My poor little sister!!!PLZ HELP!!(My sister borrowed my sodahead for this ? only)

i think ever girl has thought the same way. i know i do

Maybe, it's not wheather your'e interested in them sexually, but comparitively. Are you thinking that they are prettier than you, that their body is bettter than yours? I sometime wonder if women find me attractive to what degree compared to other guys. Does the idea of kissing a girl intrigue or revolt you? Remember, you body is still growing, and some of your features will change as you become an adult. If you like girls in bikinis, it may be a body issue. Everybody wants to look good in some way, so at your age you have enough time to control how your shape may be when you get to be an adult. Don't think of what you look like today, but where you want to be and set a goal. Just don't over do it. Eat healthy, have fun, and be happy.

yes

OCD has absolutely NOTHING to do with sexuality. Do you have a need to continually wash your hands, are you terribly uncomfortable if an object it out of place in your home, do you compulsively feel a need to clean a public restroom? I had a friend that was a textbook case of OCD, and these were his issues.

I believe you are young and in a state of confusion, perhaps a state of revolution. You are most likely bombarded with "Lesbians are kool" stereotypes in your school & such. no matter which way you turn it is normal to question. Most normal girls (and yes guys also) have fears/thoughts of being gay in adolescence.

I am by no means an "expert" on the subject, but I have had experience in recovery where this was one of many issues.

if you like guys ur strait am i right and girls can't be gay its called lesibean
i still have a crush on this guy from 5h grade.........
IDK i'm the same age as you though

You're young, don't worry about that, and I don't think it odd to think the same sex is attractive, I'm straight and can look at a guy and say he looks great, of gorgeous depending on his features. Don't sweat even if you are, but so far when I was that age I wondered then quickly realized the thought of any romantic moments with other males never really appealed to me. You're twelve, I'd say give it time and go with what you feel, not what you think.

you could be bi-curious... but--all that doesnt mean anything rightnow honey~~;) just go with the flow--see what happens over the years.... its all good..:):) but u couldnt be gay--if you still like the boys....youre just very curious---especially at that age.

We all question it at some point but you are too young to really be worrying about this

I know you probably don't want to hear this, but it's okay to not be sure at your age (and even older). You might be bi, you might be straight and just have a normal appreciation for the female body. Only time will tell you (and you will eventually know), but I can assure you, everyone does question their sexuality at some point.

not sure but you are curious & it dont mean your gay

Well you're not OCD. It doesn't sound like OCD. 13 is pretty young. Many people are confused about their sexuality when they are young. I would term you "bi-curious". Someone who believes they are straight but are still curious about what it would be like to be into the opposite sex. I wouldn't worry too much about it, if I were you. When you are older, you can experiment a bit if you want. I went through a bi-curious stage and made out with a few girls, and it was a bit of fun but it helped me realise that I am most definitely straight.

Try to be at peace with yourself and you will figure it out as you get older.

You're probably just bi-curious. PROBABLY. But I don't know for sure. But what I do know for sure is that you're confused, and should just calm down, and think. Think about how you feel. Just because you think someone's attractive, that doesn't mean you roll that way. So, really, realize your feelings, and if you are bi/lesbian, don't be upset about it. Embrace it. Hell, I do. :)

Well, in general, I think girls are more attractive than guys. Just look at this nursery rhyme.

What are little boys made of?
What are little boys made of?

Slugs and snails
And puppy-dogs' tails,

That's what little boys are made of.

What are little girls made of?
What are little girls made of?

Sugar and spice
And everything nice,

That's what little girls are made of.

So I cannot fault you on being slightly attracted to girls in bikinis or otherwise. I do not think this means much in terms of sexual preference, but you could make a liar out of me later.

You're still young, you will figure it out when you're older.

Pretty good advise

You will know when you are older. You are young and confused and that is okay. But OCD has nothing to do with being gay or straight.

HOCD is a form of obsessive compulsive disorder that deals with one's sexual identity. It's based around the fear that one might become or somehow is homosexual, with this notion going against all rational and actuality of that person's sexual identity as a heterosexual. In part, the fears are that of impulse and loss of control, where one feels overwhelming anxiety around the intrusive thoughts of being sexual and passionate with another member of the same sex.

This is not at all the same as closeted gays who may be afraid of social repercussions. It is not a fear of rejection by members of the same sex, but rather is a fear of the attraction itself. Healthy homosexuality and heterosexuality are based around positive feelings, whereas the feelings encompassing HOCD are quite negative and do not revolve around wholesome fulfillment. Instead, they are based around insecurities and the mind playing off these insecurities to falsify reality to the afflicted person. The person will feel an urge of sorts that just "doesnt fit" with themselves, and it causes utmost anxiety, confusion, frustration, and pain. However, the urge/thought does not go away and the anxiety persists, leading to illogical rationalization and depression, among many other negative side-effects stemming from being afflicted with the intrusive thoughts

Right.... Thats from Urban dictionary yes? You did not say HOCD, which I believe is made up anyway, you said OCD.

Well that was a mistake,ocd, now I'm saying HOCD Homosexual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder! This is real because i'm feeling it i think! o_0

:))

You are a normal straight twelve year old.

You think so?

I'm positive. I am 100% positively sure that you are straighter than a straight-edged ruler. Who was the cutest boy in your class this year? Are you flirty, or are you shy? I was shy and awkward. I should at least have smiled. If I had to do it over again, I would at least get the courage to smile at cute boys.

Your comment made me smile and giggle a little...You know what? I am straight!!I think I'm shy and flirty!!lol..and the boy I like is so cute..but..he's really short..he looks like a 12 year old..he is a 12 years old and I'm one two, but I look like a 15 year old..lol..I act like one too. He is very mature, and not like other guys. He is very respectful and well perfect!

