Is this Denial or am I exaggerating?

by Mrs. Prince Royce Posted 2012/06/22 18:36:03

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Is this Denial or am I exaggerating?

Hey. I'm 14 and a girl. All of this started about 3 months ago. So this is what happened. I was on the computer when I had this great Idea and took a bunch of sexuality quizzes. I got straight for all of them. Except for the ones that were messed up. I retook them again. I was starting to get obsessed over them. Now I began to worry. I thought that seeing girls in bikinis and wanting to see more was bad. I asked my mom if she has ever felt like this, and she said "yes." Well, I would not listen so I would be trying to find the answers to my question by reading articles on the internet. In one of websites I visited (I do not remember which one) said that in order to find your sexuality you would need to compare a guy and a girl. So that's what I did. I compared a guy that I have always liked from my school and I girl in my class who I though was pretty! Well first I compared the guy. I got a warm good feeling in my stomach (I've liked him since 5th grade) and this girl. I did not feel anything towards her. To make sure I didn't feel anything I compared the boy with that girl again and again and again every day until now! (march 21-june22) everyday non-stop always thinking about it. When I was at school and I saw her I would feel like I needed to throw up. I would rush to the bathroom as fast as I could every time I saw her. Even when I would think of her. IDK why, but just could not see her or think of her. Well I got past over all that throwing up.... and now I'm worse!!! Crying everyday....thinking about it...I try not to think about it..but the thought just comes back...Is it normal to think the same sex is pretty, or looks good?...I'm scared!! I have also told myself...maybe I am bisexual? So then I'm like "ok so if I'm "now" bisexual I am going to think about that girl and probably like her." So I though about her..then I 'm like "but I do not feel that feeling when I'm in love with someone. I just think she is pretty." I'm calm for a While and the thoughts hit me again...I am not scarred about being called bisexual, but the only thing I'm scared about is me actually liking a girl!! So is this Denial or am I exaggerating?

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Jersey Roze ♥Jwon's Cyar'ika ♥ 2012/06/22 18:40:57 (edited)

exaggerating?

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There is nothing wrong with saying another girl is pretty. I do it all the time. If a girl is hot, I tell her she is. I've never been sexually attracted to a girl, or had romantic feelings for one though. I think you are obsessed with determining your sexuality. You're only 14, you have so much time to figure it out. Just because you think a girl is pretty doesn't mean you are bisexual or that you actually like her...
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carri byers 2012/06/25 16:33:59 (edited)

Undecided

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How very sad that your generation has been so sexually oriented that you and your contemporaries waste so much of your time worrying about your sexuality.

You shouldn't mess with sex till you are ready to think about serious relationship issues - because like it or not my dear, when you have sex you have relationship issues.

14 is too young to even be worried about this crap. Be a teen, enjoy being young, leave sexuality for when you are fully developed (your brain continues to develop until you are 25) and get on with your life. Believe it or not, life is not all about sex.

PS. I'm a 53 year old grandma and I have always and do still find the female form very attractive. I'm not worried about my sexuality and neither should you be.

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RobHom 2012/06/24 22:50:31

Undecided

You're thinking way to much. Stop it.
Its perfectly normal for a person of one gender to look at another of the same gender and think that person is pretty, handsome, attractive. Men aren't likely to admit it, but even guys do it.

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Soot The Fallen 2012/06/24 02:14:45

exaggerating?

I didnt go quite to your extent and thought about it for a week untill i realized "Hey Im Bi-Curious" but your not from what you wrote.

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Einstein's Firecracker 2012/06/23 07:33:37

exaggerating?

You're straight, but for some reason you're trying to convince yourself you're more or other. You can say another girlis cute like you can say a kitten is cute. Unless you have an uncontrollable urge to hold that kitty and stroke its soft, soft fur. I mean, quit taking those sexuality quizzes and let your heart's preferences decide, which I feel it already has.

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VintageLys 2012/06/23 04:11:59

Denial

you're not bi you're gay

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carri b... to VintageLys 2012/06/25 16:37:26

At 14 she's a child. It's disgusting how our culture forces sexuality of any kind of children when they are emotionally ill equipped to deal with the fall-out of sexual encounters. Whether gay or straight.

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DFA 2012/06/23 03:39:33

Undecided

I realized I was gay when I was 12... tried to pray it away until age 19. You might be starting to learn more about your sexuality. But don't worry about it. You will figure it out.

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Mrs. Pr... to DFA 2012/06/23 04:06:27

Did you have same sex crushes when you were younger?

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DFA to Mrs. Pr... 2012/06/23 21:48:57

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Yes.

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Mrs. Pr... to DFA 2012/06/24 21:40:59 (edited)

Well I never had same sex crushes when I was younger. I would not even look at girls. I would look at guys though. I didn't even know that is was possible for a girl to like an other girl or a guy to like another guy!

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carri b... to Mrs. Pr... 2012/06/25 16:39:43

Sweetheart, enjoy your youth and stay away from sex until you are ready for a committed relationship. When a woman has sex, her emotions are always tied up in it so don't think experimental sex out of curiosity is without it pitfalls.

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Bibliophilic 2012/06/23 01:45:43

Undecided

You are 14. Relax, you have plenty of time to learn more about your sexuality.

It sounds like you might be interested in a girl. Ok? This is not a bad thing. Why not talk to a trusted advisor or counselor? Maybe you're interested in both sexes.

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Scott (o)(o) 2012/06/22 21:43:24

exaggerating?

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your 14 revisit this issue when your old enough to really know what sexuality is all about till then just chill and enjoy being a child :)

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Kibbles 2012/06/22 21:42:08

exaggerating?

