How come, if someone is gay, your perspective on them completely changes?

First of all I am Bi-Sexual. SO another's sexual orientation Does Not Matter to me. With that said. This is something that I have actually been wondering about recently. But I recently became aware of a celebrity who came out, and I was thrown back by it.... To the point that I look at him and I DO SEE him differently. BUT I KNOW HE ISN'T Any different than he was before I heard that he had come out. HE IS STILL the same incredibly sexy guy I thought he was before. I AM NOT SURE WHY I now look at him differently.

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Seriously i could care less if they are gay or not. Hello im in the BDSM one and i see how much people will go ohhhh, so you are crazy huh. People will always do this, because they have to judge people in some way or form to make their lives so much better. For me i could really care less. What matters to me is the person's heart and their personality. :)

I could care less. As long as they're not hitting on me. And even if they did. I'd consider it kind of a complement. It's not like it hasn't happened before. SO WHAT?

I just dont like how some people make gays seem like freaks. cuz theyre not:) Agreed? xD(:

My perspective doesn't change at all.

Have cousins and friends I grew up with, that I love, they came out and guess what I still love them

Personality makes the person.

I have no plans on sleeping with them, so what's the dif?

I'm totally ok with gays, But I will be honest and say that If they tell me and I didn't know I usually won't be able stop thinking about it for a while..

It doesn't.

How do you know the perspective completely changes?

When my youngest brother "came out" he chided me for treading on eggshells around him because I was scared of making an inappropriate comment. I have found out that many people get offended on behalf of homosexuals. Moving in his circles most homosexuals have a wicked sense of humour we are free to take the piss out of each other.

a friend of mine is gay and nothing ever changed, one day he just told me he was gay and i said: "ok, good for you" xp

My niece came out at the dinner table at Thanksgiving when she was 24. Her mother rolled her eyes and said, 'Well, you finally figured it out. We've been waiting since you were 8.... Pass the gravy....'

but one time I was like I knew it... but we never that close friends so I never actually care about his sexual preference

Meh, who cares if they see me differently.

I don't peg people like that...

I found out a buddy of mine had a thing for me, I told him sorry but I'm not gay contrary to popular belief. It really didn't change anything in my opinion he was still my buddy.

i think it`s no problem

I have a love/hate relationship with gay people.
Love: Gay guys and ugly lesbians.
Hate: Hot lesbians because I have even less chance with them than I do with regular girls.

(But my perspective of them as a person doesn't change. Why should it?)

I'm not really sure about exactly what you mean with your poll answers. I don't invite a lot of people to friendship in my life. I just don't hold many friends in my real life. Those that I do hold, I hold dear. If you are talking about their coming out after the friendship has been made, I may be a bit perturbed that they waited, but the bottom line is they were given my friendship for reasons that are real and have nothing to do with their sexuality.

Does it make a difference before friendship? I can't lie and say that it definitely makes no difference. For work or business, if they are entertainers and will I purchase their product, not likely to make any difference at all. But this is where I have trouble with the answers to the poll. In person, I have a pretty good "gaydar". So if we are already friendly and cordial, or have a good business relationship, I very likely already know.

This second part as I have broken it down is tough. If I already know you, it's going to be hard to change my perception of you. What I won't do is deal with or be around folks I have to censor myself with. I just don't think racist, homophobic, or classicist thoughts. So if I say something that you could get all butt hurt about on accident and out of ignorance, I'm just not going to be around you, and that is regardless of anything you may be identified by.

Hope that all makes sense.

Um...It doesn't?

They're still the same person they were when I didn't know, so I don't see how it matters.

actuall I dont think it matters so much

If they have to inform me about their sexual preference they are not worth my time.

My perspective of a person isn't altered by their sexuality...

My perspective doesn't change based on sexuality.

One of my closest friends is gay.... He is still just Josh to me. He's the same guy he was before he came out and he always will be.

doesn't bother me a bit, a person is who they are you can't change it better or worse