Should Guys Always Make the First Move?

by MiaBella Posted 2012/05/02 17:03:15

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	Yes. Hes the man.	64 votes	25%
	No.	103 votes	39%
	It Depends	94 votes	36%

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Anastasia 2012/05/03 20:47:41

Yes. Hes the man.

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Absolutely,men are the hunters!:))
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Lonna121593 2012/05/03 14:40:04

It Depends

I tend to be a bit dominant sometimes....i cant help it XD but my fiance initiated the first date and first kiss and the proposal....I initiated a few other firsts... ;D

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dear•LT13☻ 2012/05/03 14:15:12

It Depends

Not necessarily...

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Nameless 2012/05/03 13:41:18

No.

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No one should ever have to make the first move. It varies on the situation and the people involved. In fact, a good sex life is based on variation. Some men like women to ask them out on a date - and some don't. Imo, more men than not are fine with it. When I was dating, I still liked to have the door opened for me and have my chair pulled out for me. I had no problem asking a guy out and paying. However, if he offered to pay because he wanted to do so, I graciously accepted. Usually, if the guy enjoyed my company, he would offer to pay. So, ladies, if he offers - he likes you. ; )

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Betty 2012/05/03 13:41:13

Yes. Hes the man.

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I prefer it that way.

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Willski 2012/05/03 12:22:13

No.

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he shouldn't.
it's kind of sexist to say he should, ideally across society, you want a 50/50 spread over gender of "first movers".
anyway, if people relied on that then my general inactivity and undecisiveness would n't be good...

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jmc07806-PWCM-JLA 2012/05/03 11:49:29

It Depends

I would think so but in reallity no matter what us guys thing it is always the gals that actually pick the guys.

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MissJo 2012/05/03 09:10:40 (edited)

No.

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Because sometimes relationships have two ladies, and sometimes relationships have two men, and sometimes the woman is the dominant one in the relationship. Besides, gender-stereotypes are getting old anyway... if a woman wants to make the first move she should make the first move and no one should have a damn say about it besides her and the man she's going for.

Or woman, if she's going for a woman... or whatever kind of gender-identity.

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jackie 2012/05/03 08:51:21

Yes. Hes the man.

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I would prefer it. but if he doesnt make a move then I assume he doesnt care.. so ill go on with my life.

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Mrs. Ka... to jackie 2012/05/04 15:44:21

Exactly

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Devin Pederson 2012/05/03 07:45:41

No.

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Why does the guy always have to do it? He may not be completely confident. I sure as hell can't approach a girl; the girl has to approach me! I'd be all like "insert gibberish here" and awkward if I approached.

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MiaBella to Devin P... 2012/05/03 16:34:34

Lol gibberish..... why the heck do guys get so nervous?? its not like we're going to stab them or take away their hopes and dreams

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Luke Pi... to MiaBella 2012/05/03 19:14:09

actually, you kinda do take away our hopes and dreams

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Playerazzi 2012/05/03 07:32:47

Yes. Hes the man.

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I dont' think this is a "should", but it's the nature of the relationship that the guy chases after the girl, usually. Let nature run its course.

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lonewolf 2012/05/03 06:56:24

It Depends

i compramise on most things. but i like to make the first move usually.

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Rave 2012/05/03 05:36:28

No.

Anyone who feels up to it should.

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k fleming 2012/05/03 05:32:15 (edited)

It Depends

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A girl can make the first move without being "easy."
In today's litigious female siding sexual harassment culture, sometimes the guy you want can be a little shy.

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The River Rat 2012/05/03 05:26:38

No.

I kinda liked it when I was dating someone when she came on to me sometimes.

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Mai 2012/05/03 05:04:26

No.

not always but i like it when they do :)

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★earthbound_misfit★ 2012/05/03 04:51:58

It Depends

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Not always, no. I personally will never make the first move, but that's because I'm shy not because I'm a girl.

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BeautifulSoul 2012/05/03 04:28:44

No.

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Come on girls!!!! Really? No. Men shouldn't always make the first move, although itd be nice..

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Miko Mikomiko 2012/05/03 03:57:12

It Depends

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Whoever is confident enough to approach that person they like

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firebird 2012/05/03 03:46:36

No.

The guy may never make the first move. Sometimes the woman needs to do it and if its rebuffed then " forget him".... he is either cold or having problems with intimacy.

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TheMadChameleon 2012/05/03 03:36:13

No.

My boyfriend and I are still not sure who made the first move in our relationship!

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Pixie·MzAwesome♠ƤĦĂĔŢ♠ 2012/05/03 03:27:34

No.

I make the first move often!

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pterodactyl 2012/05/03 02:58:44

No.

+1
this is the 21st her ladies and gents get over it

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lavender 2012/05/03 02:07:02

Yes. Hes the man.

+1
yes, i will not take the initiative before he does.

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Mrs. Ka... to lavender 2012/05/04 15:45:06

Me either!

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Ian 2012/05/03 01:46:45

No.

+2
It's so overrated besides its the 21st century

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MayaAngelou0524 2012/05/03 01:45:34

No.

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He doesn't HAVE to, but if you're a girl who can talk to anyone but gets shy around the guy she likes...and you like a guy who's a real flirt...and you think he might like you back...but you're not sure because he's got,like, a billion other girl friends... then you kinda wish he would. Especially if there's a school formal coming up and you don't want to go with one of your girlfriends and you REALLY wish he would ask you!!!

I'm sorry, did I just tell you my life story :D? My bad...

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Jay 2012/05/03 01:27:03

No.

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Anyone can make a move. It's not the man's "place" to do so.

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Pat 2012/05/03 01:13:13

It Depends

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I think it's a matter of both people reading the signals that inevitably go on between the couple when you're on a first date. Once you get beyond the first date, things will move along more comfortably or you'll break up. But on the first date it's a matter of instinct.

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THB306 2012/05/03 01:08:14

No.

Less chance of rejection! What man in their right mind is gonna turn down a woman!? I've played the role of making the first move way too much with the exact same result: humiliatingly crushing rejection! I have had three women in my life make the first move... my only three relationships too!

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THB306 to THB306 2012/05/03 01:16:09

What's all of this nonsense about first kiss? This is about making the first move to ask out on a date, right? How can you get anything else out of this question?

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THB306 to THB306 2012/05/03 01:19:41

Okay... Just to be on the safe side... my opinion on both:
First move to ask out: either or
First kiss: always the guy! Duh!

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MiaBella to THB306 2012/05/03 01:28:30

Hahaha, well, i guess 'Making the first move' Is teenager Jargon for first to initiate a kiss and such.

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THB306 to MiaBella 2012/05/03 01:38:35

LOL!! :p

When this first loaded up, I saw a pic of a nerdy guy holding a crappy looking bouquet of flowers and thought "first to initiate asking out."

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MiaBella to THB306 2012/05/03 02:17:34

Hahaha Im just teasing you actually :) you are forgiven

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MOMMA THOMAS 2012/05/03 01:06:16

Yes. Hes the man.

+1
PREFER HIS MAKING THE FIRST MOVE, IF NOT.... SHE CAN HINT.

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Mrs. Ka... to MOMMA T... 2012/05/04 15:45:37

Exactly my way of thinking!

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H H 2012/05/03 01:05:49

No.

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Things have changed. If women, having been radicalized by feminism, are going to label all advances "unwanted," and act extremely rude when approached, then the burden should be on women to make the first move. That way the guy knows that the woman has at least some interest in him, and he isn't risking severe psychological trauma from approaching a psychopathic misandrist.

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