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It's a very simple situation, you already did the major test of whether you were attracted to women or men, now stop second guessing yourself. I used to have the same problem, but now after that test I know I'm heterosexual. Don't worry so much. Trust me, it doesn't have to mean anything if you think the same sex is attractive, I see a well muscled guy and think "Wow he's pretty studly." I just know that he's handsome and that good for him. You don't have to be afraid it means something big, hell its just a simple compliment.

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★earthbound_misfit★ 2012/06/22 21:27:18 (edited)

exaggerating?

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Please don't worry about this...your feelings are completely normal. Chances are you're still a "straight" girl. Female sexuality is not as straightforward as male. While heterosexual women only want to be in sexual relationships with men, most of us still appreciate female beauty, desire close relationships with other women, and get aroused by sexuality in general, not just by men. Our sexuality is sometimes described as "fluid" for this reason. So please just relax about all of this. I know it can be confusing, but once you get older and start having romantic relationships, things will start to make more sense. I used to think I might be bi too until I realized that I only want to be in relationships with men and just think women are pretty.

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carri b... to ★earthb... 2012/06/25 16:41:34

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Well stated and thought out Nemo. Hope Romeo is listening.

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Sonic 2012/06/22 20:20:09

Undecided

There's nothing wrong with having an opinion about someone else of the same sex. Ugly, sexy, handsome, whatever. It doesn't matter. It's an opinion, and it can change. Developing certain feelings is what really drives sexuality. Not if you think they're pretty or not.

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Silversnake 2012/06/22 20:17:11

exaggerating?

+1
It sounds like you're pretty much straight, so I really wouldn't worry about it whether or not you're afraid of being bisexual

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Darlin' 2012/06/22 20:04:26

Undecided

Yes it is 'normal' to view the same sex as attractive. If you are sexually attracted to both sexes (and will discover this as u mature) then u may well be bi-sexual. Regardless of your preferences, accept and love yourself... be yourself and enjoy your relationships. Life holds many options for happiness. <3

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Kidasha 2012/06/22 20:01:16

Undecided

calm down. deep breaths. there is nothing wrong with being either straight or bisexual but you're still young and have plenty of time to make that descision for yourself. As for being labeled bisexual, whose gonna know unless you tell them? Don't worry about it to much

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Sofahead 2012/06/22 19:53:36

exaggerating?

You're obsessing and needlessly driving yourself crazy. Stop!
Finding someone attractive or pretty is probably just an appreciation of their physical appearance. Liking and lust are not the same thing.

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disclaimer 2012/06/22 19:38:06

exaggerating?

You're only 14. You still really don't know your full identity yet. Just calm down.

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Mandy 2012/06/22 19:27:00

exaggerating?

+1
It's totally normal to find people of your sex attractive, but still be straight. It seems to me you are almost trying to force yourself to be attracted to her, and if you were gay or bi, you wouldn't have to try.

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Heat Her 2012/06/22 19:21:08

exaggerating?

+1
Don't worry about it. Women are beautiful and its ok to think that.

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Luke 2012/06/22 19:09:37

Undecided

+2
Don't worry about ..just be you.....

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'Zedd 2012/06/22 19:08:59
sglmom 2012/06/22 18:59:43

Undecided

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This is from someone who is a parent ..
(and I raised my children alone through their teen years)

You've got plenty of time ahead of you ..
seriously .. just take your time and don't even worry now overmuch about dating ..
(or attraction or anything OTHER Than your schoolwork and studies)

just enjoy being comfortable with your own talents, thoughts .. abilities ..
enjoy a hobby .. volunteer .. just enjoy being a young one at this time ..

There's too many hormones already doing their thing with your growth ..
just wait .. you'll sort it all out eventually ..

(don't rush the dating scene .. or even this 'labeling' of what you'll want in your life for companionship/relationships) ..

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ana 2012/06/22 18:59:08

exaggerating?

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its ok too think the same sex is pretty, im pretty sure that you are not bi-sexual,ok? calm down!

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Joe61 2012/06/22 18:57:04 (edited)

exaggerating?

I believe all those sexuality quiz have upset your hormonal balance. The thing you need to remember is that your still only fourteen years old and your sexuality is still in it's discovery stages and it, will eventually find it's own direction as your body matures. So stop confusing yourself and let your hormones settle down again and relax. Enjoy your youth and let your sexuality take care of itself and it will. Regardless, of how many sexuality quizzes participate in.

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Cinna 2012/06/22 18:56:40

Undecided

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Neither. I think you're just overthinking seeing beauty in the same sex.

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GothicaVende††aSquiggles\(#... 2012/06/22 18:51:01

exaggerating?

$GothicaVende††aSquiggles\(#_#)/$

+2
I'm pretty sure you're not bi just because you think she's pretty. And liking girls isn't a super terrible thing. Don't have a heart attack.

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flyingseaturtle BN 2012/06/22 18:50:17

Undecided

Chill. I don't know if you're bi or not but you have time to figure things out ;-)

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I like him....he hates me 2012/06/22 18:46:58

Undecided

i think u r jealous of her eather that or u are BI

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~[Rachel Mariee]~ 2012/06/22 18:44:41

exaggerating?

+2
Just because you think a girl is pretty or hot.. Or whatever.. It doesnt really mean that you like her... Or that you bi sexual...

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Jersey Roze ♥Jwon's Cyar'ika ♥ 2012/06/22 18:40:57 (edited)

exaggerating?

+4
There is nothing wrong with saying another girl is pretty. I do it all the time. If a girl is hot, I tell her she is. I've never been sexually attracted to a girl, or had romantic feelings for one though. I think you are obsessed with determining your sexuality. You're only 14, you have so much time to figure it out. Just because you think a girl is pretty doesn't mean you are bisexual or that you actually like her...

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Mrs. Pr... to Jersey ... 2012/06/22 18:52:46 (edited)

Your response made me feel way better!

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