Is it rape if you are married but the wife still says NO??

I somehow don't think any man would refuse any woman who demands sex. lol
I know I would never say no if my woman ever said, right here, right now. lol XD

Even if you were exhausted and all you wanted to do was sleep? Or say a couple had already had sex, and she was ready for it again before the guy--women do tend to 'recover' before guys in that. I have a higher sex drive than my boyfriend, so for me that sort of thing is actually an issue.

Actually I have no problem using other methods to satisfy my gf until I'm ready to go again which I did with my ex but I had a higher sex drive than my gf which was strange because myself being 30 and her being 18 at the time lol
Always took care of her needs when she needed them met even if I was tired.

"You always took care of her needs..." The most import part of that statement is "I always took care of her..." That's what some women today fail to realize. Marriage isn't about the individual. It's about the other person...

Which is good of you, and if I were feeling neglected I'd expect it out of my guy, but I would never expect it out of him any time I wanted it, and I expect the same respect from him (if the time ever comes where the tables flip in that matter, hah!)

I see what you're saying BUT you have to understand that while yes women should be taking care of their mans needs the woman is still not your property, it's a partnership, you help take care of her needs and she will take care of yours, it's an understanding and hopefully gives herself freely when you need her.
However as I said that women need to understand that if they are not taking care of their mans needs not to be shocked if their man cheats on them.
is it fair for women to manipulate guys and withhold sex? not at all but if you are taking care of her the way you're supposed to then women won't be withholding anything from anyone unless she's a complete basketcase or flat out B*.
Women should be taking care of their mans needs but more often than not the only reason women aren't is because men are not taking care of their womans needs.

Nuke, that's all I'm trying to say. I don't own my girlfriend. She's with me for whatever reason but we LOVE each other. People that love each other do things they don't always want to do...Sex included. However, I don't force sex on my woman. I'll try to get her in the mood but if she truly isn't interested, I'll leave her be. Sex isn't chore. It's just another part of a healthy relationship. If anybody says it isn't, they're fools...

I condone cheating if the husband or wife is refusing sex and affection.

That's why I said, if either one isn't taking care of the others needs then it's not really all that shocking that they'd be looking where they can have those needs met.
I would hope the couple would talk about their needs that aren't being met before anyone goes off to cheat, if there is no communication then there's a breakdown of the relationship.
if it's a consistent and blatant denial then both the couple should move on if neither is willing to work things out and give themselves according to the others needs.

I do. Its called friends with benefits. Besides, I want a lover who is also my friend. I would never have a relationship with someone who doesn't consider me his friend.

True...What separates my girl from most of my many friends is that I'm willing to die for her.

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it is illegal in these countries...

Yikes, that's a lot more grey than I had expected to see.

yep, the world is a weird place.

Spousal rape is defined in many states and is indeed illegal.

Agreed.

No means hell no

No means no!!

If the wife says "no" it's still unconsensual sex, which is the meaning of rape. It doesn't matter if you're married or not.

No means No.

Depends. Is she saying no just to be hard to get because she likes it when you force yourself on her? Admit it ladies, most of you like it!

Sorry, but no. There is such a thing as a rape fantasy but it's not the norm.

It is with my wife. Shell tell me no and I go to sleep and she gets mad because I didn't rape her. Hmm. Maybe wives should be a little more willing. Might make the marriage better. She will enjoy it anyway. Just a thought

I don't think anyone espcially a women would like to get raped that's a bit scary if u ask me lol

Actual, punch in the face, raped by some stranger? No, but a lot of women like it when their husband forces himself on her. Come on, just admit it, you kind of like the idea too. Come on! :)

All I'm going to say to you dude, is BE VERY VERY VERY careful. Your wife has a bit of a screw loose and you have ZERO idea when the parts it is holding together are going to part.

Scratch all of that. I see you're just a kid. This convo is just a tad bit mature for you hon.

Your point is??? I'm pretty mature for my age so I understand a lot of stuff so I wouldn't suggest of going there. My dad watches the news a lot an listens to some news station an then like he talks about an I quite understand what he's saying so... An ya being 15 is soo a kid, it's more on the lines of me being a teen

Im sure you are very mature for your age, I can see that in the conversation. I tend to not take to much on here to seriously and I was going to try to get you to admit to things that I probably shouldn't. :) if you're really 15 or even a girl for that matter. Hahaha

Wow, you are disgusting. I've been raped, not only by strangers but by one of my ex partners, and NO, it was not enjoyable in the least. I don't honestly care who knows this, but it's people like you who make people hide in shame when they are raped.

I'm quite sure the judicial/penal system in your country doesn't like rapists and makes their lives miserable. I just read that one young man found guilty of gang rape was sentenced ten years ago to 55 years in prison.

I should hope rapists lives are made miserable. You don't accidentaly rape someone.

Well that's just her, not that there's anything wrong with it. Most ladies, at least myself and the ones I know, are quite willing when they're with a long-term partner and don't have a problem showing it. If they say "no" it usually means "no" for a good reason.

Ya MOST meaning only some do an other don't so

Im sure it does happen, but I wonder how many of these women start out as mad as hell, but end up not minding and even liking it? Again, just a thought

Hmm u kno I doubt some women ( not judging or anything ) would start as mad some actually in a way start out not rlly minding an end up liking it along the way but that's just what i think

Trust me, you're wrong, atleast sometimes or much of the time

I may not be right all the time an yes I may be wrong but no one is perfect in this world

That's very good that you can admit that.