My best friend's girl made a move on me. I turned her down. She asked me not to say anything? Should I tell him?

Probably right, 1st one to put it that way. Thx.

If you decide to follow Keanu's advice, just make sure you do NOT tell ANYONE about the incident.
Long story here...
I used to be really close friends with a guy and a girl in high school who later became a couple. 2 years after high school, he told me he had feelings for me with some elaboration. I tried to reassure him he was imagining these feelings because he and the girl were going through a bit of a trying time and we - him and myself - had more common interests than they did. Basically, I tried as hard as possible to make it all okay and decided I wouldn't tell the girl because I knew his feelings weren't legitimate and I didn't want to destroy their relationship over it. Unfortunately, I made the mistake of telling my boyfriend (who had never even met this guy or girl at the time) because I was just dying to get it off my chest. A year later I broke up with said boyfriend and, out of spite, he told the girl about it; the guy in question denied it and said I had made up lies and the girl was furious with me for not telling her. They're still going out but they haven't spoken to me in years. It still makes me sad because they were my best friends and I still miss them.

So, do or do not tell him. But if you don't, and you value your friendship with him, don't tell a soul about it.

I agree. Almost never know who you're real friends are these days, or who just can't or won't let go of things, and use as blackmail.

Very good point raised by the way.

Thank you. :) I agree with your point just above here and also with your original post. Situations like this are tricky; things aren't so black and white that just one answer is right.

You're very welcome and thank you :).

I kind of want to talk to her about it when we're both sober to figure out where her head is at. It matters whether it's more about me or him.

let him know shes not very trust worthy

Did he tell u when he screwed your girl? If it was a meaningless fling then its OK.

Dude that's your best friend and i am pretty sure he would want you to tell him. Also if she did that to you do you know how many other guys she probably did that to. And if you don't tell him he could get hurt a lot worse than you telling him that.

she owe's you one. use it to your advantage later on.

lmao

Who do you respect more, your best friend or his girl? Doing the right thing isn't always the easiest thing to do. She needs to realize there are consequences and your friend deserves to know. Unless of course he is a hot-head and tries to hurt her for the mistake she made. Then.... maybe not.

I'm good friends with both of them...and he is a hothead.

Then "NO" would be my answer.

if she tries again or you see her draped on another guy...yeah then clue the guy in....until then...DON'T...he won't believe you...SHE will say YOU hit on HER and your best friend will cease to be your best friend

That's sort of how it happened with me. She didn't believe me until she found out differently. He was cheating on her with another girl, and she never could get past me being right about him...and being in that position before, I wouldn't have said "I told you so"...just would've been a bitch move. So we never bothered to talk again...I tried and didn't get far. Gave up when I didn't have a number to reach her at anymore.

believe me...many times trying to clue one in about a lover...results in disaster...it never works out like you think...no word of gratitude...more like 'how dare you' and even afterwards...you will still get no thanks for it

I hate it. And we were fricken teens back then!! You'd think...but that's life I guess. It still kinda hurts to look back :(

I know..a warm hug from friend to friend

Thank you

If it was my girl, I'd want to know.

I would advise telling him because if she decides to get nasty and warp the story so you're the bad guy; you're going to seem like the bad guy and that'll lead to a fight. Besides, if she hadn't really ment to do it (intoxicated) she would have confessed to him already

He's your best friend (so you say). Tell him and tell him soon. She's probably hit on other guys as well.

He may be very angry in the beginning but it is better you tell him than not.

Not unless she does it again. It can happen when alcohol is involved sometimes. Did she apologize or imply that she had a lack of judgement? If she actually touched you- yes you may want to tell your friend, but not if she only said something.

Yes of course as you would want him to do the same if your girl friend did the same. I mean even if he doesn't care about it wich is unlikely he probably would still want to at least know about it.

I think she is going to say you made a move on her. So this can get really crazy.

Stay out of it. She'll be gone before long and you'll have saved your friendship.

ask yourself would you want to know....Yes you have to tell him...Its the Right thing to do,

You are in one of the toughest positions one can be in with friends. I only said yes because you only gave two choices, and despite what the others have said strongly one way or the other, it really isn't that simple. I lean towards telling, but know this...you WILL lose them both, and she WILL try and put the blame on you. And that does lead to the question, how much DO you share in the blame?

Where was he while you were getting drunk with HIS girlfriend? That is certainly a question that will come up. WHY were you getting drunk with his girlfriend? He's also sure to ask why you didn't tell him immediately. All of which will lend more credibility to HER story, if she hasn't already said something to him.

This is a lose - lose situation for you I'm sorry to say.

We got drunk together.

If she is willing to cheat with you - your friend better get ready to see her cheating with someone else because she obviously is not satisfied where she's at...a good friend would let him know.

hell yes you better before she lies about it and tell Him that you were trying to get in her pants.
exact same thing happened to me 1 time

I would.

Yes is the right answer. However, how good is your friendship, and will he believe you? That is a tough decision...you should tell him, before she turns it around on you. good luck.

Your decision, but I would.