Should the woman in a relationship do most of the housework, cooking & taking care of the kids?

by SteamTrunkDolly Posted 2012/08/11 06:35:46

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	YES, I DO BECAUSE... (Please tell me why)	16 votes	12%
	NO, I DO NOT BECAUSE... (Please tell me why)	12 votes	9%
	BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)	82 votes	59%
	OTHER (Please comment)	29 votes	21%

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MlssCue =Go Blue= 2012/08/11 07:26:08

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

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If one of them is a stay at home Mom/Dad I feel they should do the majority of the housework.

If both work outside of the home then split right down the middle.

And if they have kids and they are old enough, there's no harm giving them chores as well.
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SteamTr... to Lizzeh 2012/08/13 04:14:15

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TYVM 4 your comment, much appreciated!

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jere.chievres 2012/08/12 13:39:12

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

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I always load the dishwasher and run it, do most of MY Laundry, She wont allow me to do hers, I usually vacuum the Carpets,make coffee in the morning.

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hasher to jere.ch... 2012/08/13 00:50:29

thats nice. you guys sound like you share duties just fine.

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megan 2012/08/12 06:52:16
Michael 2012/08/12 06:46:20

OTHER (Please comment)

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If you want to have a great life together, don't bother with kids at all. It's not like the planet needs any more. Childfree couples are always happier with their lives than the childed are; just ask Ann Landers and the advice columnists who followed her.

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SteamTr... to Michael 2012/08/13 04:14:52

TYVM 4 your comment, much appreciated!

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darlenedoskas1969 2012/08/12 06:34:06

OTHER (Please comment)

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in my opinion, who does the cleaning should depend on two factors:

#1 who is making the mess
#2 who has the most time available for domestic chores

every family has a different dynamic and the responsibility for care of the home and children should be shared in whatever way is best for each family.

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SteamTr... to darlene... 2012/08/12 10:59:35

+2
Thank you very much for your comment!

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Constitution Believer 2012/08/12 06:13:56

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

Marriage is 50/50.
I have been married for the last 22 years to the same woman and we are very happy.

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SteamTr... to Constit... 2012/08/12 06:26:59

Thank you very much for your comment!

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LovelyLady 2012/08/12 03:29:58

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

+1
Both should cook together, when they can. Assign specific chores with each other and switch so one person is never doing one chore all the time. When the children are old enough, have them help out as well.
As for children, it should not be asked to help them for either side. Percentage: 50 and 50.

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SteamTr... to LovelyLady 2012/08/12 03:30:34

+1
Thank you very much for your comment!

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brittany 2012/08/12 03:08:41

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

that should be 50/50 but i still think the women should wear the dress while the man wear the pants.

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SteamTr... to brittany 2012/08/12 03:29:49

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Well, I'm a dress kind of girl & my man definitely wears pants. But he's a real sweetheart, he lets me think I wear them sometimes,
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Thank you very much for your comment!

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SteamTr... to SteamTr... 2012/08/12 04:09:31 (edited)

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This is a really hard poll discussion, for me to NOT participate in LOL! it's causing me a twitch!

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brittany to SteamTr... 2012/08/12 23:06:05

thats cool. it depends on the type of people in a relationship. but i think it should go the traditional way in my opinion.

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La 2012/08/12 02:11:40

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

+2
Housework - this depends on who is working. If one person isn't working, they should do more. Likewise if one only works part-time. If they both work full-time, they should both share equally. It needs doing.
Cooking - this also should get evenly distributed, but again depends, like if one person always gets home late then the other person needs to cook
Kids - parenting takes two, and usually it is the mother when the kids are very young, but there's no reason a man can't stay home and look after the kids.

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Nick 2012/08/12 02:09:20

NO, I DO NOT BECAUSE... (Please tell me why)

Guy can do everything accept raise children like a mother

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Edensasp 2012/08/12 00:58:34

OTHER (Please comment)

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Depends on what partner takes on the role of the "Woman" in the household.

In all honesty. If both partners are working or going to school full time, I thinks it reasonable for each to share equally in the household duties.

There shouldn't be a role, things should be done as needed when needed without expectation or the assignment of roles/chores, equally, without thought or conviction.

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oldlady 2012/08/12 00:53:56 (edited)

OTHER (Please comment)

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That you even feel the need to ask this question tells me you are a woman who lives in the dark ages of America? We are no longer cows although some people will never get that. Oh well....moving forward ;)

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KLTLUVRLT1 2012/08/12 00:28:01

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

+1
Here's what I really think (whispering). Between golf, Happy Hour, football games, the girl on the side, and other manly pursuits, there's not much time left to help the little lady do her chores (shhhh).

