My first wife divorced me when we had been married 7 years, and I was in Vietnam, the second time. But I married her when I was 19 because she was Pregnant and I didn't think I was in love with her either. She admitted, she felt the same, until I lost her. She remarried almost immediately, and got divorced before I got home from the war, just before. She met me at the Aircraft and said she wanted me back, and I must admit, I wanted her back too. We had two kids, but I never realized how much I loved her, and she said she felt the same, after we divorced. We went to counseling for 12 months, then remarried.
We were married for 7 more years, almost to the day, and I got ordered overseas again, and she didn't want to leave Las Vegas, and I divorced her again. This time I remarried (a mistake) and she never did. So what to learn, well I gotta tell you she was my first wife, and I have never gotten over her totally, even though I was married 3 more times. (However, I think she got over me pretty fast the second time. I do not know.) So what have I learned, and what am I saying to you,...I have never been with a women, in my entire life, that even if only for the hour, that I didn't love. But I was only "In Love" with a women I was already married to for 7 years, and I do NOT know when it happened. But it wasn't at first. A friend, I truly believe is someone more important, and harder to find than a lover. You must like someone, it is more critical than love.
Relationship dilemma
Reneetje ~ Just look at my face, these tears ain't drying.
2010/03/13 16:24:11
having kindof a dilemma here. I'd like to hear your thoughts
I have this really great friend, a guy. and he's pretty amazing. He's the sweetest, bestest friend I've ever had.
Also, he's in love with me. I like him so much but I'm not IN LOVE with him.
at first I thought it was just ok... but now I'm considering a relationship with him even though I'm not in love. Because he's like the best thing that ever happened to me..
but I dont know if its a good idea. I dont know what to do
I have this really great friend, a guy. and he's pretty amazing. He's the sweetest, bestest friend I've ever had.
Also, he's in love with me. I like him so much but I'm not IN LOVE with him.
at first I thought it was just ok... but now I'm considering a relationship with him even though I'm not in love. Because he's like the best thing that ever happened to me..
but I dont know if its a good idea. I dont know what to do
Top Opinion
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Joseph E. Bowker, CMSgt, US... 2010/03/13 21:18:49
We were married for 7 more years, almost to the day, and I got ordered overseas again, and she didn't want to leave Las Vegas, and I divorced her again. This time I remarried (a mistake) and she never did. So what to learn, well I gotta tell you she was my first wife, and I have never gotten over her totally, even though I was married 3 more times. (However, I think she got over me pretty fast the second time. I do not know.) So what have I learned, and what am I saying to you,...I have never been with a women, in my entire life, that even if only for the hour, that I didn't love. But I was only "In Love" with a women I was already married to for 7 years, and I do NOT know when it happened. But it wasn't at first. A friend, I truly believe is someone more important, and harder to find than a lover. You must like someone, it is more critical than love.
but i'm afraid I will have to turn him down again. i dont want to hurt him
I'm concerned about that hurting part too. but on the other hand ... If I dont try, I'll never know
I just wanted to let you know that I've dediced to go for it :) He and I had a fight 2 weeks ago and it hurt so bad. :) I just know this is the right thing to do (now)
i hope it works out for you..everyone deserves to be happy xx