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  • Beat Magnum True Hero 2012/02/01 19:56:15 (edited)
    yes
    Beat Magnum True Hero
    +5
    "Worth the risk?" What is this? 1999? 1 out of 5 people meet online now. Two of my very good friends met their wives online and now they have kids. In fact, if you're a busy working adult, the internet is the way to go. Here are all the old places that never work:

    Bars: Loud, noisy, obnoxious.

    Grocery Store: Seriously? First, I hate grocery shopping. Second, people actually do this? "Hey, that's a nice head of lettuce you've got there!"

    Gym: Of course, nothing like the most self-conscious environment on the planet the pick up on someone. Add in the fact that you are drenched in sweat and being completely exposed for how out of shape and aesthetically imperfect you really are. In my case, I sweat like Niagra Falls. It means I'm really working out, but I'll admit it's not sexy at all.

    Work: I've proudly broken this "taboo" before (and I'd do it again because I don't believe you can control who you are attracted to) but yeah, bad idea.

    Night Club: Same as bar, but only louder and with worse music.

    Church: It can work, but not everyone goes to church. If you do attend church however, this is probably your best bet outside the internet to meet a like minded person.

    Through family: Awkward. Their sole agenda is not seeing you single at all costs.

    Through friends: "H...

    "Worth the risk?" What is this? 1999? 1 out of 5 people meet online now. Two of my very good friends met their wives online and now they have kids. In fact, if you're a busy working adult, the internet is the way to go. Here are all the old places that never work:

    Bars: Loud, noisy, obnoxious.

    Grocery Store: Seriously? First, I hate grocery shopping. Second, people actually do this? "Hey, that's a nice head of lettuce you've got there!"

    Gym: Of course, nothing like the most self-conscious environment on the planet the pick up on someone. Add in the fact that you are drenched in sweat and being completely exposed for how out of shape and aesthetically imperfect you really are. In my case, I sweat like Niagra Falls. It means I'm really working out, but I'll admit it's not sexy at all.

    Work: I've proudly broken this "taboo" before (and I'd do it again because I don't believe you can control who you are attracted to) but yeah, bad idea.

    Night Club: Same as bar, but only louder and with worse music.

    Church: It can work, but not everyone goes to church. If you do attend church however, this is probably your best bet outside the internet to meet a like minded person.

    Through family: Awkward. Their sole agenda is not seeing you single at all costs.

    Through friends: "Hey, know that single lonely dateless guy we know? Let's hook him up with this single lonely dateless woman." "What do they have in common? They're single, dateless, homely, and have low self esteem." "Brilliant! Brilliant!"

    The internet gives you the best chance of meeting someone who is single, like-minded, and probably shares some interests. Sure, there are liars out there, but I've met plenty of interesting women through the internet as well.
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  • sglmom 2012/02/08 06:57:29
    no
    sglmom
    For myself .. (being Visually Impaired) ..
    I'm going to have to say it is NOT worth the risk at all ..
  • bettyboop 2012/02/05 14:44:53
    Undecided
    bettyboop
    +1
    I think for some people it is good. You just have to use common sense and meet in public places until you get to know a person.
  • ✞Knight of Honor 2012/02/04 05:32:50
    Undecided
    ✞Knight of Honor
    +1
    Not from what I've heard, but I've never tried it.
  • QueenTar Mercy 2012/02/03 15:29:04
    yes
    QueenTar Mercy
    +3
    Yes its worth taking the risk BUT one should never meet anyone who does not have a profile picture on the dating website.People who do not post pictures of themselves generally do not post pictures for three reasons; they are married, have low self esteem or they do not want people to possibly see them on a online website. All three of these factors prove risqué behavior meaning, if someone is married, they cannot commit to you. If someone has such low self-esteem, they will not be someone appealing to enter into a relationship and lastly, if someone is ashamed of utilizing the services of a dating service, this proves a whole ballpark of issues alone.

    There are numerous success stories but there are also horror stories. Generally, online dating is safe as long as you follow the recommendations of the dating website while protecting yourself which is good old-fashioned common sense.