Oh yeah. Enjoy that while it lasts. Girls develop a few years earlier than boys, so you look older than the boys in your class. But boy howdy, when boys catch up, they catch up and then some. They will outgrow you and out-muscle you over-night. I remember my son's feeling so bad when girls their age looked like adults, and they still looked like boys. That didn't last long. So be sweet to them now, and they will remember it, when they develop.

I'm glad you are kinda flirty. It makes it so much easier than when you are shy. Boys like the chase. They really do--but they avoid girls who are totally and completely unapproachable. I wasn't a snobby girl at all, but because I was so quiet and shy, I came across like I was. So even when you feel really, really shy, at least smile--even if you can't smile for very long, and you have to look away because you are so nervous--be brave and smile as long as you can.

Why worry about it?. Just live your life. What goes on inside your head goes on inside everybody's. There is nothing strange or different about you. Do as well as you can in school. Take part in what ever school activities you are interested in and let your personality develope as it will. You are no different than anybody else. Just trying to find their nich and fit in. Enjoy your life.

Ocd has nothing to do with sexual orientation.

HOCD is a form of obsessive compulsive disorder that deals with one's sexual identity. It's based around the fear that one might become or somehow is homosexual, with this notion going against all rational and actuality of that person's sexual identity as a heterosexual. In part, the fears are that of impulse and loss of control, where one feels overwhelming anxiety around the intrusive thoughts of being sexual and passionate with another member of the same sex.

This is not at all the same as closeted gays who may be afraid of social repercussions. It is not a fear of rejection by members of the same sex, but rather is a fear of the attraction itself. Healthy homosexuality and heterosexuality are based around positive feelings, whereas the feelings encompassing HOCD are quite negative and do not revolve around wholesome fulfillment. Instead, they are based around insecurities and the mind playing off these insecurities to falsify reality to the afflicted person. The person will feel an urge of sorts that just "doesnt fit" with themselves, and it causes utmost anxiety, confusion, frustration, and pain. However, the urge/thought does not go away and the anxiety persists, leading to illogical rationalization and depression, among many other negative side-effects stemming from being afflicted with the intrusive thoughts.

Because you are under 18 you can not be legally sure of having HOCD.

Everything during your early teenage years are based around insecurities though lol. Your brain is developing, your feelings change, your perspective will change, at times your going to be an emotional mess. All hell will likely break loose at some point. Its just how it is being a teenager. I find it hard to say a young teen suffers from HOCD when they are likely just a confused teen going through a bit of an identity crisis. I'm gonna have to agree with hanahishaunted on this one.

We in the USA live in a society that seems to pride itself on "What is wrong with you". Shrinks make a bundle off people with simple moodswings calling them Bi Polar. Bi Polar is an illness that takes time to diagnose properly. I know of many that were in exactly that situation.

In my personal opinion, having been a human guinea pig for psychiatrists for about 25 to 30 years, I think such "disorders" as HOCD are hogwash, created by some "doctor" looking for recognition in medical journals. If a person is confused, (as most adolescents are) they can read themselves into most any such diagnosis!

My suggestion, If you want to have a happy life, go to school, study, concentrate on what you can do to be the best you you can be and live for yourself!

OK, I will step down from my soapbox now.

why should it matter to you. if you do find someone thats for you, you will know it and as long as your comfortable with your self does it really matter what others think?

I do not know. The only person who could know is you. but as you are unsure, I am not sure what to tell you but you could try to find a youth group in your area that often reach out to questioning youth as well. I wish you the best of luck and figure it out and are happy with yourself no matter what ^_^

Thank you!!♥

Hon, you're confused at the moment.
You're young.
Don't worry about your orientation.
When you figure it out, things will become clearer.

You could be lesbian, you could be bisexual, or you could just be bicurious.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Just calm down, take a deep breathe and let things happen.
Everything will fall into place eventually.

And if you're REALLY not sure, you could always try kissing a girl, which is what helped ME figure it out. But you should wait until you're older for that.

Good luck :)

I think you need to chill out. You're 13 years old and you have plenty of time to figure it out.

Talk to an adult you trust, not random people on the internet.

Umm, there are "Am I Gay" tests? Wow. I have a friend with a similar issue. She's one of those people who questions everything (see why I like her? Lol) and she has a physical attraction to females, though she doesn't see herself in actual sexual relations with them. Does that make her a lesbian, or bisexual? Is sexuality determined by actual sex, or just physical attraction. She has a boyfriend by the way. Anywho, I really can't tell you whether you are lesbian or bi or not. I don't think you should listen to some test like that either. And what does OCD have to do with it, just wondering....

HOCD is a form of obsessive compulsive disorder that deals with one's sexual identity. It's based around the fear that one might become or somehow is homosexual, with this notion going against all rational and actuality of that person's sexual identity as a heterosexual. In part, the fears are that of impulse and loss of control, where one feels overwhelming anxiety around the intrusive thoughts of being sexual and passionate with another member of the same sex.

This is not at all the same as closeted gays who may be afraid of social repercussions. It is not a fear of rejection by members of the same sex, but rather is a fear of the attraction itself. Healthy homosexuality and heterosexuality are based around positive feelings, whereas the feelings encompassing HOCD are quite negative and do not revolve around wholesome fulfillment. Instead, they are based around insecurities and the mind playing off these insecurities to falsify reality to the afflicted person. The person will feel an urge of sorts that just "doesnt fit" with themselves, and it causes utmost anxiety, confusion, frustration, and pain. However, the urge/thought does not go away and the anxiety persists, leading to illogical rationalization and depression, among many other negative side-effects stemming from being afflicted with the intrusive thoughts.