the phone and I do believe I'm the only person I know that hates phones and whose cell phone usage for a month is less than 5 minutes total.

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Muriel to Elaine ... 2012/05/06 15:14:57

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I had less than five minutes on my cellphone for the year. Just have it around in case I have an emergency.

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Deep007 2012/05/06 14:05:04

Pa

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Moms can only screw things up....which they always do

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RobertChristopherLaity 2012/05/06 13:58:40

Both

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"Lucky parents with fine children have lucky children with fine parents"-

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RobertC... to RobertC... 2012/05/06 14:00:10

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To my Saintly parents George and Caroline. God rest their souls.

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Rachel Thomas 2012/05/06 13:30:02

Pa

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My father, mostly in a negative way but he did give me my interest in music and history and he has a good sense of humour when he's in a good mood.

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clasact 2012/05/06 13:17:18

Mom

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she would make you clean things many times till she was happy with it so now im a very clean guy but a teacher had more influance on me then either

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L K 2012/05/06 13:10:42 (edited)

Both

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I am a product of both parents. Both had great faith in me, gave me unconditional love and guidance, and helped me when I was in need. They encouraged me and also had high expectations, and because of them both, I got a great college education and had a wonderful 36 year career as a teacher. I raised two sons and now am using their grand parenting skills with my own grandchildren. Both have passed away, but I learned my love of literature and desire from the mother, my appreciation for art from my father, and by watching them together in their united love, I learned how to parent. I was very luck to have two wonderful role models raise me.

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Missile 2012/05/06 12:51:23

Pa

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Father had the most positive impact, unfortunately I did'nt have him around long enough as he passed away when I was 11. He was funny, kind, compassionate and I miss him still.

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Jaroslav Dantes 2012/05/06 12:44:58

Both

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My mum is zero and my father was killer. And what could I do?

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Elaine ... to Jarosla... 2012/05/07 22:05:50

You don't have to be like them... you can be whatever you choose to be.

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Jarosla... to Elaine ... 2012/05/08 07:35:46

Thank you for the support ..... my friends said that nothing like nature to the family. I am happy.

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david.perez1 2012/05/06 12:44:54

Mom

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Mother for sure. The old man was absent early on. I wish I could say mothers impact was a positive one. Good question, tough to answer.

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John Hall 2012/05/06 11:36:39

Neither

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Even though I had good parents both of my older brothers had the biggest impact on my life .

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sweet silver 2012/05/06 10:42:21

Mom

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MY MOM MOSTLY CAUSE SHE WAS THERE BUT SO DID MY PAPA HE WASN'T IN MY LIFE AND I SPENT A LOT OF DAY'S ALONE CRYING WHICH I WOULDN'T HAVE IF HE HADN'T DESERTED US SOME DAD HUH ?

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NumptyNuts 2012/05/06 10:18:11

Both

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My dad taught me to swim and fish and write and paint. My mum battered the living daylights out of me

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Mikel_mad2002 2012/05/06 09:38:30

Mom

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My parents split up when I was 5

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Mike 2012/05/06 08:57:10

Pa

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I got his genes and his sense of humor!

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ticlo7 2012/05/06 08:22:47

Both

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I was born with a lot of my dad's traits but influenced to have some of my mum's so it's pretty much half and half.

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Inquisitve Kat 2012/05/06 07:17:16

Both

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Both positive and negative in some ways.
My mother, I suppose, did affect me most powerfully, not in a good way...

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Kazaira 2012/05/06 07:16:18

Pa

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my hero , my role my model , the strongest person i know emotionally <3

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mama sew,gung ho 2012/05/06 07:05:45

Mom

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She's still having an influence in my life,sometimes good,sometimes mothers are hard on your ego though!LOL

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