Have you ever felt helpless after a breakup ?

Yes, for a while, especially when being the person dumped! Now if you are the dumper, there would be no feeling of helplessness on your part. At any rate, after a while you get back on your feet and move on.

It's tough, or was for me. Planned on spending the rest of my life with someone who did not share the same plan. But life does go on.

Like, forever. :(((((

Mostly because the break up was all my fault...

No, I felt sad if I wasn't the one breaking up, and relieved if I was. When something ends it' s better to end it before things get nasty (and they always do, because the hurted part does not want to except that it's not working).

may be because IT WORKS IF YOU BOTH WORK ON IT IN THE CRISES TIME

BUT IT'S ALWAYS EASIER TO SAY IT DOESN'T

You can't work on love, you can work on a relationship issues like trust, mutual respect, understanding when there is love, a lot of love. But when love is gone, everything falls appart. Love is the glue.

I've never been in a relationship, therefore never been through a breakup, but I don't think that it would alter my life. I believe that there is someone for everyone and if there's a breakup, it's not the end of the world. Eventually, heartbreak can be replaced with happiness. At least, that's the way I see it. It's one of those everything happens for a reason things.

JA-JA)... TRY FIRST)... WE ALL SAY IT BEFORE WE TRY)...

Disappointed is a more appropriate word in my case.

A marriage actually. Only because I knew my way of life would be completely different but I still know in my heart I made the right decision.

it is hard to fell helpless at a strip club

I feel like a failure

Helpless isnt a word Ide use though. DONT ASK.

Helpless is not the word I'd use. More like cheated by life.

The most intense relationship I had lasted a year. I had literally willed it into being after returning from Active Duty - that was the time when I really felt lost. But I was found when I met her and for a while things really did seem to fall into place. I believed fate had stepped in and at last decided to smile on me.

But soon the cheating started. And I was the one blamed. A new job, I changed somehow; I don't know what it was. Soon she was off at school making new friends and telling them how bad I was. They stepped in and the rest is too ugly to tell...

If anything after I ended it - because I just could not take the abuse any more - it was a relief. But then I had to think about all the men she was with and I was stuck in a dead end job where everyone knew my story and made me the brunt of ridicule because of it.

You call it whatever you want. It was a learning experience and I have never let myself be dragged face down through the filth and mire of her condescension and the lofty patronization that I was put through by her after that was over ever again. Never and if I never see or hear from that despicable siren again it will be too soon in this life or any to follow.

I hope this answers the question.

Guess asking for her phone number is out of the question... ?? lol What? Life isn't fair and all women aren't the same. But if you are like me... Every single one of them that EVER touches your life, damned sure will be. So be on guard for the rare one or two good ones that might have something to do with you. And expect crap like this from all the rest of em. It gets better. Expect the worse and never be disappointed.

...Phone number? LOL I'll give you her website. Her husband monitors it too I believe. From the glowing narrative all over there on her I'd say he even wrote most of it.

She is a self-made highly successful entrepreneur with a college degree in her field and seems happily married to the same guy for (guessing) some thirty years. Articles have been written about her style and technique in the jewelry business and the rings she makes are monogramed with her initials.

Justice on Earth? I gave up looking for that years ago.
But writing this was kind of cathartic. Had almost forgotten about it till you responded.

As to the rest: different women have different tricks. You are correct; no two are the same. But the results usually are.

When I reach the end of all this and cross over to the other side the first thing I am going to do is demand an explanation. Someone somewhere has got to have answers why it has to be this way. I was taught to be reasonable and considerate. But all anyone wants now is money and drama. Oh yes but I am still the one who gets blamed. There are exceptions who admit to being wrong but they are in psychological counseling. So I mean, go figure.

Just joking bout the phone number... I let a few good ones get away. Sucks looking back on it all.. Thats Life.

HOW ARE YOU now?

i mean hpw are youNOW ?CURRENTLY?

All that happened decades ago. The lower-back pain that began when I picked up the phone and heard her voice (-four YEARS after the breakup and I had JUST ABOUT gotten her out of my conscious memory...) is finally under control.

And, really. Thanks for your concern. Life is a teacher. And I have learned that it isn't fair.

...Now, if the economy can just recover. I'll be able to do the things I've always wanted to do. Just hope I live long enough.

EXACTLY,SO MANY MEN FORGET TO BE SILECTIVE,TOO SIMPLE,JUMP INTO THE RELAATIONSHIP AND THAN SUFFER)..LEARN TO STAY ALONE FOR A WHYLE AND TO SELECT CAREFULLY)

I REALLY LIKE THE STYLE YOU USE! THE WRITING STYLE,INTERESTING TO READ,SO RIGHT EXPEREESD)

I am glad there are people like you who do actually have the capacity to understand.
It gives me hope for the future of our world. Or at least our nation.
FWIW I was alone for twenty-four years. Enough was enough.

Thank You. You don't know what a difference your comments make.
(Or maybe you do-) ..In any case, welcome to the Human Race..
We need ones like you who can think when many around them often can not.

I had a pity party for one for 5 minutes, then went out and met new people and forgot all about him.

Some relationship you must've had.. O_O

If it's not mutual attraction, affection, or if 2 people aren't in the same place dating-wise, why keep fighting for a losing battle? Move on, and find someone who is right instead of trying so hard to hold on to Mr/ Miss "Almost". You'll have more respect for yourself afterwards, and be available for The Right One.

Yeah, but don't you even miss them???? I still cry every couple of days over my ex, whom I broke up with a year and a half ago. D:

The best way to get over him is to find someone better. If you make new, better memories you won't have time to miss the old flame. The point is, if it's over, move on. Don't let someone have that much control over your days and nights. Be strong, put your chin up, and give yourself the opportunity to meet the person who is waiting for you too!

EXACTLY.."MR ALMOST"..

yeah which is why im single. being lead on really sucks too.

STOP CAREING OF BEING SINGLE OR NOT,that's what i figured out so far)....

Then life goes on...

No i mean i learned how to not feel bad and cry a lot when my bf broke up with me a few tears came out and thts it i didnt really cry and u would think oh she didnt like him but i did a lot but i learned tht its not the firs time it will happen

Bitch slap yourself back into reality and get on with your life, there ain't much of it left if you let set backs get you down.

cool..

MAYBE IT DRAINED ME A BIT AT FIRST, BUT I GOT OVER IT EVENTUALLY.

I've never had a relationship last all that long, my last relationship lasted the longest & that was only 28 days, all of my partners were cheating, so for me, it wasn't an issue just a fact of life