Did you wait until marriage to have sex?

i fell in love for the first time at fifteen and gave my virginity to my then boyfriend; we were really serious and planned to stay together through high school and try to get married after but then he and his family moved ..far away and we tried to keep in touch and both of us went without seeing another person until we just couldn't take it any more about two years later.i learned that as a kid even though i felt grown up and like i could handle myself, that there were still things beyond my control.

soon after we decided to see other people officially i met a new guy and by that time i felt that, since it was already gone, that there was just no point any more ...i felt i would never be as special to any one else so soon after this guy and i started dating we decided to mess around and ended up having sex , i was only seventeen and he had just turned eighteen. After ward we were going home and he told me " i swear to god i love you " i felt filthy,i thought we were just going to date casually and "hook up" a few times before i joined the military as i was planning to do after high school, so i told him that i had been with someone and he didn't care and i knew that i was the first person he had ever been with. i know he deserved better and i wanted to break up with him; i felt like i had been too easy, like a slut almost, even though it was only my second time ever having sex... two years after that on our wedding night i started to cry and finally told him how i felt about the whole thing. My husband and i are i guess what some call 'neo-pagan' or 'wiccan 'i actually converted when i was about your age and virginity, while still sacred and "special" ,isn't all that important and losing it is in fact seen as a right of passage buy many, but others ( guy ,gal ,straight ,bi and gay) still wait to share that experience with their life partner; it bonds them in a way that others will never be able to comprehend ;their "first and only" . i hope you wait because i still wish i had. my biggest regret about my marriage is that i couldn't give my husband something so precious when he had already given it to me.

that's just how i feel personally but it is a decision for every one to make on their own.

sometimes i feel that i would have never had the guts to have sex at all on our wedding night if i hadn't at least messed around a little and SOMETIMES i feel that the sex we had before marriage was better because we didn't feel the "obligations of marriage " and at the time when me and my now husband were together as an intimate couple it helped me deal with a lot of problems i was having at home because i ,in a way ,felt i needed the contact with another being because i had few friends at the time and i wasn't on good terms with my family i could talk to them all day every day and still felt like they weren't there until he and i started going out i was the epitome of being alone in a crowd.. So all i'm saying is that every one has their reasons for the decision that they make and you need to be sure that you won't regret that decision later ...it's one you can't take back

sex is a beautiful thing and i don't regret having it before marriage just before the one i married.