"Better to lose a lover, than love a loser", Do you agree ?

What a horrible way to look at life and relationships. The very selfishness of the question makes me wonder at the philosophy of the person asking it.

I understand though that modern times its all about yourself. Even the so called Feminist "Liberals" today are self centred and the opposite of Liberal in reality.
. Everybody is anti social, its kill or be killed. Get rich or die. The only ethic taking care of #1.

My lovers are not losers. They have wonderful qualities that caused me to love them.
I am a relic of old Americans. I do not view people as objects of potential profit or loss.

When someone becomes my lover (not just casual sex) they have a place in my heart for eternity. That's the way it is. I never abandon them. Our relationship may change, passions cool, but not my affections. They are always winners to me.

Whoa buddy, one thing... Did u read everything i wrote ?? "I've met many people who agree with this, but i sure disagree with them".. right under the question, that's what i've heard many people saying so i just disagree with them... no philosophy thing

who gets to decide what constitutes a loser?

Its so True than embrace Misery

the heart want's what it want's ... sometimes that's a good thing sometimes it's not

Smart.

wow, I love this one. very smart

:)

It's easier to get over loving a loser than losing a lover.

Losing a lover is like losing an extension of one's self, but to love a loser is to look past shallow points of view and see the terrific person underneath that compliments your inner loser

Definitely!

The challenge lies in how one defines a looser. I accept fiscally responsibility for my spending. I am empathetic to the emotional needs of others. However, some might deem me a looser because I still take a childlike delight in fictional flights of fantasy.

For example, I have a framed print of Swamp Thing on my wall and a statue of Batman on my mantel piece. There are those who would consider these actions as immature and indicative of a looser. I don’t agree.

I just had to find someone who wanted to hang their framed print of Kabuki on my wall. It was not easy, but she was out there and I finally found her.

Great things to say Donald :D... That's what i wanted to read

I appreciate a man who appreciates Top Gear. The Stig is dead; long live The Stig.

:)... Nice to have u as a friend

What you real mean by loser; are so many kinds of losers, inclusive yourself and me. Let’s putted this way; when a loser just a real loser in using drugs, get drunk every day, spend the money on gambling, or beat the wife. But some people going to extremis when a person makes a mistake even twice, for some right away is a loser. Many times could be a nice person with lots of good things and have one or more do not like, should trying to make understand, for a change. Another example a heavy smoker, everything on the person is good, but smell a tobacco can’t even kiss, may that person change. Habits have been the most pest humans have; some of them not bad, others could be correct and a happy life could come around. A.Oscar

True :)

Losing a lover is temporary. Loving a loser goes on forever.

Bob......we can finally find something to agree on.

I agree with many of the sentiments in this thread and that is from what I have read, you really need to define a loser..there are a lot of people who make a lot of money, but have no capacity to love another person..That in my definition is the biggest loser..If you can't feel anything, then you are a loser..if you never hurt, then you are a loser, if you've never gotten angry, then you are a loser..again if you can't feel anything then you are a loser..that would be my definition..Obama comes to mind..Many think he is a winner, I don't

Now whose going to decide whose a loser

I will.

Gunner, truer words have rarely been written. No one needs to stay with another person who is not committed to the relationship or who is interested only in what they can get out of you. It is not an easy thing to do, but it's better to be alone than in a "losing" relationship.

You would have to define loser.

You get over a loss, but loving a loser just never ends.

Switch that around, love is awesome and makes up for most flaws.

I would rather lose my lover then be with a loser or in a loseing situation

Hard to say.

It depends. To love a looser sucks but, I lost a lover who died in my arms and nothing is worse. Nothing!

I agree with u, nothing's worse

I agree with that statement I would rather be married to a lousy lover with a great heart then a great lover with no heart .

I think it depends. Does loser mean like a bad person or a loser as in a nerd? Because if it's a bad person, yes, it's better to lose a lover than be stuck with a bad person for the rest of your life but if it's a "nerd" then quit being so judgmental.

loving a loser can cause ill reputable harm!!!

YES.

This kind of goes hand in hand with: "Its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved".

Some losers make awesome lovers... But not "keepers"... Nothing like friends with benefits at all

I'd rather not lose a lover, or love a loser. . .

Sure do.

Life is too short to waste your time on someone who doesn't deserve you.

Excellent choice of words