    No one should ever depend on dating websites in keeping them safe. One should take the issue of safety seriously while dating online. When dating online, one should keep their guard up until of course the person they are meeting proves to be precisely who they have portrayed themselves to be.But its worth the risk,most do work:-)
  • AurouraNatasha 2012/02/03 05:26:53
    Undecided
    AurouraNatasha
    +1
    for some it does , for me I don't believe it would work .
  • Josef 2012/02/03 01:21:37
    yes
    Josef
    +2
    definitely :)
  • mariner 2012/02/02 20:53:06
    Undecided
    mariner
    +1
    tried it once and was a total disaster - found out she was using me as a bit on the side!!!
  • Adam McMahon 2012/02/02 17:23:00
    yes
    Adam McMahon
    +3
    What risk? You have a lot more people who are up front about what they want so it's easier to narrow your search. You have no idea what you're getting into when you pick up some random person in a bar, club, church w.e. At least with online dating you can learn something about them before you actually decide if you want to make an effort to communicate. In person all you have to go on is looks and maybe rumors.
  • Seonag 2012/02/02 14:18:26
    yes
    Seonag
    +2
    BUT, you must remember it's really not much different than meeting people at the local pub, bar, waterhole, etc. You still must be very careful!
  • cybernestical 2012/02/02 13:25:34
    no
    cybernestical
    +1
    It's weird
  • Valia-chan 2012/02/02 10:31:55
    Undecided
    Valia-chan
    +1
    Sometimes it's worth it.:)
  • justnotsaying (: 2012/02/02 08:47:29
    yes
    justnotsaying (:
    +2
    I'm single and not looking, but it's no different than offline, and worth opening up to meeting someone if you're looking. If people aren't meeting on sites for dating, then they're meeting on sites like this, and other social networking sites. People can hit it off anywhere.
  • Kevin1111 2012/02/02 06:04:02
    yes
    Kevin1111
    +2
    It is really time that we lose the negative stigma against online dating. Couples are embarrassed to admit that they met online. People still give negative attitudes about it. This is the age of the Internet and we need to accept that this is normal now.
  • wtw 2012/02/02 04:22:53
    yes
    wtw
    +2
    Sure was a great gamble for me! I found the love of my life!
  • killernick 2012/02/02 01:06:38
    yes
    killernick
    +2
    Worked for me !!!
  • Alex♥Adam 2012/02/02 00:56:02
    Undecided
    Alex♥Adam
    +1
    Yeah it can be worth the risk sometimes ,and they don't even seem to work out a lot.
    Depends.
  • Elz 2012/02/02 00:42:04
    Undecided
    Elz
    +1
    well i met people online and no harm never happened (thank god) but i am no longer doing the online dating thing anytime soon.
  • Queen Katherine 2012/02/02 00:15:06
    Undecided
    Queen Katherine
    +1
    I met my ex online and we dated for three years, but you always have to be careful even when you meet someone through school, work or friends.
  • Giantfighter 2012/02/02 00:10:23
    yes
    Giantfighter
    +2
    You can learn a lot & extract bad possibilities before spending too much effort, time & money
  • Jorge Enriquez 2012/02/01 23:56:43
    Undecided
    Jorge Enriquez
    +1
    sometimes worth, just sometimes...
    take care!!
  • Lorelei Lee 2012/02/01 23:33:24
    no
    Lorelei Lee
    +1
    Personally,no.
  • Rowena Ravenclaw 2012/02/01 22:42:26 (edited)
    no
    Rowena Ravenclaw
    +1
    Neither is real life dating... :|
  • Stefan The Great 2012/02/01 22:39:50
    Undecided
    Stefan The Great
    +2
    I would say its a personal choice. Some like it others dont you will never know till you try
  • hari 2012/02/01 21:43:43
    no
    hari
    +1
    open up the identity only after due assurance and confide and till that time exchange ideas / thoughts / liking / non liking etc - its worth and nice as identity is not disclosed and won't generate more pain if broken
  • elly 2012/02/01 21:26:34
    Undecided
    elly
    +1
    sometimes...

    i am a bit undecided about long distant relationships.
  • WhereIsAmerica? ~PWCM~JLA 2012/02/01 21:03:57
    yes
    WhereIsAmerica? ~PWCM~JLA
    +1
    As long as you are careful and do background checks, be careful how much information you share and how fast, where you meet a person, stuff like that. I know people in successful relationships and marriages who met online. Just like in the real world, be careful, take your time, don't ignore red flags.
  • ziad 2012/02/01 20:22:33
    no
    ziad
    +1
    rare cases
  • Unintended 2012/02/01 20:19:46
    yes
    Unintended
    +3
    It's just another way of meeting people.
  • LisaIr1 2012/02/01 19:59:56
    Undecided
    LisaIr1
    +1
    I've had 2 internet bf's who I met online... But I wasn't at the "dating pages".. I was on the stupid "talk to a stranger" pages.. AND 1 thing..: internet relationships doesn't work out, if u don't have a LOT of money to travel and meet this person
  • Beat Magnum True Hero 2012/02/01 19:56:15 (edited)
    yes
    Beat Magnum True Hero
    +5
    "Worth the risk?" What is this? 1999? 1 out of 5 people meet online now. Two of my very good friends met their wives online and now they have kids. In fact, if you're a busy working adult, the internet is the way to go. Here are all the old places that never work:

    Bars: Loud, noisy, obnoxious.

    Grocery Store: Seriously? First, I hate grocery shopping. Second, people actually do this? "Hey, that's a nice head of lettuce you've got there!"

