How do you feel about women hiding birth control from husband?

by Yosyp Posted 2012/07/11 10:45:20

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	Woman's decision, she can do what she wants without husband knowing	8 votes	16%
	Husband should know but if wife is using birth control	4 votes	8%
	Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control	20 votes	40%
	Husband and wife should make the decision together	11 votes	22%
	Undecided	5 votes	10%
	None of the above	2 votes	4%

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Claire Emile 2012/07/30 08:29:47

None of the above

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I wouldn't use it unless he wanted me to, even if I didn't want to get pregnant.

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Christian 2012/07/12 00:23:51

Husband and wife should make the decision together

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You should not have to many secrets.

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Iamfree 2012/07/11 19:57:09

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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If a woman feels she has to hide her method of birth control from her husband, there are serious problems in their relationship.

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♌βļąƈʞƦơșƐ3033♌ 2012/07/11 19:54:21

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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Men don't control the universe anymore. More and more women are taking control of their own lives and their bodies. If a woman doesn't want a baby, that's their choice, not the man's.

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Lady Wh... to ♌βļąƈʞƦ... 2012/07/12 14:13:40

+1
exactly.

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Jackie 2012/07/11 17:30:12

Husband and wife should make the decision together

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This is just me but I think they should be honest in their feelings and be honest with each other

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lil crazy 2012/07/11 17:17:27

Undecided

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It is a woman's choice if she wishes to use birth control, but it I think they are some serious issues in the relationship if she feels the need to hide it from her husband.

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Idiot repubs 2012/07/11 16:38:38

Undecided

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Those poor women need to get out of those relationships.

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Lefty 2012/07/11 16:06:36

Husband and wife should make the decision together

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Well perhaps, she should make the final decision, but he should know what's going on.

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Titanium X 2012/07/11 15:26:18

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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It's wrong if she leads her husband to believe they're trying for kids and does the opposite.

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Donald Eric Kesler 2012/07/11 14:20:04

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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For a healthy marriage, all individuals involved should be open and respectful of the others' feelings. Ultimately, each and every one of us should have the right to control what transpires within our own bodies.

Prior to dying, my mother confessed to my father that she lied about being on birth control when I was conceived. She also lied about being on birth control when both my older and younger brothers were conceived. By this time, we were in our twenties. All my father could do was laugh.

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wildcat 2012/07/11 14:11:07

Woman's decision, she can do what she wants without husband knowing

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Her body, her choice

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Vision of Verve 2012/07/11 14:07:39
Panloker 2012/07/11 13:41:27

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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Nobody should feel forced to have kids if they are not ready, if a wife does not want kids than she should just come out and tell her husband that, its wrong to allow the husband to believe it is possible if he really wants kids. Also you hear stories of a husband or wife trying to conceive without the other spouse's knowledge, like a wife would go off birth control without telling him and I heard of one guy who got caught poking holes in a condom. When it comes to having children, both parties need to be upfront about what they want instead of sneaking around behind each other's backs.

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Link 2012/07/11 13:23:59

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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Ultimately its the woman's decision but in good relationships not only should he know but should also be a part in the decision (key words: good relationships... otherwise why would she hide it?)

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Mandy 2012/07/11 12:59:48

Husband and wife should make the decision together

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This should be a team decision.

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Bingo's Faddah 2012/07/11 12:43:21

Undecided

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Didn't know what to think about this issue so I went to the bible. Since women are subservient to men, logic dictates that women should simply do what they're told and be punished for deception.

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Yosyp to Bingo's... 2012/07/11 13:12:16

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:)

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Lady Wh... to Bingo's... 2012/07/11 14:25:58

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You better darn well hope that's sarcasm....

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Yosyp to Lady Wh... 2012/07/11 14:31:11

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I'm pretty sure it was,

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Bingo's... to Yosyp 2012/07/12 13:54:24

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Yep!

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Bingo's... to Lady Wh... 2012/07/12 13:54:05

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That, dear lady, is why the chimp is laughing!

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Lady Wh... to Bingo's... 2012/07/12 14:13:03

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**thumbs up** gotcha!

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La 2012/07/11 12:07:50

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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Um, well, hopefully both would be in agreement about wanting kids or not. No woman should actively try to get pregnant without asking the man about it imo. It's a discussion they should probably already have had before they got married, in fact.

But if the man really wants kids and thinks they are trying, and the woman is hiding birth control, well that's just a crappy thing to do. Communication agogo :)

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Swan Eshdeh 2012/07/11 12:02:49

Husband should know but if wife is using birth control

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i think this is his right too.

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Nameless 2012/07/11 11:07:48

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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A significant other should know what medications their partner is taking, simply for health reasons. If one cannot trust one's partner that much, then there is a problem.

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Yosyp to Nameless 2012/07/11 11:11:22 (edited)

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The news story is about women in countries where the man rules, the wife has no say in how many kids she should have, but I thought it would be interesting to know what people in general think of hiding birth control from husbands.

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Nameless to Yosyp 2012/07/11 11:16:24

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Oops, sorry. I completely missed that explanation.

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Yosyp to Nameless 2012/07/11 11:25:15

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My fault , I didn't give that part in my explanation, I was just kind of wondering in general what people thought about hiding use of birth control

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Nameless to Yosyp 2012/07/11 11:44:50

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I think that because it really is a medication, and some serious things can occur - it's an important thing for one's loved one to know. Unfortunately, not all women are safe enough in some parts of the world to be able to determine what happens to their own bodies - so that changes the parameters of the discussion a bit. My husband and daughters know all of my medications/dosages. I am fairly certain I know all of theirs, too - and my older daughter is married and has her own home.

I do think that there are some cultural mores - even in the United States - in the older generation where they are much more private and think that revealing medical information to anyone but their doctor is taboo.

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DANNY59 2012/07/11 11:05:08

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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My wife and myself usually make all significant decisions together, and thankfully so far were always on the same page. We keep no secrets, in fact that's probably why we still haven't had an argument in 19 years.

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Jeff Vader 2012/07/11 11:03:13

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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A marriage should be about trust.

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AmericanVirus 2012/07/11 11:02:36

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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Same thing if a man wants a vasectomy.

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Bingo's... to America... 2012/07/11 12:47:15

Sometimes a vasectomy can be for health reasons; preventing the birth of folks like this is a side benefit!

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America... to Bingo's... 2012/07/11 12:56:25

Okay

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Todd 2012/07/11 11:00:10

Husband should know but still woman's decision if she wants to use birth control

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Relationships built on secrets and lies last such a long time that's why there is such a good divorce rate

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Scream 2012/07/11 10:56:15

Woman's decision, she can do what she wants without husband knowing

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This is what happens in an abusive relationship when someone wants their partner to get pregnant to keep them from leaving. They refuse to let their partner get access to birth control or abortions. They refuse to use a condom. They threaten their partner if the partner tries to get access to these things. It's called reproductive coercion or birth control sabotage. This is a great idea for the partners in these situations.

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Yosyp to Scream 2012/07/11 11:02:40

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That is pretty much what the report said for the reasons women hide from husband

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Iamfree to Scream 2012/07/11 19:59:32

A better idea would be to leave.

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Scream to Iamfree 2012/07/11 21:05:44

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It's not that simple.

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