Transgender Banned from Miss Universe. Right or Wrong?

It’s pretty sad and gross that so many people are still judgmental jerks towards others that they do not even know. Don’t worry! There are a lot of resources for you to educate yourself. Here is a brief rundown of some simple things to remember:



1. Gender is fluid. That means that it can, and does change. It can seem like a slow change or a sudden change- or maybe it won’t change at all. It’s one of life’s mysteries! It is none of your business if someone’s gender suddenly shifts. Use the correct pronouns and move on.



2. Gender does not mean conforming to stereotypes. A male or androgynous person can wear dresses or like cute things, and they are still male or androgynous. Someone who identifies as female does not have to like dresses or cute things, and she is still female. Accept their preferences and interests and get over it.



3. If someone you know does not seem to fit into the norm for trans* people, it can be confusing or frustrating. If you think that your friend or acquaintance is just confused and not really the gender they identify as, if you think that they are just going through a phase, or if you believe that they only want attention, follow these simple steps to handle the situation:



Realize it is none of your business

Do not talk about how “obviously” fake their identity is

Use the correct pronouns and let them be happy with their life.

4. If someone you know seems to be confused with their gender, that’s okay. Not everyone can leap out of bed and declare themselves one gender or another and be sure of it. A changing gender and identity can be confusing, and it is perfectly okay to be unsure, to question oneself, and to go back and forth.



5. If a person does not appear to be the gender they identify as, that is also okay. An androgynous person might have a large chest or a large bulge. They are still androgynous, not a he or a she. Please respect them and use their preferred pronoun, not whatever pronoun you assume will work. Gender is not based on appearance, and you should not make assumptions on a person’s gender because of the way that they look.



6. Finally, please remember that no one’s gender is your business but your own. Do not push yourself into someone else’s space to tell them why they are wrong to identify as the gender that they do. Identity is a very personal thing, and you are not “solving” or “fixing” the other person by refusing to use their pronouns and insisting on disrespecting them.

Also!
there is a difference between

-having a penis
-being a male
-presenting as male

there is also a difference between

-having a vagina
-being female
-presenting as female

YOU CAN BE ANY COMBINATION OF THOSE!

you can be a transman who wears dresses! that’s okay! you don’t have to bind if you don’t want to.

you can be a transwoman who has a beard! that’s great!

your genitals do not determine your gender, and your gender does not determine what you wear or how you want to be seen by others.

I think that covers the basics! Now that you have a basic understanding, please get on with your life and be a little bit more respectful to people.