i just have a problem with that particular phrasing---here we are, all talking about ways to avoid damaging the self-esteem of women, and people come off with that "real" comment; i think its pretty safe to say that being told you're not "real" (translation: not "right") is pretty damaging. Now, the women in the pictures you posted may represent the AVERAGE woman, or the category that most women fall into, but thats not the same thing as saying that they are the "real" ones, as opposed to women that are thin. If we're going to be offended at insults given to women that damage self-esteem, we cant just consider it damaging if its directed to those over size 10.
Jo, the term "real" isn't meant in a bad way towards anyone... It is simply a way of saying "average" or more "typical", or a fairer representation... please excuse the use of that one word... and lease try to see it as a word, not a demeaning term...
i realize that, and I know I'm being very literal here, but I cant help it, and I think it IS meant to be derogatory in many cases; so many of the "real" sized women seem to have this resentment thing going on toward the smaller ones and it just isnt fair.
awwww....well thats very sweet of you, and like I said, I DO know how they mean it, but it still gets to me--its like they want to punish us for not being like the majority, and i just think thats wrong. I didnt do anything to be the size that I am, and there were times in my life that I tried to gain weight and couldnt:))
wow. I'm sure glad I don't rely on you for how I feel about myself. Not one woman in those pictures is chubby. I wear a size 6 pant and my tummy probably isn't as flat as some of theirs. Guess I just be really fat in your eyes. It's really sad that women judge each other so harshly.
i was just about to reply to the OP and say that! some people just don't understand that using that phrase against skinnier or thinner women can be just as hurtful.
we arent missing the point--what they mean is "average"---but they need to find a different term. why is ok to atually put down thin women but the PERCEIVED put down (nobody actually puts them down, they just assume that they're being put down when the women in magazines dont look like them---and that perception is THIER problem) of larger women is intolerable? Thin women are every bit as human as larger women, and deserve as much respect.
I choose not to over think things and make them more complicated then they actually are. I'll have to narrow my reply's so the one they were actually for receives them directly. I really don't care to get into an exhausting debate about what "real" women means to you, which I happen to not agree with. Now you are going to respond with either sarcasm/insult or a foot long paragraph containing both. Now I wait......
You think that just because a woman isn't overweight or near it that she isn't real? Thinking that is JUST as bad as condemning overweight girls. This kind of judgment goes both ways. Skinny girls are real women just as thicker ones are.
Thank you. I just get peeved when either extreme pulls the "Real woman" card because I've personally been on both ends. Shedding a positive light on a group of women shouldn't include negativity toward another. We should all just be accepting of one another's appearances.
I've only seen her pictures, LOL
But seriously,
I think she has a problem if she believes her body type represents the general public...
She wears a size 4, the average woman wears a 12-14...
Or the general public as she calls them....
thank you again, darlin!
I wear a size 11 jeans, but I'm not fat. I just got the curves, boobs and butt from my mom and her German side.
(PS: that's underwear they're wearing, not bathing suits.)
some people just don't understand that using that phrase against skinnier or thinner women can be just as hurtful.