Victoria Beckham Says Her Figure Represents the 'General Public': Does It?
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2012/03/31 00:57:19
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Chieki 2012/03/31 20:58:40
Keep telling yourself that North America.
Oh yeah, and REAL WOMEN come in many shapes and sizes. I don't think Jennifer Aniston is any less woman because she is physically fit and thin...
As for the real woman argument, I agree with you.Two wrongs don’t make a right. Real is a poor choice of word. Of course, real women come in all shapes, sizes, colors, etc…but this movement is not just about desirability but respectability. Women with longer leaner bodies are more respected than women with curvier and/or heavier bodies. Respect, meaning, they have the added advantage of being desired/seen as beautiful but not having the assumption made about you that you are trashy or lack competence.
I also agree that those begrudging that they need a lifestyle change should not deflect blame on those to whom it comes without much effort. Thing is, this issue is much larger than just weight or size; it’s also about shape, proportion and phenotype. The latter can determine your social status. For example, you are naturally thin, but you could have a DD chest and a bubble butt. That would make you an extremely curvy woman.
But a lot of the time when people say they are naturally thin, they also mean they have modest to no curves (AA to large B cup chest, non-tapered thighs, little hip to waist definition and no glutteal protrusion). This is called the ruler body shape, which can look effortlessly lean to emaciated because your metabolism is just that fast. People should neither have a problem with your body weight nor your shape. However, there is privilege associated with a certain weight and shape.
For many years, the ruler body shape was seen as the ideal, both in terms of respectability and desirability. W...
I also agree that those begrudging that they need a lifestyle change should not deflect blame on those to whom it comes without much effort. Thing is, this issue is much larger than just weight or size; it’s also about shape, proportion and phenotype. The latter can determine your social status. For example, you are naturally thin, but you could have a DD chest and a bubble butt. That would make you an extremely curvy woman.
But a lot of the time when people say they are naturally thin, they also mean they have modest to no curves (AA to large B cup chest, non-tapered thighs, little hip to waist definition and no glutteal protrusion). This is called the ruler body shape, which can look effortlessly lean to emaciated because your metabolism is just that fast. People should neither have a problem with your body weight nor your shape. However, there is privilege associated with a certain weight and shape.
For many years, the ruler body shape was seen as the ideal, both in terms of respectability and desirability. Women who are overweight were (and still are) seen as undesirable. Women who have too much curve (very protruding butt and breasts) were seen as trashy. Add it together and you have ugly plus trashy (physical undesirability combined with moral deficiency). Not a good place to be. This conundrum can affect what jobs are available to you, how much money you make, what dating pool you have access to, and even where you live.
Women who are naturally thin with a ruler shape/modest curves are no less real than other women, but they do have certain privileges. So, when women try to say you aren’t “real” what they really mean is that you are more sheltered from some hits to your sense of respectability as a woman, which may make you less able to cope when your self-esteem is attacked. The solution to this is you taking responsibility for yourself by nourishing your self-worth, and knowing that you are beautiful, desirable, and competent. You’ll soon see that you have more in common with those that attack you than you thought.