Have u read 50 shades of grey trilogy,what did u thinkof it.

Yeah I do see your point but the thing that made it so tantalizing was the naivety of Anastasia , very clever really because not only was the author enticing and guiding Anastasia into the hidden world of BDSM but she was doing it to women all round Britain . I liked the cold, steel, Grey softening responsively to his submissive . Lets not forget that this was a story NOT an autobiography or a sex manual of real people that practice BDSM that would be very different indeed . In the world of fetishes , partners go into a relationship (whatever this may be )through curiosity , with their eyes open and more often than not searched for this lifestyle .And not because they are twisted individuals that have had traumatic childhoods of controlling abusers , Jesus they would shy away from being controlled although there are always exceptions but that's life . One thing that surprised me was the ultimate respect that Doms have for their Subs but then as I soon learned the submissive is giving the master the ultimate pleasure . Obedience ,control may not sound to good to some women but to consenting adults its ecstasy ( their words not mine ) 50 shades was about 2 people with their own hang ups , he showed her a world of luxury & pleasure and she showed him how to love , ultimately they fell in love with a twist or as a friend on SH would say a vanilla twist xxx lol Also I would have to say that anyone who is curious about the world of BDSM , do not see this book as a guide THIS IS A NOVEL , there are fetish sites all over the web my friends and fantastic guides to show you into the world
of FETISHES at your own pace .

Anastasia is a virgin in the story's beginning, correct? Meaning she's never had any sort of sexual experience whatsoever. Participating in BDSM is not meant for those who lack completely in that area. She's thrown in, not eased in, which is a must for anyone who begins BDSM. Virgins wholly and completely aren't particularly welcomed because those unknown to everything sexually (because she's described to be rather naïve) can be very frightened and may undergo emotional and psychological stress.

_{"The glaring omission of aftercare in James’ story is another indication of Christian's failure as a dominant. "Aftercare," for those unfamiliar with BDSM, is the essential and immediate follow-up that occurs after play of any sort ("play" is the consensual session during which any previously agreed-upon aspect of BDSM may be acted on). Play can be incredibly draining, and may engender intense emotional or psychological turmoil -- especially in the case of people who have only just started their journey into BDSM. Most people who practice BDSM, regardless of their level of experience, require some level of aftercare and leaving someone who is only experimenting, someone who is not only new to the lifestyle but to sexual experience in general, alone after play is unconscionable."}

BDSM is handled rather poorly and for a subject that's so unknown to a whole of society, I wanted a "New York Times Bestseller" that included it to actually portray it as accurately as possible, despite it being only a work of fiction. Even though "50 Shades" takes place in a fictional setting BDSM is still a very real thing.

The glaring omission of aftercare in the STORY is down to Christian Greys own insecurities of intimacy as his character portrays time and time again I have to admit it pissed me off a bit when she portrayed Christian Grey to be sexually made aware at the age of 15 by one of his mothers friends, why the hell could she not of made him 17 , the last thing I want in my soft porn is the thought of some testosterone filled teenager . Abuse I am not sure, there are many 15 year olds that are sexually active before that age not that a inexperienced teenager would interest me at all . 17 year olds can be like a fumbling pups. from what I can remember as a young woman, yeah maybe it was verging on abuse that part of the storyline . would people of been happier if E.L.James had stated at the beginning of every book . THIS IS NOT A MANUAL FOR A BDSM LIFESTYLE . I seriously doubt it would made any difference when the majority of women were reading it to escape reality . My neighbour sat reading hers in the summer and we did not hear a peep out of her for hours , except the occasional gasp or a cheeky giggle . Now even though there were about 7 kids in the garden she managed to escape away from the chaos that is the kids on 6 week leave . I have to admit that I shot her husband a strange look when he asked me for some rope while she was reading her book but soon realised it was to make the kids an awning for the garden .
This is a fantasy written by a women , not a MASTER or SUBMISSIVE .
Jilly Coopers RIDERS fantastic novel but I doubt if it had everyone looking for the local horse riding stables in 1985 . So what is the likelihood of women going full on into a fetish lifestyle . And another thing as soon as a so called couple did start looking for whips , dusters ,handcuffs and spreader bars for play then they would see the array of fetish sites available .Because I seriously doubt that all couples are going to walk into a sex shop when they can just order it online and avoid the embarrassing blushes .