How do you decide if a man is too old to date a particular girl, Is there a basic rule?

Stormer59101 2011/04/02 14:51:56
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  • HiYa 2011/04/27 17:00:55
    Dirty old men know who they are. They don't need me to point them out.
  • B 2011/04/04 14:20:27
    Age is just a number, but I go by one rule when figuring if someone is too old to date...are we in the same place in life? I don't want to date a guy who wanted kids yesterday and is too old to have fun and goof around. I still like to sled and dress up for Halloween. If he has the same interest, then I don't care how old he is.
  • becca wecca 2011/04/04 14:14:47
    becca wecca
    hey love is love, people make such a big deal out of age difference however im sure there was a bigger gap years ago
  • Tudie BN 2011/04/04 11:02:25
    Tudie BN
    A man can lose everything he has gained with a foolish decision ! thats vice versa too !
  • Dar 2011/04/04 08:19:13
    I think it depends on the couple. When I was 25 I dated a man who was 41. I'm 47 and my husband is 66. Age is just a number. What matters is how 2 people feel about each other.
  • sglmom 2011/04/04 08:00:58
    Here's my thoughts ..

    if you are looking to date someone younger .. look at the age of your eldest child .. and add a few years to that age to find the bare minimum of what you should date ..

    (there's going to be quite the shock if someone is dating another who is younger than their own children (or grandchildren!) and it has the appearance of 'gold-digging' or ... purchasing a mate).
  • mg's haven~POTL~PWCM~JLA 2011/04/04 07:49:38
    mg's haven~POTL~PWCM~JLA
    Well she is bouncy and happy constantly and hes looking like a chump and wallflower i cant see how theyd do to well as a couple. Her cant keep up with her.
  • Chicklet 2011/04/04 04:08:03 (edited)
    Is there a basic rule? Oh no. But there is a basic ruler.

    basic rule basic ruler
  • anime_nerd77 2011/04/04 03:48:20
    When you look at them together and think oh my god that's creepy, then he's too old.
  • Gracie - Proud Conservative 2011/04/04 02:37:53
    Gracie - Proud Conservative
    My father was 16 years older than my mother. For them it worked because my mother was of an older generation. Age doesn't matter until it bothers you and then it's too late.
  • Willie 2011/04/04 02:16:46
    A gentleman doesn't date younger than one half his age plus seven. Of course we're not all gentlemen. ;-)

    I would caution any older men, though, that younger women without children will likely come to want children. If you're okay being daddy to a newborn at whatever age you are, good for you. If you were thinking you'd have a nice, quiet retirement relatively soon, you better rethink that 20- or 30-something hottie.

    And ladies, you might be a hot forty-five year old cougar who can win a 20-something stud away from the young gals, but when you're sixty and he's 40, will you still have the stuff? And there's always the possibility that he's going to decide he wants children, too.
  • gabriel... Willie 2013/11/21 04:10:33
    gabriel guzman
    Lol I'm 26 so that means I can't date women who are 20 that's ok the women who do like me are like 23 anyways.
  • MisterD 2011/04/04 02:03:37
    it's a private matter and should only be decided by the couple.
  • kfallslady 2011/04/04 01:43:25
    well age doesn't really matter, unless one of the parters grows much older than the other one, my mom just past at 87 her husband was 79, sence 2003 she had been his care taker, it brought her down and now she is gone
  • Peapod 2011/04/04 01:39:53
    I personally look at where they are in mind and spirit. I seem to always end up with someone with a few years older than me. I think it's because I had to grow up really fast when I was young. But there is a huge part of me that remains "young" and anyone that is going to be with me must have that same "young at heart" spirit.
  • Winnel 2011/04/04 01:38:22
  • JosephMiller 2011/04/04 01:32:38
    There is no basic rule...but the 1/2 the older mans age plus 7 years has been mentioned more than once. I'm 18 years older than my Russian wife. My Dad is 18 years older than my Step-Mother. It has never been a problem except now my Dad is 84 and Step Mother is 66... she'd like to be traveling in her "Golden Years"... and Dad is suffering from bad hip, bad knees... etc. so she finds herself being a companion and nurse... So I'd say its the end game that becomes difficult for the younger mate. Often I'll just excuse myself when my younger wife wants to go out with her girlfriends... I just don't find it interesting any more to go out drinking and dancing.
  • Angelus 2011/04/04 01:32:32
    I thought it was half your age + 9
    but everyone has there own preferences
  • Yuki ~ ♦Lion King of PHÆT♦ 2011/04/04 01:25:06 (edited)
    Yuki ~ ♦Lion King of PHÆT♦
    If they're both over twenty, it doesn't matter. My personal age limit is "Don't look at anyone twenty years older than me." That's because I personally feel that even at age eighteen, a person is still highly vulnerable to the social heirarchy statuses of adult-over-child, which means that they could be coerced by authoritative means. When you're a teen, even in your late teens, you've still not yet figured out that divide between nearing adulthood and actual adulthood. Legal adulthood is very different. Otherwise, what other peoples' age limits are is not my business nor my concern unless they're taking advantage of someone who is legally unable to give consent. That's all.
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  • keeper SodaDead 2011/04/04 16:31:27
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  • belle 2011/04/04 01:19:01
    When she is young enough to be his daughter or granddaughter.
  • keeper 2011/04/03 23:52:22
    Both parties over 18, it doesn't make a difference... the same applies to older women with young studs...
  • SodaDead keeper 2011/04/04 01:23:50
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  • WTLC1970 2011/04/03 22:19:08
    I think it's all a personal decision that the couple needs to make
  • jay 2011/04/03 21:12:34
    the answer is in the question....man dates a "girl"
  • K-ZOOMI-----0 2011/04/03 20:55:09
    Depends on how young she is. I personally prefer to date women older than me.
    They play games less and are more real.
  • kfallslady K-ZOOMI... 2011/04/04 01:40:56
    hmm really... lol
  • K-ZOOMI... kfallslady 2011/04/04 01:46:32
    Well, Hello...hahaha!

    *snarky come on line follows* hahahaha!
  • kfallslady K-ZOOMI... 2011/04/04 01:51:09
    lol haha play less games hm again :)
  • K-ZOOMI... kfallslady 2011/04/04 01:52:43
    Always! :)

    Have a good night! :)
  • kfallslady K-ZOOMI... 2011/04/04 01:56:18
    night hun
  • K-ZOOMI... kfallslady 2011/04/04 10:37:28
    WAKE UP!!!

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    I'm awake.... awake coffee latte
  • K-ZOOMI... kfallslady 2011/04/04 20:18:23
    HEY! Glad you could make it!

    How's your day going?

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