Is this a racist question?

Good grief. If that's racist, I guess saying anything is! Mixed race babies are some of the most beautiful I've ever seen. Sadly they are often hated and shunned by both races, whether in the U.S., Vietnam, or other locals.

I think the mother was probably offended that the author felt she had the right to ask.

Why wouldn't anyone have a right to ask?!

There's no such thing as a "right" to ask.

Does any random stranger that you don't know from a can of paint have the "right" to come up to you and start asking you personal questions?

Nope.

LOL!! Freedom of speech encompasses the right to ask questions whether it offends someone or not. She also has the right to tell them it's none of their business, which would have been more polite. She should not expect that her child's appearance will not raise questions in some people's minds. The fact that she is obviously on the defensive about it would suggest she may be embarrassed about her child and the attention she is getting because of it.

Wow.

Just. Wow.

First of all, 'freedom of speech' pertains to the government not restricting the voice of the people via laws or threat of punishment; it has nothing to do with personal interactions.

If you think it does, please find that portion of the Constitution which states clearly that you have the "right" to just ask any private citizen anything you want, and link it.

Don't worry, I'll wait.

Next, you make some serious assumptions;

You can't dictate what anyone should or should not "expect" of others because of free will.

Not everyone thinks and behaves like you do.


Lastly, what "facts"?

This post is all hearsay, based upon a second-hand account of a social interaction, and it was posed from the author's point of view. None of us were there to witness it, and we havent heard the other person's side of the story.

You're just automatically assuming that everything the author said was accurate and true, without having a single shred of proof that was actually how it happened.

That speaks volumes about how your personal analytical process works.


SMH

The Constitution does not restrict us from asking any private individual anything, nor does any other law! If you are out in public with your child, you cannot claim invasion of privacy either. No one knocked on her door or broke into her home and started asking her questions!

I have no reason to believe anyone would post this if it were not true. What proof do you think you have that it isn't true? Seems like an honest question to me.

The person posting this was involved first hand, so what he is relating is not hearsay. Based on that assumption, I can draw conclusions from the facts given.

While I cannot "dictate" what this person should or should not expect of others, what I suggest is quite reasonable for any intelligent person to "expect."

Care to disect anything else?!

No one stated you couldn't ask; it's just rude and not really a compliment at all.

Precisely.

It amazes me how some people seem to think that things which are not public info and don't affect them at all are somehow still 'their business.'

Talk about 'no home training.'

You have been extemely rude AND over-reacted to my opinion, which was asked for. Like I said, if a personal question is rude the only necessary response is "none of your business."

You think that was "rude?"

I'm not new here at all. Certainly I've seen a lot ruder, but it's nothing to be proud of, as you obviously are. Nobody likes a smart*ass.

Do you think that because you go out in public, some creepy perv has the "right" to ask you if you are wearing panties?

Yes. Constitutionally, but anyone with half a brain knows you don't do it.

Same with asking if a child is mixed race. Its just about as stupid as the above example.

Totally different thing! From the post, I don't think see that the question was in any way rude or offensive, but it is very obvious that the person he asked was hypersensitive and defensive. The problem is hers. Had she responded differently, his next comment no doubt would have been complementary. People need to get the chips off their shoulders and their feelings off their sleeves!

Please try to understand what the first amendment means. You are embarassing yourself.

You have the right to say whatever you choose. They have the right to tell you to go kick rocks for being a nosy BiAtch. Simple as that.

If you are this nosy in real life you wont have many friends.

I understand the Constitution and general courtesy, which is usually nonexistent on SH. I'm not embarrassed at all. People on here who are always criticizing others' "opinions" should get a life. Everyone has an opinion, and we will never all agree, but we are all entitled to our opinions and the free expression thereof. There is nothing in the Constitution that says you can't express your honest opinion if if offends someone else. The authors would laugh you out of town for such an interpretation!

if that was all that was said, "no". You asked a curious question that I would have asked. To me, she was not proud of the fact. To be racist, you have to either ignorant of the other race, or hateful of the other race. You don't seem to be either. Though she is not around, openly apologize to her and ask God for forgiveness.

It did seem that way... but it was clearly unintentional.

Very rude. Mixed Baby eyes?

with all do respect but one can find something to bitch about by even being called pretty.
think-about-it.

It was a backhanded compliment. She was asking if the baby was of mixed races- which is none of her business. So, I stand with calling her rude.

I concur.

Backhanded?
Nice eyes, to bad the kid's mixed? lol

More like 'oh, those must have come from Caucasian genes, because Afrocentric people just don't have pretty eyes."


Yes; backhanded.

"Mixed," is not an insult.

Yes it is an insult. The person who made the comment about the baby should have just said that her eye's were beautiful and left it at that. Bringing race into it was her being intrusive.

How is it an insult?

Broad has thin skin!

It can definitely be perceived that way, by it was a simply innocent question.

"you can please some of the people some of the time...but you can't please all the people all the time"

But ALL people need to mind their own business, most of the time.

sometimes that is true....

Not Racist but INCREDIBLY SOCIALLY INEPT and awkward.

What a lame thing to ask. You should've just said your baby has beautiful eyes, and if she cared to elaborate she would.

Yup.

Sure it was not intentional. why not just say your child has beautiful eyes & leave it at that?

I have found that people with mixed children tend to dwell more towards being oversensitive about their children because they are unsure of which race the child will best function with later in life.

I haven't yet met a parent who wasnt 'sensitive' about their kids, no matter what color they are.