    Gym: Of course, nothing like the most self-conscious environment on the planet the pick up on someone. Add in the fact that you are drenched in sweat and being completely exposed for how out of shape and aesthetically imperfect you really are. In my case, I sweat like Niagra Falls. It means I'm really working out, but I'll admit it's not sexy at all.

    Work: I've proudly broken this "taboo" before (and I'd do it again because I don't believe you can control who you are attracted to) but yeah, bad idea.

    Night Club: Same as bar, but only louder and with worse music.

    Church: It can work, but not everyone goes to church. If you do attend church however, this is probably your best bet outside the internet to meet a like minded person.

    Through family: Awkward. Their sole agenda is not seeing you single at all costs.

    Through friends: "H...

    "Worth the risk?" What is this? 1999? 1 out of 5 people meet online now. Two of my very good friends met their wives online and now they have kids. In fact, if you're a busy working adult, the internet is the way to go. Here are all the old places that never work:

    Bars: Loud, noisy, obnoxious.

    Grocery Store: Seriously? First, I hate grocery shopping. Second, people actually do this? "Hey, that's a nice head of lettuce you've got there!"

    Gym: Of course, nothing like the most self-conscious environment on the planet the pick up on someone. Add in the fact that you are drenched in sweat and being completely exposed for how out of shape and aesthetically imperfect you really are. In my case, I sweat like Niagra Falls. It means I'm really working out, but I'll admit it's not sexy at all.

    Work: I've proudly broken this "taboo" before (and I'd do it again because I don't believe you can control who you are attracted to) but yeah, bad idea.

    Night Club: Same as bar, but only louder and with worse music.

    Church: It can work, but not everyone goes to church. If you do attend church however, this is probably your best bet outside the internet to meet a like minded person.

    Through family: Awkward. Their sole agenda is not seeing you single at all costs.

    Through friends: "Hey, know that single lonely dateless guy we know? Let's hook him up with this single lonely dateless woman." "What do they have in common? They're single, dateless, homely, and have low self esteem." "Brilliant! Brilliant!"

    The internet gives you the best chance of meeting someone who is single, like-minded, and probably shares some interests. Sure, there are liars out there, but I've met plenty of interesting women through the internet as well.
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  • 7leads 2012/02/01 19:48:29
    yes
    7leads
    +4
    Found my best friend and love on the the internet. But I talked to her for 3+ years and went across the country to visit her. It was exactly what I thought it would be...excellent. Leaving soon to live with her for good....Met her family as well...great people...The key to making it work is do your homework on that person. :-) lol
  • WhereIs... 7leads 2012/02/01 21:07:43
    WhereIsAmerica? ~PWCM~JLA
    +2
    My friend that met on Match and got married was the same thing, took her time, waited 3 years, now happily married.
  • Zozo 7leads 2012/02/02 20:48:18 (edited)
  • misterz 2012/02/01 19:42:28
    Undecided
    misterz
    Careful.
  • marcie 2012/02/01 19:40:33
    Undecided
    marcie
    +3
    After two bad marriages where i met the men through work or out socializing in public, I joined one just to pass the time. I met a very nice guy and we have been happily married now for going on 9 years. There are good ones on those sites, you just have to use common sense when arranging a meeting. Never give your address or phone number until you feel secure in wanting it to go further after you have met the person a number of times and never meet in a private place where there are no other people. We chose a local restaurant to meet and slowly got to know eachother over a year's time. And he was local to my town, a widower, looking for a serious relationship.
  • sarah boo 2012/02/01 19:38:55
    yes
    sarah boo
    +1
    i started datin my ex bf over the internet i mean me nd him used to live near eachother nd then he moved away nd i didnt see him for a while then i looked him up on myspace and we started datin after a month nd we were together for 2yrs and 7 months
  • Paul Adam 2012/02/01 19:32:24
    no
    Paul Adam
    +1
    A complete waste of time.
  • Dave0626 2012/02/01 19:15:30
    Undecided
    Dave0626
    Mine will be 'yes & no'...Some here say use 'common sense' ...I say use 'good sense' instead. Because unfortunately, the majority doing this are the same people one would not give the time of day to if they met them in the street. For me there would have to be something that 'clicks'. A common bonding within the 2-way communication, something that transcends and is above the sexual nature of a relationship. ...ie: Our past history is in sync with each others. Our likes and dislikes are similar, etc. With all this being able to be proven in some logical way........

    What was the question again? ...( scroll, scroll....)

    Oh, I see....


    sexual nature relationship history sync dislikes proven logical scroll scroll
  • Judy224 Dave0626 2012/02/01 19:49:10
    Judy224
    +1
    Great answer. I like it.
  • Dave0626 Judy224 2012/02/01 21:30:58
    Dave0626
    +1
    Thank you Judy ...makes sense to me.

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