Is it fair for a friend of yours to ask you to delete another friend because the two of them dislike one another?

by **StarzAbove** Posted 2012/07/09 17:27:54

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Shawna 2012/09/23 15:41:10

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No it isn't fair. I do find that one of the worst things about sodahead though, the likelihood that two of my friends don't like each other. I find it difficult to cope with a situation where one person is nice to me but I have seen him/her be really nasty to another friend of mine. In that case then I do tend to want to delete the one who was nasty, but it can be awkward.

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**Starz... to Shawna 2012/09/23 16:29:06

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I had only one friend ask me to delete one of my other friends. He said if I didn't he wouldn't be friends with me any longer. So I kept the one friend and the one issuing the ultimatum is no longer a friend. In fact he has me blocked. So much for friendship, you think? lol

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Shawna to **Starz... 2012/09/23 20:22:44

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What a loser. A real friend does not issue ultimatums. Some people don't seem to mature past grade three.

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**Starz... to Shawna 2012/09/24 20:32:30

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That's what I thought. lol I don't like ultimatums from anyone let alone someone from a keyboard. lol

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Jerry 2012/09/23 13:02:46

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...........No............

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Me 2012/08/27 03:53:32

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ummm...nope

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betz 2012/08/26 23:36:18

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No way. It sounds as if the person making the request is terribly insecure.

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**Starz... to betz 2012/08/26 23:59:04

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I agree Betz, but it happens. I know from experience.

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sky blue pink - American 2012/08/26 16:16:01

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No. Your friend has to deal with the fact that they are not your only friend.
Have a good one !

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**Starz... to sky blu... 2012/08/26 22:10:21

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Thank you.

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sky blu... to **Starz... 2012/08/27 09:29:20

You are very Welcome
Have a nice day !

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Piwan 2012/08/26 16:13:33

No, because said "friend' isn't being very supportive of you.

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ACE 2012/08/26 15:34:19

no

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Happy 2012/08/26 15:34:12

no

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moonlight 2012/08/26 14:19:19

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no... thats stupid

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**Starz... to moonlight 2012/08/26 14:23:57

I agree. But it happens. Thanks for replying.

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Broken 2012/08/26 14:00:36

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No.

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**Starz... to Broken 2012/08/26 14:01:23

agree.

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Rogue_Loner 2012/08/26 13:59:39
**Starz... to Rogue_L... 2012/08/26 14:02:06

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Exactly. But you'd be surprised at how many here on Sodahead do that very thing.

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Jack's Pearl 2012/08/26 13:54:49

No way! No one tells me whom I can and can't be friends with.

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**Starz... to Jack's ... 2012/08/26 13:56:55

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Me either.

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Jack's ... to **Starz... 2012/08/26 14:06:16

I guess if there is an earnest concern, it could be possible. Because I don't like seeing my friends treated badly or something. So I may say something if that was happening. But it would be in a kind manner and not demanding or anything.

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Caedus01 Sith Lord of the P... 2012/08/14 23:50:06

only a Sith deals in absolutes

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littlebuffalo55TBA 2012/08/14 23:41:40

It's not surprising that the question is asked by some here. That said it's never been asked of me. I have several friends here who do not agree with me. They laugh when I am silly or stupid and rave when they do agree. They debate, argue and it's all ok!

I do not block. But when some here make ASSumptions they get what they get!

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Recruit 2012/08/14 23:30:14
**Starz... to Recruit 2012/08/14 23:37:09

lol I didn't say it in those words exactly but that was the end of that person. No one tells me what to do!

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Recruit to **Starz... 2012/08/14 23:54:02
Cleaver62 2012/08/14 23:21:45

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No. I wouldn't do it.

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**Starz... to Cleaver62 2012/08/14 23:23:37

Good for you.

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Singerar 2012/08/14 19:23:04

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No - you both might have different experiences with this person.

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**Starz... to Singerar 2012/08/14 19:38:00

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Exactly. And I'm not responsible for any of their disagreements.

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Singerar to **Starz... 2012/08/14 21:05:33

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That could become a very toxic situation for all three involved.
You're wise not to engage sweetie....

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**Starz... to Singerar 2012/08/14 21:08:13

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That's exactly what happened. I was given an "or else" ultimatum, I took the "or else." lol

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Singerar to **Starz... 2012/08/14 23:13:31 (edited)

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Ewww! That was nasty thing to do to someone! Sorry that happened to you. That friend sounded toxic. We don't like those.....

It's their loss, not yours.

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**Starz... to Singerar 2012/08/14 23:15:19

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I agree, I'm not losing any sleep over it. lol

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jere.chievres 2012/08/14 18:21:13

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No.

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Keeping It Real 2012/08/14 16:10:47 (edited)

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Hecky No, I've fallen out with a couple of people, but I would never ask even a supporting mutual friend to dumped them. When someone does that, they're demonstrating the traits of a bully and those are the type of people who rubs me the wrong way.

I generally don't get into battles, but if someone makes a decision to jump on, bully, demonize, kick in the head, trash one of my friend I may, although it's rare. I'm not saying it's right but that's just me, because I have a sincere disgust for BULLIES.

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**Starz... to Keeping... 2012/08/14 17:07:47

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Thanks, friend, I agree. I think he was just trying to control me or bully me whichever, it didn't work. And when I see a friend being bullied I will jump in too, I'm very loyal to my friends, and I would never ask one of them to delete someone, their friends are their business.

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luvguins 2012/08/14 13:56:43

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As my Dad once told me, "fight your own battles". Therefore, I try to stay out of other peoples battles.

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