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Edensasp to KLTLUVRLT1 2012/08/12 01:00:17

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LOL

Thanks for the chuckle.

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donna.robinson.102 2012/08/11 23:32:23

OTHER (Please comment)

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In a world where the economy is uncertain, and both partners are usually working, the load should be shared by both, now if the agreement is one is carrying the workload, then the other should pull the balance, on weekends, every man for themselves, both deserve a break and both can balance home life.

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Willy 2012/08/11 22:54:09

OTHER (Please comment)

+2
She should if she is not working outside the home and the husband is.

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EastIndianFemme 2012/08/11 22:01:35

NO, I DO NOT BECAUSE... (Please tell me why)

This is sexiest and degrading against womyn and boys still don't care or give us credit for anything; sexiest male pigs!!

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SA to EastInd... 2012/08/12 16:35:23 (edited)

My hubby helpied out with everything especially when I started working. He couldn't work because of medical factors but he has always helped out, even when he worked.

We raised our son not to be "sexist" in any way, shape or form. I know many men like this.

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eNewsAlerts 2012/08/11 22:01:26

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

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Whoever spends the least amount of time working and taking care of business should proportionately take care of the housework...

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clasact 2012/08/11 21:30:26

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

you both make the mess ,you both eat,and you both made the kids it should be up to both to share the responsibilities

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Catch224u 2012/08/11 21:29:45

YES, I DO BECAUSE... (Please tell me why)

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Yep, barefoot and pregnant is what I say, and It helps if she can cook.

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jere.ch... to Catch224u 2012/08/12 13:44:50

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Are you married! If so I bet it won.t last long. Heh Heh

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Catch224u to jere.ch... 2012/08/12 23:09:58 (edited)

Yes I am married, going on 38 years. It's all in how you train them.

I couldn't resist that last sentence.

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Lizzeh to Catch224u 2012/08/12 13:46:52

I agree with the other guy. If you're married, your marriage won't last long. If you're not married, I sure am not surprised.

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Catch224u to Lizzeh 2012/08/12 23:26:50

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Surprise,Surprise. Been married almost 38 years.
We wanted kids and she loves to cook, which is great. What's bad about that?
We have an arrangement. She takes care of everything inside the house and I take care of everything outside the house.

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Lizzeh to Catch224u 2012/08/13 01:16:18

That is a surprise.

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findthelight2000 2012/08/11 21:24:33

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

+2
Isn't that what partnership is all about..., sharing in the work.

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Brosia 2012/08/11 20:37:52

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

+1
It should be 50/50 if they are both working. However, if one is home more than the other, for whatever reason, they should be dong more, because they are home more. My husband does the majority of the housework during the school year, because, although he does work 2 jobs, he is still home more than I am, especially during the day, when it is the easiest to do cleaning. I take care of the cooking, primarily (I am better at it), the doctors appts for the kids, and the bulk of the errand running, because I have a licence and better access to a car than him, but he does most of the dishes and cleaning the bathroom, because I hate both.

But, whatever the decision is, it needs to be a conversation first and foremost.

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Alex 2012/08/11 20:01:47

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

+1
If only one parent works, then the other should keep up the house and take care of the childrens needs. Regardless of gender. If they both work, then they should split the work 50/50. Not even that as the children should be given chores to keep up as well.

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Pedalpusher 2012/08/11 19:51:36

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

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But the % depends on how much/long a man works. If he's there all day 50% (otherwise not working or working at home) but then if he's not working then the woman may be and in that case depends on how long she works! Some men love cooking....let them cook! Some may be real finicky about a spotless house, let them pickup the kids toys and clothes and vacuum! Picky about the bathroom, well give them the toilet brush and Comet and let him go to work. Always wanting you to get him a drink when your busy with the kids, draw him a map to the fridge....I did and it worked very well! He laughed but he got the hint! Even asked me when he was up there if I needed anything, and that was 51 years ago when our son was born a preemie and had all sorts of care problems.

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KeeganTheAwesome 2012/08/11 19:37:35

BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SHARE (Please give a % & why?)

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The answers to this question are not one-size-fits-all questions, but they share a common feature: they're driven by the number of people who live in the house and how long each person works. There are also lots of other details that complicate the situation further, but the general rules of thumb are these:

- The more time you spend at the house, the more housework you should do
- The older kids share some of the housework with each other and the parents
- If someone, say, gets sick or breaks an arm, or has to bring work home and can't do a certain chore, the others should make up for it in the meantime.

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Tennessee3501 2012/08/11 19:18:07

OTHER (Please comment)

The woman's firsty job is to provide sexual satisfaction for her husband. If she does, he can do all the rest if he has any energy left! LOL !

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